There was a big to-do about poet Rita Dove while I attended the University of Virginia from 2002-2006. She was a tenured professor there, but she had just been named Poet Laureate of Virginia (after being named Poet Laureate of the U.S. about a decade prior), and I remember there being a kind of hallowed hush about her in the corridors of Bryant Hall, home of the English Department, which aptly overlooks the amphitheatre just off The Lawn. I say “aptly” because Bryant Hall, in other words, countenances — hosts, courts! — performance, which is more or less what I learned to do while studying literature there. Pursuing English at the University of Virginia pronated me toward experiencing art in new, more open ways.

Anyhow, I guess I was not yet fully pronated, as one of my big academic regrets — aside from shying away from collegiate-level coursework in mathematics — is not finding a way to take or at least audit one of Professor Dove’s courses. College is such a ridiculous glut of intellectual richness. Had I been more disciplined, or more aware of how quickly the experience would end, I could have simply walked into one of her lectures and taken the course “for free.” Just listened. Just sat in the presence of one of the great poets of our generation.

I am pleased, however, that I had the foresight to attend a poetry reading by Seamus Heaney held in a small white church off Rugby Road in 2005. The evening is forever imprinted on my memory. It was standing room only, and you could have heard a pin drop, so entranced were we by the incantatory rhythm of his voice, the way it turned sing-song, then muckish. I still consider that path-crossing one of the greatest experiences of my intellectual life. I was electrified; I still am.

I am electrified, in a different way, by this poem by Rita Dove, which is as good a reminder as any that “nothing changes if nothing changes.” Each day is a second chance, an empty page; get up and go. Or, as we fashion it here: “Onward, Magpies–!” I can almost smell those prodigal biscuits…!

DAWN, REVISITED

By Rita Dove

Imagine you wake up

with a second chance: The blue jay

hawks his pretty wares

and the oak still stands, spreading

glorious shade. If you don’t look back,

the future never happens.

How good to rise in sunlight,

in the prodigal smell of biscuits –

eggs and sausage on the grill.

The whole sky is yours

to write on, blown open

to a blank page. Come on,

shake a leg! You’ll never know

who’s down there, frying those eggs,

if you don’t get up and see.

Post-Scripts.

+You can hear Professor Dove read the poem herself here. 90% of the time, I enjoy listening to the poets read their own work, and find the audio experience additive. There is a small sliver that ruin the experience for me — ha!

+Every morning, a million miracles are born.

+Imprints of a new lifestyle.

+Onward…!

Shopping Break.

+This adorable reversible puffer coat is on sale for under $120.

+For your dino-loving toddler.

+A chic cropped puffer to throw on over athletic garb.

+A great pair of dressy pants — under $125.

+Ordering one of these pima “sweatshirts.” Have you worn any of Alice Walk’s tees? They are made of this divinely soft and stretchy pima cotton and I imagine the sweatshirt is like that, but a tad heavier weight. Love the length for throwing on over leggings. I got it in the ice blue but also love the two gray shades!

+Shh: these are still my favorite everyday bra. I love the racerback so I’m never pushing straps up my arm (this happens in button-downs especially!)/fidgeting, and the seamless stretchy material is SO comfortable. I won’t wear these underneath anything super-fitted because I prefer more…shape — for more fitted tops, I still wear the Natori Feathers, which I find the most comfortable of the underwire type.

+Fellow anticipators, unite — now is a good time to buy one of these classic Easter baskets (have it monogrammed!) such that it arrives in plenty of time.

+This coatigan is perfect for an expecting-to-postpartum mama. Love anything that cinches above the bump and then you can layer over nursing tanks and leggings after baby comes but still look pulled together.

+These Tevas-inspired sandals for littles are adorable.

+Cute winter boots at a fab pricepoint.

+OK, these high-waisted sleep pants look like heaven.

+The kind of graphic tees I can get behind for my son.

+Why not have fun with your sunglasses? Such a funky color!

+Wish I had a baby girl to buy this bubble for!

+Wow (!!) — drooling over this chocolate brown linen dress.

+These scalloped tennis shorts are so cute!

popular winter 2023 fashion

ORIGO SHOES. I was excited to learn about this recently-launched footwear brand — minimalist styling, great colors, and attentiveness to functionality. The founder, Cristina, generously sent micro a pair of their velcro canvas sneakers (seen above, with Minnow canvas pants), and wrote passionately about their design in an email to me: “Barefoot or minimalist shoes are great for kids and the correct development of their feet.  In fact, we learned about them through our daughter; she walked at 22 months and was able to do so only barefoot.  Usually when kids find these types of shoes, they do not want to take them off.  They can feel the surfaces and flex their feet for grip when they are playing, or climbing rocks or hills, for example.  Since these shoes allow for more space than regular shoes, the child’s feet develop as they should.” Necessity is the mother of invention, as they say! Love the impetus behind these shoes. And I have to say — my son has *only* worn these shoes since he got his feet in them! You can get 10% off your order with code MAGPIE.

MARYSIA SWIMSUIT. Marysia is running an incredible sale on select swimsuits — the gorgeous sunshine-yellow one is marked down to $111 (orig $369!). I currently have it and this rash guard for mini in my cart. My favorite swimsuit (I own in black) is also marked way down!

CARRIE SOTO IS BACK. Currently reading on the recommendation of one of my O.G. Magpies, whom I had the pleasure of getting to know from a short-lived in-person book club we participated in back in NYC, pre-pandemic. She said she couldn’t put it down, and thought it was a notch above your standard chick-lit — which sounded just right for me as I try to get back into a reading routine. Description: “An epic adventure about a female athlete perhaps past her prime, brought back to the tennis court for one last grand slam.” Very easy — compulsively easy — to read. It flies and I anticipate finishing within a week. I will be reading Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow next on the recommendation of many Magpies. Will report back on both! (And thanks, as always, for the fantastic suggestions.)

FLEECE BELT BAG. This under-$25 belt bag has been my best friend lately. I especially love it when taking Tilly for walks — can tuck my phone and AirPod holster in there and walk hands-free while talking to my mom or listening to a podcast. It’s adorable in the chocolate brown.

THE MENU. (Streaming on HBOMax.). I went into this movie knowing absolutely nothing about it — had heard nothing, had read nothing, didn’t even know what genre it was — but Ralph Fiennes is usually a portent of good things, and I gathered enough from the cover photo and positive Rotten Tomatoes rank that we just dove in. And oh my gosh — a complete shock! I don’t know that I *liked* it (high-stress, violent, a lot of snark/negativity), but I was riveted and on the edge of my seat the entire time. I can’t remember the last time I gasped out loud multiple times over the course of a movie! The premise: “A young couple travels to a remote island to eat at an exclusive restaurant where the chef has prepared a lavish menu, with some shocking surprises.” There is startling heft to this movie — some interesting provocations about food and the food industry, consumerism, and authenticity. Mr. Magpie and I unpacked it for a good thirty minutes after it ended.

ALICE WALK ALPACA SWEATER. Still getting so much wear out of this classic cream alpaca sweater. I paired it with my white denim from Pistola (runs TTS — very stretchy) earlier this week for a winter white moment.

JASON WU DRESS. I just can’t…stop…thinking about this hot pink ditty. It is absurdly discounted, from almost $4,000 down to under $800. I keep wondering if I should buy it for an end-of-summer wedding? My birthday?! Eep! The color is delightful and on-trend, and the shape so interesting. A few other fabulous formal/cocktail dresses I’m loving…

THIS LUG VON SIGA

THIS LA DOUBLE J

THIS AUTUMN CASHMERE

ARIANNE ELMY

SALONI

TULIPIERE. My MIL gifted me two beautiful white artichoke-shaped tulipieres for Christmas and I’m obsessed with them. I’ve always admired her set, and now I have them proudly displayed on our family room bookshelves. Also looking forward to using them for their intended purpose (to house tulips) come spring.

FAMILY GAMES. During the week between Christmas and New Year’s, we played a lot of this version of Go Fish and Eye Found It with the children. I love that both are simple enough for my three year old son to play, but also entertaining for adults. While the children were preoccupied, Mr. Magpie played many rounds of Azul, a strategy game that is equal parts maddening and addictive. He and I love to play a quick round of something on weekend mornings while drinking our coffee (and children are watching cartoons). We’ve also enjoyed Jaipur and Patchwork — all three are great two-player strategy games that can be played in about 30 minutes/round, which is a must for us with young children around. We rarely get through a full round without multiple disruptions, but that’s OK.

BRIGHTS. I have been wearing a lot of brights lately — you can see me above in a hot pink sweater (mine is old J. Crew, similar here and also love this one), my Pam Munson tote, an Espacio bead bracelet, and my Nike Daybreaks (<<on sale for under $60 here). I’m also carrying my Goyard-inspired iPhone case in two snaps above and it is my most-asked-about accessory! Mine is from an Etsy shop that no longer exists, but this one is very similar.

LIBER ORGEAT SYRUP. Mr. Magpie put this cocktail ingredient in my stocking for Christmas, and we’ve been mixing up batches of Mai Tais with it! Orgeat is an almond syrup that Mr. Magpie once went through the hassle of making from scratch but it was REALLY labor-intensive and it went bad quickly. He’d read that this small, Texas-based business makes legit syrups/flavorings/cocktail ingredients, and it’s lived up to the hype. Another great cocktail idea for a tiki party / retro cocktail party.

*Image via Nina Blanc.

My Latest Snag: Heart Sweater for Valentine’s Day.

I will be sharing some really cute Valentine’s Day finds for us and littles early next week, but had to share this $25 steal — so fun and I love the La Ligne-esque broad ribbed collar. I’ll pair with my favorite jeans and Nike Daybreaks (which I found on sale for under $60 here).

This Week’s Most Popular: Winter Finds.

popular winter fashion finds

01. SLEEPER JACKET — 20% OFF WITH CODE YOUROCK

02. IPHONE CASE

03. RIBBED METALLIC DRESS — ON SALE FOR UNDER $30

04. LITTLE ENGLISH WHIPSTITCH TRIM JACKET

05. EMBELLISHED FLATS

06. MY FAVORITE SKINNIES – RUN TTS

07. WIRE KITCHEN BASKETS

08. OLAPLEX BOND SMOOTHER — MAKES FOR THE BEST (!) BLOWOUT AND REDUCES DRYING TIME

09. TKEES SANDALS — ON SALE FOR $33 + GO WITH EVERYTHING

10. SEA MAXI DRESS

11. HUNZA G ONE PIECE — A MAGPIE READER FAVORITE! — 20% OFF WITH CODE YOUROCK

12. BLACK STATEMENT ONE PIECE SWIMSUIT

13. ARTICHOKE TULIPIERE

14. BEAR SWEATSHIRT

15. GINGHAM JOGGERS

16. MONOGRAMMED POUCHES

Weekend Musings: Let Them Be Wrong about You.

I had an interesting exchange with a Magpie earlier this week in response to my post on reducing the noise associated with petty frustrations. We were talking about the hurt and exasperation born of being underestimated/misunderstood/dismissed in a professional setting. I have not been in a traditional workplace for years now, but I do have experience with this in a slightly different modality. I have now worked in four different entrepreneurial/start-up settings, and there is something about entrepreneurial endeavors that invites unsolicited — though often well-intended — advice from…everyone. We called it “mentor whiplash” back in my start-up incubator days, and the general wisdom from the trenches was to “listen to all, accept little.” Approach it like data: if patterns in feedback emerge, there might be something interesting to pursue. If not, move on. But it was very difficult for me to sit still and quiet while accepting the Monday morning quarterbacking that I tended to receive from not only mentors but relatives, hair dressers, neighbors, customers, old friends. “Oh, you should have built on Ruby on Rails,” or “Why didn’t you start with a smartphone app?” or “You need to be partnering with x” or or or. I always bristled at the subtext; those comments implied that I had not known to contemplate such options. Truthfully, sometimes I had not. But often, I had. I would splutter in defense. “Oh, yeah, we tried that but –” and “Actually, Ruby doesn’t work well with –” Over time, I realized I was burning a lot of energy defending my “chops” as an entrepreneur to people who were more or less immaterial to the success of my work at the time. Opinions are free; everyone has them. You can spend your entire life battling them, swatting at them, disproving them. One day, I read the quote: “Let people be wrong about you. You have nothing to prove.” Something unlocked in me. I realized it was much better to keep my head down, put one foot in front of the other, conserve my energy for my actual work. I could either worry about what they thought of me, or I could worry about building something I believed in. I had to hope that the proof would be in the pudding.

It’s interesting, the way different aspects of my life have threaded together to yield analogous insights. As a writer, I have had to learn to be comfortable with being misread and misunderstood by my audience. I have to accept that once I publish something, it is no longer mine. It belongs to you, the reader, who will bring your own narrative and own experience to whatever I’ve put on the page. I just need to hope that (and continuously aim for improvement such that) my writing is clear enough to communicate some element of truth, or beauty, or longing, or what have you. So too in a pair of recent insights in the relationship realm: 1) not everything that weighs you down is yours to carry; and 2) you cannot control the reactions of others. The commonality across these creative, professional, and relationship insights: People will be wrong about you. Let them. Trust your intentions and hope that those will shine through.

Shopping Break.

+Kule is running a warehouse sale! My favorite striped tees (modern long — details/full review here) are included in the sale in some really fun colors. Mr. Magpie also loves their rugbys as an alternative to polos! (And how fun is this tote for a new boy mom?)

+It’s cold season — my children have been sleeping with a humidifier for the last few weeks to help with congestion/coughs. We have this one from Crane but I love the compactness and styling of this one from Canopy.

+A Magpie recently raved about these heavy-duty “morning tees” from Ayr and now I think I need one, oversized, for pairing with leggings while walking Tilly.

+PSSST – a little birdie told me that starting this morning at 10:30, Jane Win will be running an epic winter sale, with some pieces 50% off. Worth setting your clock for! A few of my favorites from that brand are here.

+Every woman needs a saucy black jumpsuit. (I have this one and am planning to wear to dinner next weekend!)

+This lady jacket/sweater hybrid is cute.

+Love this sophisticated lug soles.

+Hunza G, on sale for 50% off!

+For your little Valentine.

+Love the silhouette of these ecru jeans. (Pair with an off-white sweater!)

+Tempted by this CeliaB dress, marked down from almost $600 to $141.

+Adorable Minnow-esque swimsuit for a little love for $12.

+Love these throw pillows as a fresh update for your couch.

+We have begun talking about taking a trip to Disney with our children in 2024, and…do I need to buy some of the StoneyClover x Disney merch now in prep?!

+Speaking of Stoney Clover — get the look for less with these.

*Image via Toteme, featuring their fabulous fuzzy sweater on sale here.

Easy wardrobe update: a new sweater or two to help you through the January slump.

Bright Sweaters for 2023.

bright sweaters 2023

01. RAINBOW STITCH STRIPE

02. HEART CARDIGAN

03. TEXTURED CABLE-KNIT (UNDER $30!)

04. BIRDS OF PARADIS FAIR ISLE

05. COS FAIR ISLE (UNDER $100)

06. HEART INTARSIA — $25 AND I HAD TO BUY IT FOR MYSELF FOR VALENTINE’S DAY!

07. BA&SH KNIT RAINBOW CARDIGAN (ON SALE!)

08. RED AND WHITE STRIPE CARDI — $120, PLUS 20% OFF WITH CODE YOUROCK

09. MADEWELL FAIR ISLE

10. BODEN CABLE KNIT — LOVE THE SHAPE AND COLOR

11. FARM RIO CARDI

12. LA LIGNE MARIN SWEATER

Neutral Sweaters for 2023.

If you’re not as into the brights trend, I’ve got some fabulous neutrals/browns/taupes to contemplate…

NEUTRAL SWEATERS 2023

01. GAP CABLEKNIT

02. MADEWELL RUFFLE SWEATER — LOOKS LIKE ULLA OR SEA

03. SHAWL COLLAR SWEATER — IN MY CLOSET!

04. TORY BURCH TINSEL SWEATER — OBSESSED WITH THIS TEXTURED/FUZZY SWEATER TREND

05. H&M TEXTURED SWEATER

06. TOTEME SWEATER — ON SALE

07. STRIPED TEXTURED KNIT CARDIGAN — IN MY CART; THIS AND THE BELOW ARE DEAD RINGERS FOR CELINE BUT UNDER $200

08. BROWN TEXTURED CARDIGAN

P.S. More wardrober refreshers.

P.P.S. Or, perhaps it is a thanatopsis.

P.P.P.S. This or that?

Just before Christmas, we hosted a little retro-style cocktail party. The theme was born of Kacey Musgraves’ Christmas special, which is delightfully kitschy (who does Christmas shows anymore?), and though not all of the fare and details were authentically “retro,” the result was a quirky throwback vibe. We served up espresso martinis (Mr. Magpie made his own coffee liqueur using the America’s Test Kitchen recipe) in these gorgeous vintage-style martini glasses generously gifted by Hammett, seen below.

espresso martini

But I also think a classic club cocktail like a Tom Collins (complete with orange-maraschino cherry “flag” as garnish) would be perfection. Do not bother buying bottled Tom Collins mix — I honestly have no idea what’s in there. A Tom Collins is more or less a lemonade spiked with gin, and easy to make. I’m sharing my recipe with lots of overly nitpicky details below, followed by my menu!

Magpie Tom Collins Recipe.

2 oz Hendricks gin

1 oz freshly squeezed lemon juice*

3/4 ounce simple syrup**

Schweppes club soda***

garnish: 1 orange crescent and maraschino cherry (we love the ones from Luxardo) flag

  1. Fill a highball glass with ice (love these — though we usually use our similarly-shaped Watson cooler glasses for these) and place in the the freezer. I love a frosted, icy glass.
  2. Short shake all ingredients except club soda in a cocktail shaker. “Short shake” means you only use a few ice cubes (we usually use three per serving) versus filling up the entire shaker with ice, and you do not shake the ingredients as long as you typically would (when making most cocktails, we typically try to shake for a full 13 seconds — so maybe go for about half that time, or six seconds, when short shaking for a Tom Collins). These instructions sound finicky but they do impact the result — typically, shaking for 13 seconds with a shaker full of ice will dilute the cocktail with melted/chipped ice, which is the goal for many cocktails, but in this case, you are going to be diluting the Tom Collins with a club soda float so you don’t want to water your base down too much. The goal should be a quick mix and chill.
  3. Strain into highball using a cocktail strainer. Top with club soda to fill the glass.
  4. Garnish with orange crescent and maraschino cherry, skewered by a cocktail pick.
  5. Serve with a straw. We love these.

*A small note, but I like to squeeze my lemons using a hand press and then strain my lemon juice through a small sieve so you catch all the pulp/seeds.

**Do not buy bottled simple syrup. Simply place equal measures (by weight, using a kitchen scale) of ultra-fine sugar and hot water in a Pyrex measuring cup and stir until the sugar has dissolved. If you cannot find ultra-fine sugar (sometimes hard for us to come by), you can just place sugar into a food processor and whir until you achieve a finer grain. We then decant the simple syrup (and other syrups — we also make ginger syrup, cinnamon bark syrup, demarara syrup, and a few others we like for cocktails) into these squeeze bottles we keep in our fridge.

***Any brand will do, of course, but I do like the Schweppes that comes in small glass bottles because you can screw the top on and preserve for use later. I never go through a full can of club soda so this feels less wasteful.

Additional cocktail gear notes: These angled jiggers are the absolute best for measuring cocktail ingredients. They are designed so you can see the amount you’ve poured from a birds-eye view / you don’t need to lift it to see how much you’ve poured in. Fantastic because you are often measuring such small increments of ingredients! We use the weighted shaker top and bottom from Koriko – widely considered the best – and this cocktail strainer that fits perfectly over the mouth.

Magpie Retro Cocktail Party Menu.

PIGS IN A BLANKET — I used Trader Joe’s pastry puffs, brushed them with egg wash, and sprinkled with Trader Joe’s everything bagel seasoning. Served with Grey Poupon’s Rich Country mustard.

SWEDISH MEATBALLS — I used America’s Test Kitchen recipe. These were SO good but honestly a a bit of a hassle to make, as you deep fry the meatballs in batches and it took forever and fry oil never smells…great.

CHEX MIX — I use the recipe on the back of the chex box, but add Old Bay seasoning and round up on all seasonings by maybe 1/8th to amplify the flavor.

MIXED NUTS — Just the classic Planters mix. Does anyone realize how delicious a salted cashew is? Yum. I love having bar snacks out and easily available from any perch in the house, so nuts and chex mix are great options here.

SHRIMP COCKTAIL — I swear by Ina’s cocktail sauce recipe (it’s heavy handed on the horseradish, which I love), and Mr. Magpie does some kind of crazy ninja cooking magic by poaching the shrimp in court bouillon. Serious Eats has a guide to how to prepare cocktail shrimp in this method here. It results in the most flavorful, perfectly cooked shrimp you will ever eat.

A few other suggestions I considered: deviled eggs, Grandma Carm’s ranch crackers, pimento cheese dip, club crackers wrapped in bacon and toasted until crispy in the oven (my mom used to make those!), cheese straws, fondue, The Rounds cheese biscuits.

Magpie Retro Cocktail Party Accoutrements.

I used pearl cocktail picks for the swedish meatballs — such a fun touch! — and placed the bar snacks in a three-part server like this. I also just added etched glass nut bowls to my collection and they would be perfect, too. We used Caspari Christmas cocktail napkins because of the season, but I am in love with cheeky embroidered linen cocktail napkins like these.

retro cocktail party accessories

01. MME MINK SOCIETY JACKET

02. DEEPA GURNANI EARRINGS

03. COCKTAIL PARTY INVITATIONS — ALSO MAKES A SMARTPHONE TEMPLATE!

04. CLUB POUR ONLY NAPKINS

05. HAMMETT HIGHBALL GLASSES

06. PINEAPPLE COCKTAIL TUMBLER

07. ALEXANDRE BIRMAN HEELS

08. COCKTAIL PICKS

09. JONATHAN ADLER BAR CART

10. CHILL PILL COCKTAIL NAPKINS

11. GUCCI LIPSTICK

12. HAMMETT MARTINI GLASSES

13. HAMMETT MARTINI PITCHER

14. PEARL COCKTAIL PICKS

15. JENNIFER BEHR EARRINGS

16. TALLER MARMO FEATHER TRIM GOWN

17. ETCHED GLASS STACKING NUT BOWLS

18. FOOTED CHAMPAGNE BOWL

19. BOSKA FONDUE SET

20. MICHELLE WILHITE CLUTCH

21. THE ROUNDS CHEESE BISCUITS

22. VODKA DECANTER

23. WATERFORD OLD FASHIONED GLASSES

24. HARRISON ROUND SERVING TRAY

P.S. Two other more unique cocktails I love here and here.

P.P.S. Feathered fashion.

P.P.P.S. Notes on entertaining.

*Image via Modern Nest.

Below, a chic moodboard for home decor for the new year centering around neutrals with brass finishes and accents — some very reasonably priced!

neutral and brass home decor

01. LINEN ARMCHAIR

02. PENDANT

03. LULU AND GEORGIA EVET RUG

04. ROUND LAMP

05. DRIED PALM

06. ORCHARD BLOOM RUG

07. MATCH STRIKE

08. RAFFIA LEG COFFEE TABLE

09. SISTER PARISH PILLOW

10. ABSTRACT ART

11. BRASS LUCKY HORSESHOE

12. MCGEE + CO PRUDENCE CHAIR

13. TULIPIERE

14. WOVEN OTTOMAN

15. TABLE LAMP

16. HUGHES DINING CHAIR

17. GRASSCLOTH CONSOLE DESK

18. BRASS BOXES

19. DOUBLE SCONCE

20. COLUMN LAMP – UNDER $150!

21. PARSONS CHAIR

22. BRASS FRAME

23. BEMELMANS BAR MATCHBOOK PRINT

24. ARCHED LEG GRAY COFFEE TABLE — CAN’T BELIEVE THE PRICE ON THIS SHAPELY BEAUTY

25. SCONCE

26. TEXTURED DINING CHAIR

27. BRASS DRUM END TABLE

P.S. Home office upgrades.

P.P.S. Another batch of home finds — all under $100.

P.P.P.S. How my husband’s dresser became a metonymy for love.

Q: A dress for my 30th birthday dinner. Spending the weekend at the Salamander in February with my husband and three-month-old. Ideally $200 or less. It’s been so hard to find a classic but fun winter moment. It doesn’t necessarily have to be nursing friendly but definitely can’t do strapless.

A: Happy birthday! Wow! I would wear something fun and festive like this pink toile Rhode, this hot pink maxi, this patterned Farm Rio, this boho Free People, or this asymmetrical statement (which I saw on my friend Lauren — looked fab). If you’re looking for something a little less bold on the pattern front, check out this gorgeous black Swiss dot style, this embellished Cleobella, or this above-budget La Ligne.

Q: Affordable yet put-together postpartum loungewear.

A: I absolutely LOVE this lounge set from Lake. Insanely soft but streamlined/chic. Layer a nursing tank beneath and you’re golden. I’m also digging the Victorian ghost vibe of wearing a floaty nightgown from Doen, Hill House, or If Only If. Otherwise, Lululemon align leggings with boxy oxfords and fun cardigans (also love this) over nursing tanks. Personally, wearing something monochromatic or in shades of the same color usually helps me feel pulled together…so another idea would be layering some stretchy ribbed leggings with an oversized fleece or cardigan in the same color family. I also personally lived in this Cleobella set (which I owned in like three colors) while pregnant and while nursing between the hours of 5 pm and 7 am. The belt gives you a nice shape! (Also loveeeeed these ultra-soft Gap nursing nightgowns — great if you have a c-section and want nothing close to the incision. I even wore in the hospital with my second.)

Q: Post-Christmas decor sales for Christmas 2023!

A: Schoolhouse has some fantastic finds on sale from their holiday collection, like this candle carousel and these ornaments. Terrain also has some adorable ornaments, currently on sale plus an extra 40% off with code EXTRASALE. Love these polka dot glass ornaments and this woodland bird.

Q: Dressier coat for cold and rainy weather.

A: Check out the dressy rain coat styles from Jane Post — especially love this one! — or Canada Goose’s Marlowe style, or any of the ones from Max Mara’s technical line (all waterproof and insulated), like this or this.

Q: Chic, low-profile sneaker (not white or bright) for an upcoming Italian excursion.

A: I really love Loewe’s flow sneaker and I feel like they are PERFECT for a European trip. For something more reasonably price, you might try these from Rothy’s, these from Madewell, or these from Vince.

Q: Not wardrobe, but home decor/furnishings for our first home.

A: Congratulations! My personal advice is to go slow and steady, collecting items over time, stretching out the investment process so it’s more comfortable financially, and noticing your needs and the way you use your home as you live in it over time. I prefer the eclectic, lived-in look versus “I bought everything at once from one place.” I mean, we are currently living without a headboard in our primary bedroom (!) because we upgraded to a king and moved our queen mattress and headboard into the guest bedroom — but outfitting our primary bedroom is not a priority at the moment. We are choosing to focus on the areas that we use and entertain in the most: for us, the first floor of the house (kitchen, family room, formal living room, den). I’d rather slowly and perfectly outfit those areas versus buy a ton of stuff all at once that we maybe don’t love or that we “settle on” to meet a budget. Anyhow, for the family room, I would recommend buying a neutral sofa that you can update from time to time with fun designer pillows (like these and these) and throw blankets; a big area rug that you love; fun lighting (Oka currently has some fabulous styles on sale, like this); a large coffee table; and a pair of chic end tables (we are ordering these for our family room). For decor, I find this is where you can get really creative — decorate with books! use budget-friendly trays from Target! scout out vintage ceramics from Etsy! frame cherished notes/recipes/receipts with large mat frames! For the kitchen, chic stools and great pendant lighting for over the counter (we bought these).

Q: Perfect coat for Milan in April. No wool or cashmere.

A: Max Mara does great transitional coats like this — chic, not too heavy, easy to later. A classic trench would also be fabulous — Burberry is of course iconic, or get the look for less with this or this or this. Also love Ganni’s long quilted style and still live in my Everlane liner coat, and this Gap coat is fabulous!

Q: Sister’s Puerto Vallarta bachelorette in March.

A: Oh so fun! My recent resortwear post might be a good starting point, but here are a few FUN, festive, celebratory pieces to contemplate:

FARM RIO

CELIAB

ALEXIS

TUCKERNUCK

ARIANNE ELMY

AMUR

LOVE THE LABEL

Q: Dress for black tie wine tasting in French countryside in June.

A: !!!! Can I have your life?! Are you Emily in Paris? How fabulous! I love…this frothy confection, this Ulla J, this Ganni, this Alice + Olivia, this Markarian, this Saylor, or this Rebecca Valence.

Q: Snow boots.

A: Sorel makes great ones — I like these if you’re into black and these if you’re not.

P.S. More of what you’re shopping for: these seven items have been VERY popular among us Magpies this week.

I have begun to look for some new pieces for my childrens’ mid-winter wardrobes and have been drawn to all things neutral for a change?

neutral toddler fashion

01. POM VEST

02. SWEATER KNIT LEGGINGS

03. SHERPA BOOTS

04. DOUBLE POM BEANIE

05. WAFFLE TEDDY BEAR ONESIE

06. DONSJE BOOTS

07. RIBBED TURTLENECK

08. DOUBLE POM HAT

09. NEUTRAL HAIRBOW SET

10. RIBBED LEGGINGS

11. SHEARLING BOOTS

12. TURTLENECK

13. SHEARLING JACKET

14. BOW SHEARLING BOOTS

15. FAIR ISLE SWEATER

16. ICE SKATES SWEATSHIRT

17. RIB KNIT HAT

18. GINGHAM JOGGERS

19. WARM LINED BOOTS

20. SHERPA FLEECE VEST

21. SMILEY BEANIE

22. BORN TO BE WILD SWEATSHIRT

23. RIBBED LEGGING SET

24. NIKES

25. FAIR ISLE SWEATER

26. FLEECE VEST

P.S. Quiet thoughts on parenting.

P.P.S. In the quiet and bare.

P.P.P.S. Recent Amazon finds.

We watched “The Banshees of Inisherin” (at the top of the movie watching shortlist I shared earlier this week) a few days ago and I was deeply moved by it. The movie tells the story of two friends in a remote Irish town in the 1920s, and the sad and complicated ripple effect of one’s abrupt decision that he no longer wants to be a part of their friendship. There is a lot to digest in the film, which toggles jarringly but deftly between humor and tragedy, and there are enough references to Ancient Greek theater (masks, the figure of the elderly female “fate”) to suggest that we are talking in tropes, treading on the allegorical. There are deep wells from which to draw when contemplating the historical setting of the movie (just after Ireland had become a nation-state and launched its seemingly eternal civil war), the motif of depression (self-isolation, self-injury, etc), and the complexities of male relationships/friendships (one of my friends smartly observed: “you don’t see or hear much about male friendships in contemporary culture”). But I was principally fixated on the way the movie put pressure on contemporary mores around self-centricity. It feels to me as though the current zeitgeist implores me to put my own needs first from a mental wellness standpoint. Protect your energy; set boundaries; know what you need to recharge; don’t be afraid of saying no or asking for what you need; etc. I have subscribed to all of these with alacrity, and have reinforced them many times on this blog, too. But I have long felt flustered at the blurry line between “taking care of myself” and acknowledging that I am also a part of my community, and that sometimes, people lean on us in ways that — though taxing — represent opportunities to do the right thing. I am thinking specifically of a lopsided friendship from my past: a girlfriend who needed me more than I needed her. It feels callous to write that out, and perhaps I was (am) blind to the ways in which she enriched my life, but that is how I felt. For years, I accommodated her. I traveled with her; I said “yes” to invitations; I answered her calls and texts. But I felt that I was performing the friendship much of the time, and that truth — though difficult to write — sat uncomfortably with me. At some point, life grew increasingly complicated and the amount of time I had for that relationship dwindled and I inelegantly bowed out. “I’m putting my needs first,” I thought. “I’m focusing my time and energy on the relationships and activities that matter most to me,” I said.

But — ?

What is right in that context?

In “The Banshees,” the protagonist’s sister (played mesmerizingly by Kerry Condon — a revelation!) confronts the friend who has abruptly shattered the longterm friendship by saying, incredulously, “it’s just not nice!” Later, the protagonist (played beautifully and somewhat startlingly by Colin Farrell) and the friend get into an argument in which the friend insists he has withdrawn from their friendship because he gets nothing from it and would rather focus the diminishing ballast of his time on earth producing art — something that will leave a lasting legacy. “No one remembers someone who’s kind — people remember Mozart,” he says (I’m paraphrasing). The friend pins “kindness” against “artistic solipsism” — you can’t have it both ways, he suggests. Farrell’s character replies that he remembers the people who are kind in his life, and that’s all that matters.

What emerges for me is the reminder that people rely on the kindness of others. When it is withdrawn, societies collapse! We see the effects in this small Irish village, where this seemingly small disruption to the community (one abandoned friendship!) leads to a suicide, a maiming (graphic), the death of an animal, the departure of the protagonist’s sister from the village, and many other unkindnesses.

I don’t have an answer to any of this, but the provocation piques. At what point does being “nice” become a kind of injustice? No one wants to be a charity case, and no one wants to spend time in a relationship that feels performative. But on the flipside, at what point does prioritizing yourself injure those around you? I still feel badly about withdrawing from that relationship. Was it the humane or inhumane thing to do? Banshees suggests that small acts of kindness are the path forward, but it’s a hazy one at best.

What do you think?

Post-Scripts.

+What are your favorite movies?

+What’s in your house?

+Is pressure a choice?

Shopping Break.

+I’m in love with this new dress from Tuckernuck’s house label — reminds me of Loretta Caponi and looks like a breeze to wear. Also comes in a shirt version.

+Obsessed with this hot pink sweater — under $30 and the color and shape are perfection.

+Fun knit dress — gives me Missoni vibes.

+Loving the fact that flared yoga pants are back in — I think the silhouette is flattering! These are $24!

+Epic ski onesie

+Marketed as a ski vest but contemplating buying for running!

+Shearling birks, on sale!

+La Neige lip balm enjoys a cult following.

+This faux leather dress!

+Love the wash and fit of these jeans for the new year. You can score on sale in limited sizes here.

+Long live the blue and white striped button down.

+I’ve been writing a lot about this new beauty brand, UBeauty, but I just noticed that they are offering a special duo of mini sizes of their two bestselling products for $58 (valued at $106). A good way to test the hype.

+Into these ribbed leggings.

+Truly random but this mini travel razor was such a good stocking stuffer a few years ago from my mom — it is really compact but so much better than those stick razors by Bic/Gillette I usually travel with.

+This exaggerated collar top is fun. Pair with jeans and white sneaks (found for under $60 in select sizes here. You can see me wearing my pair here).

+I must have this fun dress and these striped boxer-style shorts for summer.

Below, a selection of chic scores from Zara for you and the little ones.

1. OVERSIZED-FIT LONG SLEEVE BOYS’ CREWNECK T-SHIRT IN A BOLD LIGHT BLUE AND OLIVE STRIPE PATTERN

2. GOLDEN METALLIC HOODED PUFFER JACKET WITH HIDDEN ZIPPER AND ASYMMETRICAL CLOSURE FOR THE LITTLE ONES

3. SLEEVELESS DOUBLE-BREASTED AND BELTED MIDI-LENGTH TRENCH DRESS WITH WELTED POCKETS AND STRUCTURED SHOULDERS FOR A MODERN TWIST ON THIS CLASSIC PIECE IN NAVY PINSTRIPE

4. WOOL BLEND MOCK NECK CABLE KNIT LONG SLEEVE MINI DRESS WITH RIBBED TRIM…SUCH A CHIC AND CLASSIC LOOK FOR WINTER

5. CROCODILE PRINT EMBOSSED RUBY RED LEATHER CROSSBODY BAG WITH TWO ZIPPERED COMPARTMENTS AND A DETACHABLE TASSLE KEYCHAIN — THIS DEEP RED COLOR MAKES FOR A TIMELESS CLOSET STAPLE

6. MINI-SIZED WHITE COWHIDE LEATHER SNEAKERS WITH TWO ADJUSTABLE VELCRO STRAPS…SUCH AN EASY AND NO FUSS SHOE FOR ITTY BITTY FEET

7. SILKY CHEETAH PRINT OLIVE-TONED POINTED-TOE BALLET FLATS WITH STATEMENT RHINESTONE EMBELLISHMENT

8. CROPPED SILVER METALLIC ZIP-UP HIGH COLLAR HOODED PUFFER JACKET WITH WELTED POCKETS AND DRAWSTRINGS

9. LITTLE GIRLS’ LONG SLEEVE BABYDOLL DRESS IN A LIGHT PINK FLORAL PATTERN WITH RUFFLE APPLIQUES AT THE SHOULDER

10. SOFT MOCK NECK SLEEVELESS KNIT SWEATER VEST IN A CLASSIC BLACK AND WHITE STRIPE PATTERN

11. TWO-TONE CLASSIC SLINGBACK HEELS WITH A TWEED FABRIC-COVERED POINTED-TOE AND A BLACK SATIN-FINISH GEOMETRIC-SHAPED HEEL…THE SPARKLING STATEMENT RHINESTONE APPLIQUE ON THE TOES MAKES THESE SHOES EVENT-READY

12. MINIMALIST AESTHETIC SHINY SILVER METALLIC SHOULDER BAG WITH ADJUSTABLE BUCKLE STRAP

13. LONG SLEEVE RIBBED BODYSUIT WITH SNAP CLOSURE IN A MUTED FLORAL PATTERN WITH ADORABLE RUFFLED NECKLINE DETAIL AND LETTUCE HEMS FOR GIRLS

14. SIMPLE CAMEL-TONED KNIT TURTLENECK SWEATER WITH RIBBED TRIM AND GOLD BUTTON ACCENTS — SUCH A FLATTERING BASIC TURTLENECK FOR ONLY $40!

15. CLASSIC HIGH-WAISTED WIDE LEG CULOTTES WITH PRONOUNCED SEAMS IN A CREAMY IVORY COLOR

16. BLACK SATIN SHEEN BALLET FLATS WITH A POINTED TOE AND RHINESTONE ENCRUSTED BOW EMBELLISHMENT…THESE SHOES WILL INSTANT ELEVATE ANY OUTFIT, PLUS THE BOW DETAIL IS JUST SO CUTE

P.S. Gear for the new year.

P.P.S. Vibrant colors for 2023.

P.P.P.S. Cold weather gear for littles.

At some point last year, I came across a great prompt for clarifying and improving daily life. Sit down for a second and think through your day, hour by hour. What petty frustrations bother you over and over again? Small things like coffee consistently not being hot, or phone running out of battery by 4 p.m., or having to prep your children’s lunch at 10 p.m when you’re ready for bed, or having a charger that is too short for you to use your phone in your bed. Write them out. Then, devise solutions for each. I think you will be surprised at how small grievances can pile up and create a kind of background “noise” that no one needs, and that many of these petty frustrations can be addressed rather simply.

I recently conducted this exercise and have found the results incredibly satisfying. I’m likely going to embarrass myself by sharing some of these, but here goes:

+Most nights, I finish the glass of water on my nightstand and then lay in bed debating whether or not I have the energy/desire to get up and refill my glass. I am clearly thirsty for water, but I don’t love the idea of stepping out of my sleepy nest, fully waking myself up for the task. I’ve now begun to bring not only a glass of water but a back-up water bottle to use to refill it on my nightstand each night. Very happy with this improvement.

+Somehow, I have not had toothbrush holders in our en suite bathroom since we moved to Bethesda. I used to use julep cups for this purpose but those absconded for use as vases and decor elsewhere. So, for about a year, I’ve kept my toothpaste in a drawer and have balanced my toothbrush (these are my favorites) on the lip of my sink to dry. This has irritated me for a long time because I in turn always have watermarks on my countertop and it always feels cluttered. I have no clue how I did not think to devise a solution to this sooner. I ordered these from Kassatex — I’ve loved the pattern for awhile now! — and am contemplating buying the entire set of accessories, but for now, am just thrilled to have toothbrushes off the counter!

+We started composting when we moved to Bethesda. We keep a big 5-gallon lidded bucket in our walk-in pantry for this purpose (unfussy and does a great job of containing smell) that Mr. Magpie turns out into a corner of our property for soil every few days, but have kept a smaller bowl out in our kitchen that we fill with scraps, peels, etc and then continuously deposit in the bucket throughout the day. That way, we figured, we wouldn’t constantly be dragging the 5 gallon bucket into the kitchen every time we peel an orange or whatever. But we were frankly shocked by how much we have to compost, and so we’d be ferrying the small kitchen bowl into the pantry all the livelong day. We recently shuffled things around and put the 5-gallon bucket underneath the secondary sink in our kitchen and it is SO delightful to have it on hand/easily accessible any time we need it. I don’t know why we didn’t bring it into the kitchen proper sooner!

+We go through a lot of citrus in our house, and I tend to buy lemons and limes in bulk in those mesh-type bags they sell them in at the grocery. For years, we’d just place the bags in our fridge and work our way through. I noticed, however, that the bottom lemons/limes would grow moldy rather quickly. But putting them out onto a shelf sans bag made for an annoying mess, and putting them in a bowl yielded the same results as the bag. I ordered this wire basket and now keep it stocked with citrus of all kinds and it truly sparks joy. The way it’s gridded prevents mold from growing, and it looks far more appealing each time I open my fridge.

+I buy inexpensive white towels in bulk to wash my face nightly — that alone was a huge improvement for me, as I used to stain my nicer towels with mascara, and now I have a full, fresh stack always at the ready — but now I usually use one per day and then tend to let that one hang for 24 hours until fully dry before placing in the laundry bin (to prevent mildew). This was annoying as I always had one soiled towel next to one clean one. I solved that bottleneck by placing a wire bin underneath my sink for the soiled ones. We also use these baskets for kitchen towels.

+Mr. Magpie has the rights to this one: I am always and forever air-drying items in our bath tub, draping over sinks, etc., and he recently bought and installed this beadboard drying rack on the wall of our laundry room. OMG! Life changing. No more Lululemon strewn about our bathroom, hanging on door handles, etc!

I encourage you to do the same for yourself — you will be surprised at how easily delighted you are at these simple fixes!

Post-Scripts.

+The first job each morning.

+Household favorites and repeat buys.

+My favorite home gear.

Shopping Break.

+Such a pretty dress. It reminds me of some of the pieces from Anna Cate, which are like twice as expensive. So into brown these days!

+Lake just launched its Valentine’s Day collection! Had to order a set of these for myself and these for mini.

+LOVE this orchid-colored Naghedi. This boxy pink Clare V. would also make for a cute exclamation point this season.

+Intrigued by this bergamot-scented laundry detergent, which I’ve heard compared to The Laundress (currently undergoing a major issue — they found bacteria in a lot of their products so throw away any items of theirs you own!!)

+J McLaughlin is running a big sale, and my reversible puffer coat is on sale! Also intrigued by this vest/coat hybrid.

+I am obsessed with this funnel neck sweatshirt in the perfect cream color. On sale in heather gray!

+This jumpsuit is so spectacular for a bride. Like a rehearsal dinner moment? City Hall?

+This striped arm chair looks far more expensive than it is.

+This $28 puffer comes in such good color options.

+These monogrammed pouches are a great gift for a new mom, or a bride-to-be, or a girlfriend, or a child (monogram with something toy specific, like TONIES, or LOL DOLLS, or CARS) or or…

*Note: I wear a lot of red nail polish and received several messages over the past few weeks asking for my go-tos. I love Essie’s Really Red, Russian Roulette, and Geranium (more orangey), and OPI’s Big Apple Red and Coca Cola red. I am currently wearing something a bit darker/more blue than I usually go, Essie’s “Limited Addiction,” which feels SO glamorous and old world Hollywood to me.

I always go on a little new beauty binge at the dawn of the new year, and I’m already loving some of the items I’ve just started testing, including Olaplex’s Bond Smoother (obsessed — reduces drying time and leaves hair so smooth), Saie’s Slip Tint (more notes on this below but I am IN LOVE with this affordable tinted moisturizer) and — finally — Biologique Recherche’s iconic Lotion p50, an exfoliator that has been around since the 70s and enjoys a cult following (my mother included). There are several different variations but I tried their newest, PIGM 400, which is “enriched with both the exfoliating active ingredients of the Lotion P50 and the brightening agents and antioxidants of the PIGM 400 range.” I have only been using a few days and am wowed by the results. It feels as though I’ve shed an exoskeleton — skin is so bright, happy, even, shining. Other items are the top of my list to try this year: Thomas Grove skin oil (a blend of three oils packed with vitamins that I’ve been reading good things about), Westman Atelier brow pencil (recommended by my friend Nan, whom I trust implicitly), and Biossance Eye Cream (a longtime favorite of many Magpies).

01. LEATHEROLOGY TRAIN CASE — I just love the shape of this cosmetics bag, and the shadow lettering is so fabulous.

02. SLIP SKINNY SCRUNCHIES — I was tickled by how many Magpies agree that these little crease-proof hair ties are THE best hair tie in your responses to this prompt.

03. OPI NAIL AND CUTICLE OIL — This stuff is FANTASTIC. I keep on my nightstand and apply regularly during the winter months. It has a clever little brush applicator that makes it a cinch to use (not messy, easy to apply in bed before lights out).

04. BIOSSANCE EYE CREAM — So many Magpies have insisted this is the only eye cream that actually does anything. Going to try this year.

05. WELEDA SKIN FOOD — I have been using and loving a very expensive body cream from Byredo (absolute heaven in every way) and am challenging myself to alternate with something much less expensive to assuage the guilt (ha). I’ve long heard fabulous things about Weleda’s Skin Food and am going to give it a try this month.

06. OLAPLEX SHAMPOO AND CONDITIONER — I’ve been so obsessed with this brand’s bond smoother (heat primer / conditioner / detangler), I’m planning to try their shampoo and conditioner, which I know many of you have raved about (and with which my sister is in a committed relationship). I tried the shampoo awhile back and was lukewarm on results but maybe you need both, or maybe I didn’t give it enough of a try, etc.?

07. DENMAN STYLING AND DETANGLING BRUSH — Good for a quick comb-through when you’re zhushing before a night out but don’t want to muss up your style too much.

08. TERRY CLOTH HEADBAND — A clever way to keep hair back while washing your face.

09. OUAI SCALP AND BODY SCRUB — This stuff looks divine and won an Allure beauty award!

10. SAIE SLIP TINT — I am IN LOVE with this stuff! I generally prefer tinted moisturizers to foundations and this stuff is BRILLIANT and just as good as products from higher-end/prestige beauty labels like Chantecaille and Laura Mercier (both of which have excellent tinted moisturizer) at about half the price. Blends right in, easy to apply. I would say it is more blendable than the SuperGoop tinted glow SPF I have been using for awhile now, with a better consistency and a bit more coverage. A+.

11. FORGET THE FILLER LIP PLUMPING GLOSS — Never tried this category of product but intrigued.

12. WESTMAN ATELIER BROW PENCIL — My friend Nan has raved about this product awhile back and I’m keen to try. I have to be honest and say I was underwhelmed by the last two Westman products I tried, their complexion drops (expensive, trying to do too much, and difficult to apply IMO) and their liquid lip balm (I’m just not a gloss kind of person? I don’t know – this just didn’t send me). But I have loved absolutely everything else they’ve made and I’m intrigued by Nan’s enthusiasm.

13. MAKEUP BY MARIO SKIN ENHANCER — I’ve been seeing some hype around this brand lately and I’m intrigued by this product in particular: “A three-in-one tinted complexion balm that warms and nourishes with sheer coverage to even out the appearance of skin tone.” I’ve been noticing that my biggest complexion challenge lately is uneven skintone (no longer blemishes so much — thank God), and I’m pulled in by this description…

14. SHISEIDO FACIAL COTTON. Not new to me, but mama mia, this is the best little upgrade to which you can treat yourself. If you’ve never tried this cotton, you’re in for a treat. Ultra-soft and plush — perfect for swiping on Lotion p50, toner, makeup remover, nail polish remover, etc.

15. SNAIL MUCIN SHEET MASKS. I haven’t yet been able to convince myself to try this latest beauty fad that everyone in the world seems to rave about (snail mucin…?) but if you’re braver than I am, please test and report back. Skincare queen Courtney Grow is an evangelist!

16. U BEAUTY SKIN HYDRATOR — This is going to be the facial lotion I try next. I think I first heard about this brand from Bradley and have since been targeted by a ton of ads that have totally influenced me. There is one where a customer says: “After using for a few weeks, someone asked if I’d had a face lift.” Um…?

17. THOMAS GROVE SKIN OIL. I have been wanting to try this since I first read about it — I think via Caitlin?

18. DAGNE DOVER TOILETRY ORGANIZER — I thought this was such a brilliant way to stow skincare/products while traveling — everything upright in its own slot and therefore easy to find (and less likely to spill/open/etc).

19. EUCERIN ADVANCED REPAIR BODY LOTION. I have been needing something heavier duty for my skin during these dry winter months and I keep coming back to this drugstore basic, which people absolutely love. For $10, worth a try! (Read the 24K five star reviews!)

20. L’OREAL REVITALIFT. My mom read rave reviews of this affordable serum (includes both Hyaluronic Acid and Vitamin C), and I’ve been testing myself, too. To be honest, I was layering it on top of other skincare products to which I am permanently wedded (e.g., Clarins Double Serum) and I didn’t see much of a difference and am too committed to those other products to test it on its own?? But I feel like this would be a good product if you’re looking to test a serum without the steep pricepoints of other competitors.

21. AMAZON COSMETICS BAG. Again, love the shape of these “train case” style cosmetics bags. I have lots of the standard pouch style ones but this feels like it can hold a lot (and, possibly, be tossed in the laundry after?). The print was darling — Laura Ashley-esque.

22. PATCHOLOGY EYE MASKS. I’ve never used eye masks before but I keep encountering them — do they do anything? They do look relaxing? Whenever I’m sick or feeling rundown, I really like to take a hot shower, apply a ton of really thick moisturizer and eye creams and serums, and climb into bed with wet hair. Lately I’ve been wishing I could add eye masks to that particular self-care moment.

24. WANDER BEAUTY EYE SHADOW DUO. An Allure beauty winner that I’ve written about a lot this season, but it’s pretty much the ONLY eye shadow I wore all holiday season. The cream palette is so incredibly easy to apply with a finger — it blends in so beautifully and has great, buildable color. I need all the colors STAT.

25. BIODERMA LIP CONDITIONER. This French pharmacy brand tends to know what it’s doing. For under $10, a great choice for dry winter lips.

26. QUILTED COSMETICS POUCH. Reminds me of the ones from Minnow, but $10. Would also be a cute pouch for keeping baby items together in a diaper bag.

P.S. Beauty products I can’t quit.

P.P.S. A lot of inexpensive beauty/cosmetics finds and gear in this post.

P.P.P.S. What do you splurge vs. save on?