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Last week, Landon took me out for a midweek lunch date after my annual and much-dreaded OBGYN exam. It was the perfect page turn after my disproportionate agita leading up to the (uneventful) appointment. We ate at Caribbean Grill, one of our favorite hole-in-the-wall spots in his hometown of Arlington, Virginia, and then picked up some groceries from the nearby Teeter. As we were walking into the store, he paused and said, “God, I have so many childhood memories right here.” I knew the exact sensation he was feeling, the accordioning of small remembrances; it’s the same way I feel anytime I drive or walk the stretch of Connecticut Avenue between the Cleveland Park and Van Ness metro stops. How many thousands of times did I tread that path? It feels, impossibly, like it belongs to me, as if it’s an extension of my specific and circumscribed experience growing up. No one else could possibly know those sidewalks like I do (of course people do). No one else has (of course people have) felt the exact backyard feeling of cutting through the alley to Upton Street on a hot August afternoon, when the asphalt radiates heat and city, and the cicadas are screaming, and the dense neighborhood trees hang heavy in the humidity. Then — the narrow streets lined with cars; the advertisements for the Levine School of music stapled to the telephone poles; that 1990s feeling of freedom. Finally, the steep walk down Tilden to my childhood home, a stone Tudor built in the 1920s, the descent entirely shaded by sylvan canopy and charm.
When my parents moved out of that house, I was away at college, distracted by my new boyfriend, and not particularly sentimental about their decision. One of my sisters took it hard, though, pleading with them to change their minds. I think I would have felt the loss more acutely had I been around to pack up my childhood bedroom, and shut the door to its imaginings.
When I think on it now, I think about the somatic experience of it: its peculiar sounds, and smells, and coldnesses. It was an old-fashioned house and I don’t encounter any of its signature sensory hallmarks on a regular basis anymore, and this lends a high-hazy nostalgia to it. For example, it had a screen door that scraped and then slammed too-fast on the heel and a marble checkerboard floor in the breakfast room that was heated in the winter by the enormous HVAC system just beneath it — not by design, I don’t think, but we made round use of its auxiliary benefit, laying our winter coats across it to dry or pre-warm. I think too of the mirrors that lined the entirety of the front hallway, from floor to ceiling: you could not escape your own study if you tried. And the carpeted “back steps” up to the second floor — the easiest way to sneak in and out undetected, always taken two at a time. There were gridded radiator covers built into the window beds, on which you could sit (not for long, or you’d boil) and watch the snow come down, and there was an apple blossom tree by the garage that rained petals in the early summer. Also: quirky hand-painted tiles around the sun room fire place, and a makeshift bed my Dad would lay out in front of it for the entirety of the fall and winter: two pillows, a blanket. That sun room smelled forever like wood smoke; even in the peak of summer, you’d emerge from watching a movie smelling of the hearth. The exposed, dollhouse feeling of that room on a rainy day still draws something soulful out of me when I think of it: three sides of it were enclosed by glass, and beyond it, foliage and a little jut of the gray flagstone back patio. The cold, damp earth smell of the basement. The sweep of the Georgian-style windows with their thin sashes and heavy iron sash locks, and their leniency with letting the cold air in. The swinging door between the dining room and the kitchen. The rose trellis. The narrow butler’s pantry where my grandfather made my grandmother gin martinis; the tinny sound of water pelleting the metal sink at its end. My father’s woodshed. The clang and terror of the furnace room. The click and whir of the rotary phone in the basement; the bell and clack of the companion typewriter in the attic. Pipes that ran very hot or very cold. Radiators that banged and hissed in the winter.
Yes, it was a somatic house, and out of keeping with the times. I was too young to understand it while living in it, but now I see that it belonged to a different generation, and I think because of that — because of its difference from all the modern homes in which my friends lived, and in which I have since dwelt — it afforded me an uncommon imaginative stretch. Just a tiny bit of cognitive dissonance, a scant slippage in which I’d find myself thinking often about things belonging to past lives, and wondering what those lives might have been like. I think in other words that my childhood home was an invitation to imagine, and full of small, quirky nooks in which to do it, like the built-in cubby in my bedroom, in which my younger sister or I would often curl up with a book.
How much of that house shaped my writerliness? How grateful I am for it.
What did you love about your childhood home? Do you carry anything from it with you into your adult life? Do you think it shaped you in a meaningful way?
Post-Scripts.
+Washington, DC and the parochial wild.
+Foods that take us back to our childhoods.
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Jen, you write so evocatively about DC and your childhood home & neighborhood that I also think of you every time I drive that stretch of Connecticut, and especially when I drive along Tilden Street. We moved to DC nearly two years ago, to a building near the Zoo, and my husband has gotten used to my offhand (parasocial?) references to your stories and recommendations.
My parents still live in my own childhood home, a 1910s colonial revival, and my family & bridesmaids got ready there before my wedding last November. It made for such a cosy, laidback morning, and it’s a joy to have pictures with my brothers in our backyard, or of coming down the same stairs where we spent so many Christmas mornings sitting waiting for my dad to get the camera set up. I feel like the house nurtured an appreciation for the steadfast comfort of older homes – the same vibe as a favorite sweatshirt, worn in all the right places. It’s easy to imagine the house as a backdrop for the thrum of daily life for the previous generations of residents. Similarly, our current apartment was built in the 1930s and I love thinking about all that’s gone on here before us – there are still so many original features, and it’s fun to imagine who else has turned these knobs or walked these floors.
I love these notes, and am SO delighted you live in that favorite stretch of Connecticut Ave, and that you understand its unique leafy magic.
The description of your childhood home is so charming — “like a favorite sweatshirt, worn in all the right places.” So cozy!
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Such beautiful writing, Jen. I felt like I was there walking the rooms of your house with you, taking in the details. Thank you for always sharing so deeply and with such poignant prose.
My parents bought a ramshackle, dilapidated mess in Brooklyn in the 1980’s and turned it into a home. I remember the warmth of the kitchen with it’s narrow cabinets, the the nooks and crannies in the dining and living rooms that I’d crawl into when I was little, and most notably, the sound of footfalls on the stairs to the basement and over the basement’s spare room – it always gave me pause!
Most notably, I remember all the windows they put in – especially the large bay window that played host to a Christmas village every year adjacent to a magnificent mahogany-stained staircase that led to the second floor. My father built the staircase and my mother stained it.
We moved away 26 years ago to the other side of the county, and I lost my mother 5 years ago. I miss the safety that that house gave me – both parents, my childhood, and so much blissful naivety – and miss my mother looking back at the staircase in photos. But knowing that they built such a beautiful sanctuary for our family by hand – that’s where the coziness of my memories lies, and it’s where I try to dwell most when I look back.
Thanks for the opportunity to explore and share this.
Thank you so much and — wow! What beautiful remembrances of your Brooklyn home and your parents in it. I could imagine the sound of the floorboards creaking and the vision of your mom on the steps she stained herself! Thanks for sharing this recoleta.
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My parents still live in a 1906 Queen Anne Victorian, and it shaped so much of my childhood. The fleur-de-lis stained glass window, splashing tinted light across the dining room. The high ceilings with metal tiles that I can see every time I close my eyes. The creaky original wooden floors that I know instinctively even now. The carpeted back steps (similar to your own childhood home!). Eating popsicles while sitting on the wide railing of the sweeping, wrap around front porch on sunny days; sitting on the porch swing with my dad during rain storms. Pulling honeysuckle blossoms from the bushes, admiring my mom’s cherished peonies, raking mountains of leaves from the maple trees every fall. What a gift old homes are, what a sense of history they hold!
I now live in a 1960 colonial so it has a very different vibe, but I love the cozy rooms, wood floors, and the lack of an open floor plan (controversial, I know!). Definitely all elements I learned to love in my childhood home!
Wow – love these details, especially the fleur-de-lis stained glass window “splashing tinted light.” Wow! That description tapped into memories of being in Church as a child!! Thanks for sharing all of this!
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Wow, your house sounds like a dream place to grow up! Besides the heating bill and maintenance but those are problems for the grown ups! I covet a house with a butlers pantry and back stairs (although I picture a center hall colonial rather than a Tudor). I’ve loved historic homes since I was in elementary and we did a walking tour of our city’s historic district and learned about Greek revival, italianate, Queen Anne, etc.
My parents still live in my childhood home (a small WWII-era cape cod) and we live just down the street (in a 1950s ranch). So I’m in and out of that house multiple times a week and haven’t had a chance to really miss anything about it! It definitely has its quirks though…the tiny galley kitchen with no dishwasher and the microwave on a cart at the bottom of the basement stairs due to lack of counter space. The original tile floor in the bathroom (no counter space in there either!). Tiny closets. The giant picture window from which my mom keeps an eye on the neighborhood. For many years we had masking tape hopscotch on the floor of the basement laundry room, swings in the side yard tree, a tire swing and treehouse in the backyard. In addition to washing dishes by hand, I also remember being sent out of the car to open and close the garage door until we got an automated door opener sometime in the 90s. No a/c until the 90s either, except a window unit for my parents’ room. Maybe that’s why I still prefer open windows and fans to this day!
Oh I love these descriptions, especially the microwave on the cart in the basement — my in-laws have this arrangement, too, and it always struck me as so lived-in and cozy? I can’t explain why. And I love the masking tape hopscotch on the laundry room floor! These are beautiful.
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Love this, Jen ❤️
Thank you so much!! xx
This was gorgeous – I was captivated by your sensory, evocative descriptions of your home. It reminded me of The Dutch House and I realized writings about houses is one of my favorite subgenres (all ears for recommendations if anyone has other favorite writings on home!). I grew up in a 90s Cape but would have loved to have grown up in an old home. The broader setting of my childhood – a coastal Maine village – shaped me more than the physical house, I think.
Thank you so much — treasuring this compliment more than you know!
I love your insight that the broader setting of your childhood home shaped you more than the actual home. Such a fascinating thing to notice!! Tell us more! How?
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