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Weekend Vibes, Edition No. 308: To a Daughter Leaving.

By: Jen Shoop

My Latest Snag: Cropped Cardigan.

My favorite purchase this week was this new cropped cable-knit sweater from J. Crew. It had sold out in my size but a few were restocked and I snagged one. Word on the street (have heard from several Magpies) is that you can size up in this style without losing the vibe. See how I’d style it here.

P.S. More fun sweaters here.

This Week’s Most Popular: Winter Finds.

01. MERIT THE MINIMALIST COMPLEXION STICK // 02. ENCLOSURE CARDS // 03. ROPE BIN // 04. PALAZZO JEANS // 05. TUCKER DINING CHAIRS // 06. SQUISHMALLOW // 07. SCALLOPED SWITCH PLATE // 08. CITIZENS CHARLOTTE JEANS // 09. PUFF SLEEVED MINI // 10. LONG SLEEVED WHITE TEE // 11. DRAWER ORGANIZER

Weekend Musings: To a Daughter Leaving.

I recently came across Linda Pastan’s poem, “To a Daughter Leaving Home,” and was reminded of my thoughts on my daughter’s convalescence from an infection. It felt very much like a “leaving and returning” at the time; I wrote:

“My daughter returned to me

a few days after the [antibiotics] regimen was complete, skittering on fawn-like legs, her radiant smile

a sunrise.

“She came from a long, long way,”

Carrying her arch asides, the wry twist of her mouth, the crescents of her laughing eyes,

As though life released from amber.

A small return, a frivolous one, to be sure,

But I am reminded all the same of the search for Persephone,

Of the way motherhood can sometimes feel like long division, interrupted joyously

by return.”

When I read Pastan’s poem, in which the speaker uses the experience of her daughter learning to ride her bike as a metaphor for mother-daughter separation later in life, I felt, viscerally, the words: “I kept waiting / for the thud / of your crash as I / sprinted to catch up, / while you grew smaller, more breakable / with distance.” The emotional cargo arrived before the semantic: the vision of my daughter’s shrinking, vulnerable figure bypassed my mind and went straight to the tenderest part of me. Pastan goes for the pith, doesn’t she? Because aren’t all mothers Demeter, walking to the ends of the earth in search of Persephone? Wounded and steeled by the separation?

P.S. There is so much in that myth that gets at the complexity of motherhood; though much of Greek mythology marginalizes the female voice (hence the spectacular achievement of Circe, one of my all-time favorite books), I am convinced mothers had a hand in shaping elements of the narrative of Demeter and Persephone.

Shopping Break.

+Naghedi vibes for less.

+Gorgeous LWD. Note that this brand runs large.

+MAIS J’ADORE.

+Has anyone tried this lip oil before? It’s apparently gone viral on TikTok…

+Cozy coatigan.

+My Daybreaks in a fun new all-camel colorway. I noticed that a bunch of you ordered these spendy Chloe sneaks, too! So fun — such great colors.

+Fun printed mini shirtdress.

+On my lust list for the upcoming season.

+Cutie side table. Love the color and bamboo motif.

+OK, how beyond adorable are these gingham rainboots for girls?

+Sunhouse just launched the cutest spring capsule for littles! I am loving this dress. Contemplating it for Easter for mini.

+These ruffled pouches would be a sweet gift for a little girl, or a cute way to stow hair ties/ribbons/etc.

+Agua Bendita vibes for less.

+Another sweet little dress for a little love.

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6 thoughts on “Weekend Vibes, Edition No. 308: To a Daughter Leaving.

  1. We have and love those dining chairs! But we got ours from Design Within Reach (were cheaper at the time than S&L). Pretty sure they’re exactly the same; if you search Ton Ironica chairs they should come up. Look like Williams Sonoma has some cheaper right now! Did I miss the post where you said you use them?

    1. So so chic! We do not have those; we have impractical upholstered Louis XIV style ones from Restoration Hardware that we regret frequently. (The children have destroyed them.)

      xx

      1. Hahahaha. I get it. I feel you. We have a rug under our kitchen table and there is only one question to ask for this design choice: Why?

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