My Latest Snag: The Molton Brown Body Wash.

I have been an enormous fan of Molton Brown for years now.  I stock all our bathrooms with their handsoap and lotion, and have been a devotee of their bodywashes for ages, especially since most of the scents are gender neutral.  Recently, I received a sample of their Heavenly Gingerlily Body Wash and I could not stop smelling myself.  I noticed that the bottle was disappearing quickly, only to find that Mr. Magpie had gotten in on the good stuff, too — and he loved it.  So, a full size was in order.  Treat yourself!!

As an aside, loofahs are supposed to be fairgrounds for bacteria, so we’ve long since stopped using them.  I’m intrigued by this well-reviewed silicone body scrubber as a substitute.  (Check out reviews!)

You’re Sooooo Popular: Le Cashmere Crew.

The most popular items on Le Blog this week:

+Le cashmere crew ($100!)  How can you not?!   I’ve been wearing mine with my new silk scarf for a DAR kind of look.

+My favorite tights for mini.

+MUST READ THIS BOOK.  I wrote a full review last weekend and a reader wrote in with some admirably strong opinions in reaction to my commentary.  Worth a read!  (I welcome the feedback!!!)

+Get that fuzzy mohair look that’s all the rage RN.

+Super cute corduroy dress for a toddler.  Into mustard yellow!

+My secret to avoiding huge dry cleaning bills in the winter months: I wash all my cashmere and wool by hand in the tub/sink with this.

+Super sharp blazer.  I’ve been v. into the blazer look so far this season — I’ve been layering my glen plaid one as well as a camel colored one over blouses and tees with skinny jeans all the live long day.

+Miu Miu vibes in the form of this pleated skirt!

#Turbothot: Building Cathedrals.

My dad is deeply wise.  He’s seen things — in war zones as a member of the 81st airborne, in the 70s as a civil liberties activist (of sorts — I don’t think he’d identify as an activist), in courtrooms and boardrooms as a corporate attorney, in his tireless efforts to curb veteran homelessness in Washington, D.C., as a parent to five children, as a confidante to countless friends.  He’s lived about 34 lives in one.  He’s brave, measured, scary-smart.  And he does not mince words.  His taciturnity means that he’s not big on small talk (sometimes when we shoot the breeze on the phone, I’ll wait breathlessly — where is the hammer?!  What bomb is he about to drop?) and that, often, you’ll be sitting at his side and amidst casual re-caps of the book he’s reading or the itinerary for an upcoming trip, he’ll drop a gem of life wisdom on you with no preamble, and it will sit with you for the next few weeks.

Just this past weekend, we sat in the cozy living room of his home in N.W. D.C. while mini played in front of us.  We were talking about neighborhoods in Manhattan — would we ever want to try a different one?  Or maybe move uptown?  He commented that his brother had lived at 114th street back when he was pursuing an advanced degree in chemistry at Columbia, and that there was a lovely Catholic Church up that way.  After a pause, he added: “The church was under renovation for some time.  One day, a gentleman walked by and saw men at work.  He asked the first man: “What are you doing?”  And the worker replied: “I’m mixing concrete to put between these stones to build this corner.”  He moved onto the next: “What are you doing?”  And the worker replied: “Building a cathedral.””

My Dad looked at me: “Don’t forget that.  You want to be building a cathedral, not laying bricks.”

Coda.

#Shopaholic: Towels and Thangs.

+I love Matouk linens.  They hold up well and come in elegant designs.  I have used their Auberge towels for years (<<currently on sale!), but am currently considering investing in a set of their Cairo towels.  I am in love with the piping around the edge.  What an elegant look!  I want the white set with the azure blue trim.

+I’ve always loved Juliska’s berry & thread pattern.  It looks gracious, Southern, inviting, approachable.

+Speaking of gracious: contemplating ordering one of these boxwood wreaths for our front door, or maybe this smaller one to hang permanently somewhere on a wall.  They’re seasonless!  I might tie a burlap bow on it during the winter, or maybe a black and white grosgrain one.

+I’m sending a box of these to a friend deserving a special surprise.

+Gucci vibes from this $120 sweater.

+This coin and key purse would be a really lovely gift for a college-aged student (or a Manhattanite who walks her dog regularly and does not want to tote a full bag every time she does).  Goyard-esque!

+A simple, sleek solution for a nursery without much space for a changing table.  (Honestly, I would have loved to have this in my master bedroom during the first few months!  We ended up changing her at the foot of our bed most of the time.  It would have been clutch to have a little station like this.)

+These tweed Monse heels are haunting me.  I have literally nowhere to wear them (#kittenheelsorflatsonly RN) but I adore them.  I’m imagining wearing them with deconstructed lighter-wash denim and this statement blouse when I’m in the mood to be trendy.

+Moms: what training potty did you use?  I’m inclined towards this one.  Pls discuss.

 

How do you build patience?

I could use some tips.  I don’t know if it’s the fast pace of life in New York or the travails of raising a child, but I have seen in myself a shorter fuse than I’d like the last few weeks — and the last few days in particular.  I’ll cut myself a little slack given that I’ve been without my other half for a week now (please come home, Mr. Magpie!), but there’s nary an excuse for a temper.  Yesterday morning, after installing mini in her high chair with a full plate of some of her favorite breakfast foods (peach slices, scrambled eggs, and cinnamon raisin toast with butter), I dashed back to the kitchen to clean up and pack her lunch, as her nanny often picnics outside with her.  I knew things were headed south when the room fell eerily quiet and I could actually make out the news from the TV, and — sure enough — I returned to find scrambled egg and soggy peaches strewn all over the living room, stuck to the walls and polished wood of our table and buffet, mashed into the carpet.  She looked up innocently.  I gritted my teeth.  This has been a long and unwieldy battle of the wills for months now.  My usual reaction is to impassively remove her food from her and declare that “breakfast is over” once she starts flinging her food.  But today, the deed was already done.  And I can’t explain why this situation got under my skin, but it did.  I was fuming as I got down on my knees for what felt like the fourteen thousandth day in a row and got to work picking up soggy food and scraping it out of the carpet fibers.

Of course, it wasn’t truly mini’s fault.  It was my fault.  I shouldn’t have left her unattended, knowing about her food flinging propensities.  I should have intervened at the first second of silence.  I should be more consistent about disciplining her for throwing her food in the first place, and this might not have happened.  It reminded me of something else: for months, I was able to bring mini into the bathroom with me while I was getting ready in the morning, and she would play happily, peacefully with her bath toys or my makeup brushes.  Now, she is opening the toilet and splashing in the water, unspooling the toilet paper, opening the cabinets to get into everything she shouldn’t.  The scene usually ends in tears of frustration on her end and a feeling of exasperation at eight-twelve a.m. on mine.  It’s just recently dawned on me that I could do a better job of not letting her get into situations where she will cause trouble.  I am setting her up for failure and then grimacing at the inevitable.

But even if I am able to avoid some pitfalls, there will still be instances of flung food, of diapers removed behind my back (ahem ahem, #lastnight), of cabinets unloaded of their wares, of crayon on the wall.  And out of doors, too — there will be rude passengers on trains, daft tourists, presumptuous strangers.  How can I build a reserve of patience for the inevitable frictions we encounter in life?  I want to be the kind of person who is able to see beyond the petty frustration of a situation and empathize.  Who cuts slack for other people.  Who assumes the best of them.  Who sees the humor in a flung egg alongside the wide-eyed, innocent look of toddlerhood.  Who appreciates that these things do not matter, and that one day I will look back smilingly on the messy but colorful days of child-rearing.  Who takes things in stride.

So here I am, frustrated with myself, taking a deep breath, saying a quick prayer, and asking for your tips on building forbearance!

Post Script: New Beauty Discoveries.

+After a string of long days and sleepless nights, my skin is looking a little dull.  Though I continue to insist that this serum is kind of like turning on a lightbulb in your skin — and it majorly helps in the morning — I thought I’d double down by adding LaNeige’s well-reviewed Water Sleeping Mask into my routine.  It promises to “recharge your dehydrated skin while you sleep” so you wake up with soft, glowing skin.

+I typically wear Laura Mercier’s tinted moisturizer during the day as it can be applied with my fingers and often without a mirror (ha), but I have been curious about Charlotte Tilbury’s cult following Flawless Filter for months now, especially after the gorgeous Grace Atwood recommended it.  It’s en route to me now and I cannot wait.

+I’m tripling down on the Ole Henriksen (I not only use his serum, but his gorgeous gel moisturizer) and giving his banana bright eye cream a whirl.

+In the winter, when I’m more likely to wear foundation (and more likely to break out for some reason), I find that a primer is essential for preventing a caked-on look.  I just bought Guerlain’s L’Or Radiance primer after a makeup artist raved about it.  (He insisted it lasts a long time, which has held true of Guerlain’s bronzer, which I swear by.  A single palette will last me a year or two — and I use it almost daily.  I used to use Nars bronzer, but I found the formula crumbly and would often go through a palette every few months!  Guerlain’s is well-packed and a little goes a long way.)

+I mentioned this earlier this week, but I picked up Dior’s BrowStyler after reading a lot of strong reviews and becoming a little disenchanted with Glossier’s BoyBrow.  I think that “organized” brows completely transform a face.

+I had to order a tube of Charlotte Tilbury’s matte revolution lipstick in the Pillow Talk color.  People go crazy over it!  Apparently the perfect shade of neutral pink and a great formula.

+I like Smashbox’s felt-tip eyeliner but wanted a pencil eyeliner as well, as I think they’re a bit more versatile — you can smudge the pencil for a smokier eye; you can apply it thinly during the day.  The felt-tip means you’re super exact and creates a specific kind of look — or at least, I can only achieve a specific kind of look with it (HA!)  I did some research and came upon Marc Jacobs’ Highliner, which people rave about.  The colors are interesting (I got dark gray) and it’s apparently very well-formulated.

+I’ve been so impressed with Chanel’s mascara base that I decided to try their eye shadow base as well.  Most mornings I can’t be bothered by applying eye shadow, but I will apply a quick swipe of eye shadow base (usually Laura Mercier’s Eye Basics).  We’ll see how Chanel compares!

+There are two French drugstore products that I’ve been reading a lot about lately, and I recently took the plunge on both.  The first is Caudalie’s Beauty Elixir Spray.  I want to use it to set my makeup when I’m heading out — I’ve been using a spray by Kopari that is OK but nothing special.  People love the Caudalie stuff!  The second is Embryolisse Lait Creme Concentre, which people go nuts over.  I mentioned this product in an Instastory recently and instantly received evangelistic DMs about its wonders.  It can be used as a face cream, a primer, or a makeup remover (!!!)  I’ve also heard people use it after shaving their legs and even on children, as it’s very gentle.  Seems like a genius addition to the makeup bag for a trip!

+More of my favorite beauty buys, the skincare regimen that changed my skin, and an honest review of some of my recent beauty acquisitions.

I received a bunch of messages about my solo voyage to D.C. with mini in tow (just returned yesterday!).  The truth is that it went much better than I expected for about 7/8 of the trip.  That last eighth was deeply trying — and not through any fault of mini’s, come to think of it.  The challenges had more to do with multiple elevators being out of order on the subway route to/from Penn Station, which completely kicked my ass.  I packed as light as I could, but lugging any amount of gear on top of a stroller and a writhing mini up and down steep steps while people edge by you and sweat drips down your brow?  Um.  No thanks.  Gratefully, good samaritans stopped and helped me in all four elevator outage incidents.  But FOUR outages?!  Good Lord.  What would happen if you were handicapped?!  You’d just have to retrace your steps and leave?  What is that?  The other challenging part had more to do with timing the trip — more on that below in my top tips for traveling alone…

  1.  Buy a backpack.  I don’t think the trip would have been nearly as easy without one.  Mine (and I’ve written a lot about this, but I do love it) is feather-weight, sleek, and comfortable — and it carries a lot (including my 15″ laptop).  I also appreciate that it has two cup pockets on each side, leaving mini’s water bottle easily accessible.
  2. Pack light.  I packed as little as humanly possible and planned to do laundry once while there.  I also had my mom pick up diapers and wipes for me so I wouldn’t need to tote all that bulk around; in other circumstances, I’ve had those items shipped to my destination or have skipped out to the grocery on arrival.  I even left mini’s beloved blanket behind because it’s pretty bulky.  (She was fine without it.) I managed to fit everything we needed for five days into my backpack, this super lightweight foldable Scout duffel, and mini’s Kanken, which I reserved for just her own activities.  I love that Scout bag because its handles/strap are convenient (easy to carry) and it weighs nothing on its own.
  3. Separate mini’s stuff from yours.  I used packing cubes to keep our clothing separate, which helped when I was in need of a spare burp cloth en route down to D.C.  Easier to find everything!
  4. Leave early — but not too early.  I’m generally inclined to arrive early when traveling; why stress about cutting things too close?  But with mini, there’s a different calculus involved, as I don’t want to extend the amount of time she’ll be contained or in her stroller or able to get into mischief.  (Ahem, licking the wall of the waiting area at Penn Station…wahhhh.)  We left a little too early on the return trip to New York and I think that contributed to a really bumpy last thirty minutes of the train.  That said, we did manage to run off a lot of energy while killing time in the train station!
  5. If you’re taking the train and it’s available, use the Red Cap service.  I didn’t know about this, but you can ask for special assistance boarding a train using a “Red Cap.”  They’ll take your bags for you while you’re waiting and come find you to let you know when it’s time to board — which can be as early as 25 minutes in advance of general boarding!  Then they carry your bags for you and get you situated on the train, all for a tip of $5 or $10.  This was incredibly helpful both directions with mini.
  6. Be friendly to the ticket guy.  I shot the breeze with the gentleman taking tickets aboard the train and as he left he said: “You know, I’ll punch two tickets for these seats so you have a little extra space.”  I was delighted!  We had the entire row to ourselves on the return trip.
  7. Pack more snacks then you think you’ll need.  A friend of mine texted me and said: “When in doubt, snacks and videos.  Then more snacks.”  Some of my favorite things to feed mini these days while on the go: an apple (she loves to gnaw on it whole, an activity that will usually consume about 30 minutes), raisins, Made Good soft baked mini cookies (<<these make a mess; you’ve been warned), veggie chips/straws, diced fruit, string cheese.  I think she had all of these things plus half a sandwich and bites of my granola bar on the trip down alone.
  8. Keep surprises in reserve.  I was eager to let her play with everything I’d packed for her (and I kept all her activities/toys in her own little backpack), but — smartly, as it turned out — kept a couple of items in reserve for desperate measures.  I packed a coloring book and crayons (which were kept in a zippered pouch and doled out on a one-in-one-out basis), a couple of packs of inexpensive stickers, a new book (<<very cute book but do not recommend it for the train, because you will self-consciously read it aloud in front of strangers only to find yourself yelling “HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG” over and over like a crazy person), several of her favorite books (including Curious George, which is delightfully long but she will sit through), her dollbaby, this little play purse, and these flashcards, which she loves handing to me one by one.  All in, all of these items took up very little space and were easy to configure in a backpack.  I kept a charged iPad (in this protective sleeve — easy for her to hold, and can also stand on its own) with Moana downloaded on it (which I did use both ways) in my own backpack along with these headphones, which she refused to wear.
  9. Time the trip as best you can around his/her nap.*  Mini was well-behaved and happy most of both train rides, but the last thirty minutes of the train trip back were brutal because of poor timing with her nap.  She usually goes down for a nap between 1 and 1:30, but the train didn’t pull into Penn Station until 1:50.  She was exhausted!  I didn’t know what to do; if she fell asleep on the train, I knew she’d wake up once we were getting off the train and I’d need to put her in her stroller, and she would be unhappy.  But keeping her up felt cruel, especially since she’d slept poorly the night prior.  All of that worrying was moot since she was cranky and exhausted but nowhere near falling asleep on the train — she was hellbent on screaming and flailing around instead.  So I spent the last twenty minutes walking up and down the aisle, looking through her bag with her, distracting her, playing La Vaca Lola on my phone — and trying not to anger too many people with her sobs.  The worst bit came when we got off the train and I had to put her in her stroller.  She went ballistic, contorting into an inverted “c” when I’d tried to buckle her in as I jostled our bags around and people dodged me on the train platform.  I’ve dealt with stroller resistance in the past, but this was next level.  She was apoplectic.  She screamed for ten minutes as I wheeled her toward the subway and navigated out of order elevators.  Fun family time!  All this to say — if it’s at all an option, I would aim to travel early (pre-nap) or sync the travel time with her nap time so you can aim to get her to sleep while in transit.  *Big asterisk: also take into account which trains will be operated during peak hours.  I was so fortunate to have a spare seat next to me most of the train ride to D.C. and all of the train ride back.  I would avoid peak travel times.
  10. Take a deep breath.  I kept thinking to myself: “There are so many thousands of moms that travel all the time with their kids on their own.  You are not a special snowflake.  You can do this just like all of them.”  And I tried, too, to have fun with mini in the moments we could — like when the Red Cap pre-boarded us and we had the entire car to ourselves.  We ran up and down the aisles (until she fell and got a rugburn on her cheek — whoops), looked out all the windows, and climbed onto and off of the seats repeatedly.  It’s easy to let the perceived stress of the situation get in the way, but my perspective changed when I tried to think about the experience as a novel, exciting one through her eyes.

OK, traveling mom veterans — what other tips do you have up your sleeve?  I’ve heard play-dough and painter’s tape are good go-tos for slightly older children!

P.S.  More thoughts on traveling with a little one, and also — thoughts on traveling without a baby!

P.P.S.  Drooling over this gorgeous cashmere sweater for a little princess and this affordable knit cardigan.

P.P.S.  Bloomingdale’s is running a 25% off friends-and-family event.  Now is a good time to stock up on my favorite brand of infant sleepwear: Kissy Kissy.  If you are expecting, snag one of these in the newborn size as a coming-home outfit!  The softest cotton ever!

I so thoroughly enjoy receiving emails and direct messages from you (P.S. — I’ve started a new Instagram handle, @thefashionmagpie, that features more shopping finds and more musings if you care to follow along) and thought I’d share a couple of recent exchanges here…

Q: I was invited to a black tie Havana Nights party.  I already ordered the one shoulder Topshop dress and I am OBSESSED! I think that could work?  Let me know if you come across anything else.  It is at a fancy old school country club…

A:  I think that’s the perfect dress!  It’s hard to tell with black tie what you’re supposed to wear as a woman — you no longer need to wear floor length, so you can get away with a lot. I think your cocktail dress pick is perfection, especially since 80s are so IN for evening wear! I feel like everyone else will be wearing red (right? Havana Nights?) and you’ll stand out with that dramatic shoulder situation.  The only other thing that came to mind was Sachin & Babi; Outnet has a bunch of their pieces on sale and they are very CHA CHA CHA — sort of Johanna Ortiz-esque, like this one.  (Also, Johanna Ortiz would be the perfect label for this event, though her pieces are very expensive.  Something like this would be right on the money).

Q: I’m looking for a wall-mounted light fixture for the wide entryway in our home.  I’d like it to project a lot of light since the space is so big but am debating between something more traditional or more artsy.  Any recommendations?

A:  I like this one because of its large dimensions and it has a good balance of tradition and modernity to it.  I know you said your main concern is projecting a lot of light but I also LOVE this one — not sure if the shade will make it too dim for your taste, but it feels so finished and elegant.  The texture that the shade introduces would also make the room feel finished.  This is pricey but how cool?!  I love that it comes in different colors to add some interest to an area that is typically otherwise unremarkable.  (The green!)  I’m guessing this is just way too funky/modern, but see below image of a similar style in a traditional setting, and it looks amazing.

Q: I’m currently in the market for a bowtie for my beau. We went to a wedding recently and he borrowed a really nice artistic/hipster bowtie from a friend.  It was dark brown and had a bunny print on it.  While he was reluctant to wear it at first since it was his first time wearing a bowtie, he got a million compliments and loved it by the end of the night. I’d like to get him a bowtie for his birthday next month, and I’m having trouble finding a nice one. Do you have any bowtie brand recommendations that I could check out? I’m getting a little lost in the zillion options on Etsy. 

A: My first thought was Vineyard Vines — they are classic and have fun animal prints.  Mr. Magpie owns this crab tie as a nod to his Mid-Atlantic roots and deep and abiding passion for bluecrabs.  Something like this is a bit  more subdued but still has a fun print to it.  VV might be a little bit preppy based on what you described, though (not sure!), so a few other thoughts —

My favorite men’s clothing store for gifts is Paul Stuart.  They have the most elegant, timeless pieces and I’ve bought many special items for Mr. Magpie there.  Check out their selection, though they are a little pricier.
This one is on sale though and has a similar vibe to the one you described — darker/more fall appropriate colors and a small animal print.  Super handsome!
Finally, these ones from High Cotton are on the more “hipster” side of the spectrum and might be right up his alley.  Maybe this one with the mallards or this one with the flies, depending on his interests?

Q: Hey! I am in need of a dress for myself for my daughter’s baptism at the end of the month. I live in the South, so it will probably still be hot here. I love your taste! You have a knack for picking pretty outfits that are perfect for the occasion. Any suggestions would be much appreciated!  Thank you!

A:  This was a fun challenge.  I’m including a bunch of options I would consider, at a range of price points:

+I just ordered this polka dot lovely from Zara, and think it would look elegant with some simple black pumps for the occasion.  It looks like the designer Alexandra Rich!
+This fit and flare knit dress is pulled-together and chic, especially with pointed-toe flats.
+Another traditional option: this pleated skirt with a white cotton crewneck sweater or white button down blouse.
+I love the shape and button detailing on this navy or white Tibi.
For some reason I felt I needed to wear a white dress to my daughter’s Baptism (it was summer, though) — if you feel similarly compelled, I love this (under $130!) or this in chic, creamy off-white.

Q: My friend has been trying to get pregnant for years and is finally through the first trimester.  Is there any gift I can give her?  

A: So sweet of you.  My go-to gift for moms to be is Clarins body tonic oil.  I slathered it on religiously during my pregnancy and have zero stretch marks.  I know that stretch marks are partly genetic, etc., but there’s still something so lovely and extravagant about receiving a self-care beauty product like this that you might not otherwise splurge on yourself.  I’ve also gifted a friend a few pairs of these maternity underwear which I know sounds weird but they are HEAVEN when you get to your third trimester!  I was so reluctant to buy a pair of $23 maternity underwear that would only be worn for a few weeks, but the days these came out of the laundry were always happy days for me.  HA!  The little things.

If those two gifts feel too intimate (I get it), I also have sent friends caffeine-free tea samplers from David’s Tea along with tea bags and measuring spoons.  I got into such a tea ritual while pregnant; it was such an indulgence after dinner when I’d usually have been enjoying a glass of wine.

If you are really looking to splurge: these jammies were the best thing that ever happened to me in the final few months of my pregnancy.

P.S.  Things I am currently eyeballing:

+This Alice McCall gown.  10 out of 10.  Ice blue!  I am SO into this color right now.  I wish I had an event to wear this to…

+This satin hair bow.  My hair is currently chopped into a bob so I don’t think it will work for me right now, but it would look adorable in longer tresses.  I might opt for this velvet headband instead…

+This fun limited edition MZ Wallace tote by hip line Lingua Franca.  It reminded me of this Banana sweater I recently lingered over.

+These fun thermal jammies.

+J. Brand denim is my all time favorite, and they are running 25% off all purchases through tonight.  If you are preggo, I strongly encourage you to consider investing in a pair of Mama Js.  A friend recommended these to me, and I have recommended them to at least a dozen other expecting mamas since and they are AMAZING.  So comfortable and so flattering.  Not preggo: I absolutely love J. Brand’s photoready line of denim.  It has just the right amount of stretch and creates a killer silhouette.  I’m intrigued by their new photoready HD variation

P.P.S.  More Q+As and thinking back on our move to NYC almost a year ago.

P.P.P.S.  Still love these products.

Plaid is everywhere right now, especially in the form of the must-have glen plaid blazer for this fall.  But I’ve also started lusting after plaid blouses — the perfect way to add interest to your outfit without requiring too much effort.  Below, my top picks:

THIS NAVY FLANNEL, WHICH I’D WEAR TUCKED INTO HIGH-WAISTED DENIM AND UNBUTTONED TO THERE WITH HEELS

THIS I-MEAN-BUSINESS LELA ROSE SHOWSTOPPER

THIS FUN CORDUROY STYLE (REMEMBER TO GO WEST, YOUNG LADY!)

THIS UBER-COMFORTABLE POPOVER TUNIC — PERFECT WITH LEGGINGS/JEANS AT HOME

THIS ON-TREND PUFF SLEEVED STATEMENT

THIS SLOUCHY STYLE, WHICH I’D DEFINITELY WEAR TUCKED IN, PROBABLY WITH BOOTIES (ALTERNATLEY: THIS SIMILAR, LESS VOLUMINOUS VARIATION OR THIS GAP STEAL)

THIS FASHION-FORWARD ZARA STEAL (LOVE THE YELLOW!)

P.S.  Not a blouse, but this dress is on my wishlist.  You can get the look for less — and in blouse form — with this or this.

P.P.S.  When the whole wide world is fast asleep.

P.P.P.S.  What’s the story behind your song?

My Latest Snag: The Square Neckline Blouse.

Along with puffed sleeves, square necklines have been a lovely little surprise to this season’s round-up of trendy shapes, thanks, in large part, to Arielle Charnas, whose Something Navy line for Nordstrom (shown above) nearly sold out in 2 hours flat earlier this week.  I wish I’d acted faster on some of these pieces — especially this square-neck top, shown above.  Instead, I scratched this itch with this J. Crew find.  I also love this saucy style in the ivory colorway.

You’re Sooooo Popular: The NYE Dress.

The most popular items on Le Blog this week:

+This unbelievable under-$100 NYE-appropriate dress.  (20% off with code STOCKUP18.)

+This collarless blazer.  Wear with everything!

+A chunky cableknit to achieve that borrowed-from-the-boys look.  (Wear with white skinnies and ballet flats!)

+An alluring scoopneck dress I want to wear all fall long.

+My new backpack!!!

+A refined boho look in the most startling shade of not-quite-emerald sea green.

+Looks like Gucci, costs far less.

+A big bow and a saucy shape.

+Wear-with-everything shoes.

#Turbothot: On Elizabeth Holmes, Female Entrepeneurship, + Bad Blood.

Can we talk about Carreyrou’s gripping expose on Theranos and its young and ambitious founder, Elizabeth Holmes?

I feel 34 different ways about this book.

On the one hand, I truly hate that this is one of the few narratives we have of female entrepreneurship in the technology sector, a notorious boys club if there ever was one.  Though Carreyrou clearly sets Holmes up as a sociopath from page one of the book — a portrait that is difficult to dispute given the chain of decisions she makes as the plot unfolds — I found myself gritting my teeth willfully: “Harrumph, why is she being criticized for adopting the same exact methods that so many male entrepreneurs use?”  And by that I mean the fake-it-til-you-make-it mentality so prevalent in the startup scene.  If you take time to listen to any of the many podcasts featuring (almost all-male) entrepreneurs who have “made it” (and I listened to dozens and dozens back in my startup days, many of them from the series Rocketship, Startup, and Lean Startup), the storyline is shockingly unvaried: “I was down to my last dime, and I was shipping a product that was crawling with bugs/vaporware/at best a vast oversimplification of what I was selling, and — at the last hour, I got a call from so-and-so saying he wanted in on my funding round.  Then we hustled.  We faked it til we made it.”  These entrepreneurs revel in their mild deceitfulness, spinning it as good salesmanship and a commitment to vision.  This mentality held true among the dozens of entrepreneurs I knew and sought counsel from when I was building a business.  They were careful not to lie, exactly, but — fuzziness on the details?  “Optimism” in the projections?  Yes.  One of the most important slides in an early (pre-seed-round) pitch deck is the one covering “sales” or “traction” — and this was a notorious site of overinflation of the facts.  I recall many founders talking about having met once with a company, or having set one meeting in the future with a company, and then listing that company’s name as “in talks for a contract” on said slide.  This was a strategic though risky move on their part, as — in the pre-seed phase — financial projections mean literally nothing to investors, as they could just as well be spun from thin air; what matters more at this stage are the commitments from potential customers, and the bigger the names, the better.  They act as indicators for your trustworthiness as an entrepreneur and the strength of your network, an important calculation because if you are a well-connected guy or gal, you will likely be able to  build your business to the point of proof-of-concept by trading in on favors.  And you can use those favors to test your MVP, or minimum viable product, for feedback prior to settling into true salesmanship and marketing to the unknown public.  But I digress.  My point is this: a lot of the “stunts” Elizabeth pulls early in the book are par for the course, in my opinion, in the startup world.  Why is the startup world this way, you might wonder?   I don’t know!  I think part of it is sewn into the culture that’s been cultivated, a sort of mythology perpetuated by founders themselves who have made it.  But I also think that entrepreneurs that project unbridled ambition, conviction, passion, I-live-and-breathe-this-business are rewarded by the funding mechanisms that exist in that industry, i.e., the venture capitalists who invest in the space.  There is something hand-and-glove about the kinds of VCs I met and the kinds of entrepreneurs that got funded.  They both run hot.

BUT.  Holmes completely ran afoul of ethics in how far she took her blustering deceitfulness about the state of her product.  Yes, it’s one thing to overstate contracts in an early pitch deck, to ship an early version of a technology that doesn’t quite work when it will be used in an office setting to streamline expense reports.  It’s an entirely different thing to knowingly permit actual patients to use a medical technology that is so inaccurate it can’t be trusted as if it works — and to let them deal with the horrifying aftermath of those inaccuracies.  Can you imagine?!  I can’t.  It puts a pit the size of Texas in my stomach.

So as much as I wish this narrative had never happened –as much as I wish Holmes has been a different person and there were a rosier picture of the female entrepreneur that we could rally around — the fact of the matter is that Holmes committed unconscionable acts that put innocent people in danger/at risk simply to achieve…something.  I say something because I’m not sure what she was after.  There are indications early in her life that her childhood ambition was to be a billionaire.  Later, she seems swept up in the cult of Steve Jobs’ genius and personality, and she fashions herself as a second Jobs, even wearing black turtlenecks and committing to extreme diets “just like Steve.”  And so she seems set on achieving a legacy for herself as a creative genius.  In my analysis, I believe her to have been an uber-bright, uber-ambitious, uber-accomplished young woman who gained early exposure to folks at the top of their fields through the social cunning of her parents and the high-pedigree schools she attended that whet her appetite for financial and professional success.  She then used her brilliance and charm to convince people of her noble vision for a breakthrough in medical technology (a great idea, by the way, if it worked).  I know a couple of entrepreneurs who were like this at their start — super young and super inexperienced but able to project a kind of purity of vision, a boldness and determination, that led older people to stop and say: “Well DAMN.  This person is driven.”  And, I think, there was an avuncularity to the kind of support and investments she was able to curry: “This gal could be my daughter!  My niece!  I’d like to help her!”  In this sense, I think her gender helped her earn the affection and trust of many of the well-heeled, well-respected (MALE!) investors and business leaders who championed her: she was a whip-smart young firecracker (using those words intentionally) they could take under their wing and, likely, mold to their own needs.  At some point, she’s arranged such a powerhouse ring of supporters that their presence exonerated her from any question marks one might have had.  “Well, shucks.  It sounds phony but…Henry Kissinger and Bill Frist and General Mattis are standing behind her, so…who am I to object?”

Oh boy, I could go on and on about this, but in the end, I think the story demonstrates just how impressionable people can be — just how easily they can be manipulated, how much business is impacted by personality, how convincing it can be to see someone impressive on a board and to assume that they’ve done their due diligence and use them as a vouchsafe for someone’s integrity.  How human, in other words, we all are, even in the most numbers-driven of fields.

#Shopaholic: The Ladylike Dress.

+I’m swooning over this ladylike dress!  Adore it in the white color.  I’d pair with these my ivory Rockstud flats.

+These fringe mules (on sale for $43!) have such a great Aquazzura vibe to them.

+Faux (or dried!) stems are such a great way to introduce green into your home without the commitment of a live plant.  I have used dried eucalyptus branches, lavender, etc to accent my shelves.  These faux stems are great for the same reason.  I especially love the dusty laurel stems.

+This sweater is AMAZING.  I love it!  Would look so chic layered with a gray skirt underneath a gray coat.

+This speckled vase has an artisanal quality to it that I love.  Can you imagine it on bare light-wood shelves in a rustic-modern cabin?!  I’d use it to arrange flowers in.

+This skirt (on sale for $62!) has a Prada vibe to it.

+My manicurist talked me into trying the polish brand Smith&Cult, claiming it was gentler on the nails, lasted longer, and had the best colors.  I can’t dispute the color comment: their “Kundalini Hustle” is just the kind of candy apple red I gravitate toward.  I found that it does not last as long as the Essie Gel Couture colors, but far longer than any other polish I’ve tried.  Very strongly recommend.

+Ordered this tee in multiples.  I love a super-thin, super-soft layering tee for wearing under sweaters in the winter, and the colors are great.

+Absolutely LOVE this geometric pleated skirt.  SO CHIC.  The colors, the print.  Everything.

+I need to investigate the quality in person, but this looks just like the ultra-covetable Saks Potts sweaters that came out a season or two ago (<<marked down to 70% off here for some reason!  Vite vite!)

A couple weeks ago, I sat down to coffee with a dear friend and we talked about this, that, and the other thing before the conversation funneled into the familiar territory in which I so commonly find myself when talking with women in their 30s: careers and babies and how to juggle the two.  I have an unusual arrangement in this regard, as I have a nanny three days a week so I can write, and then I’m a stay at home mom the other two — and so I often sit back and listen to these conversations noddingly though without input, as I feel I’m not qualified to comment on either of the two more common arrangements: full-time working mother or full-time SAHM.  I am always struck by the overtones of guilt and defensiveness that permeate these conversations, and they leave me sad and philosophical.  That day, though, I was rattled by something my friend said:

“A friend of mine told me she felt she had to work outside the home after they had children because she wanted to remain interesting to her husband.”

Remain interesting to her husband.  The words lingered in the air like cigarette smoke, sickening me.  At first, I scoffed at it, summarily dismissing the inane sentiment that career woman = interesting and mother = boring.  The notion that my intelligence or ability to spar and ideate might be tarnished, diminished, or somehow rubbed off by my new role as a mother — what is that?!   

And yet it would be disingenuous to say that I didn’t get it.  I thought immediately of a brainstorm I once led with my management team at a former job about how best to resolve a complicated workflow issue.  It was stimulating, requiring ingenuity and nimbleness of thought.  We clustered together in a small conference room around a white board, tossing out ideas, citing articles we’d read.  I navigated the dynamics in the room, dodging tempers, appeasing big personalities, coaxing quiet-but-smart types to contribute.  I facilitated the conversation to its resolution and offered to spearhead the implementation.  On the way out, my boss gestured to the small war room we’d just been in and said: “You’re good at that.  Thanks.”  It was not an earth-shattering accomplishment, but I felt respected and intellectually challenged and, well, like a grown-up businesswoman who had earned her keep.  I was also eager to replay the conversation to Mr. Magpie that night, to get his perspective, to impress him, to pass along the compliment I’d received.

I in turn thought about the myriad lively exchanges I’ve had with Mr. Magpie on matters of business, management, workplace culture, product–often empassioned, often accompanied by wine, always showcasing just how invested we have been in our jobs and our teams.  And I thought of the time he sat in an audience of over 200 while I delivered a Ted-talk-like presentation on designing products to improve the financial health of low-income youth and afterward came up to me with his eyes rimmed in red: “I am so, so proud of you.”  Gulping something back, seeing me in a new light.  The time a coach from a female entrepreneurship event I was participating in asked him at a cocktail party: “How does it feel to play second fiddle to this woman?”  (I hated her for saying that, for invoking some kind of weird gender role dynamic, for belittling him — but I loved how he shrugged it off and shut her up with a polite: “It feels great.”  And my heart doubled.)  The times he would squeeze my hand or give me a thumbs up just before or after a big meeting or presentation when we ran a business together.  His enthusiastic — “Yes…yes!  That’s awesome!” — when I would mock up a new product feature or run through a new phrasing in our sale pitch.  The way he would excitedly pace from one end of our kitchen to the other while mulling something over, electric with energy, prodigious with thought. The feeling of being his equal, of being respected and trusted and leaned upon in all things as his co-founder.

The thought that I could lose this interest and respect was new and devastating to consider.  I wondered, suddenly, how he saw me after all.  I wondered if the slow and inevitable transition in dinnerplace conversation from business matters to baby food would gradually take its toll, whether slowly he would start carrying his workplace musings elsewhere, would assume I was too disconnected to comprehend or empathize with them.

I fretted over this for the better part of a week.  I intentionally kept our evening discussions far afield from mini’s evolved nap schedule and the new bibs I’d just ordered.  I asked about his day, asked after what had happened with a new project, offered my own perspective.  I contemplated telling him what was on my mind, but knew exactly what he would say to me: “You’re being ridiculous.”

And, well — I was.

I am still the first person Mr. Magpie turns to for help with wordsmithing.  I routinely edit his emails to colleagues, letters of recommendation he has penned for members of his team, materials for his presentations.  Usually they’re already flawless, but I nitpick anyway, knowing he wants another set of eyes — or, sometimes, the pat on the back he deserves.

He will often call me in search of my perspective on matters related to management.  “This just happened…what do you think?”  Or, “What would you say to this person?”  I always oblige.

He recently contemplated inviting me into his office to help with a product design training he was trying to run, as I have facilitated them in the past.  I was flattered that he would think of me and trust me in front of his new team.

So, I guess I’ve still got it.

And so I have decided to place that corrosive concern in an enormous wooden chest, lock it with a key, and toss it overboard.   Or maybe burn it first and then toss its ashes overboard, just so there’s never a chance it can come floating back to me.  I don’t need that deadweight, that extra burden of guilt and self-doubt.

But mainly I am writing this to say to the other moms out there who might be grappling with the same fear: don’t let your motherliness sit as a counterbalance to yourself.  By that I mean that motherhood is a part of me — not another version of me, and also not all of me. In this sense, the notion that I might become uninteresting to my husband as a stay at home mom betrays a false dichotomy.  It presumes that we are different people in the home vs. at the workplace.  But I am not.  I am me everywhere I go, whether I am pushing a stroller or leading a sales call.  I am the same observant, dare I say interesting person.  And so are you.

Post Scripts: Things You Need to Know About.

+I don’t know how I missed out on this (originally published in 2016) but I am GAGA over Chanel Dror’s wedding day details.

+I am somebody.

+Hold the phone.  J.Crew just came out with a jogger version of their dreamy pant, which — as you know — is pretty much the most comfortable thing ever created, and I own it in multiples.  Ordered immediately.  (These cost less and come in great colors, too.)

+Eight years in!

+I’m in a cashmere state of mind apparently.  Has anyone ever bought any pieces from White+Warren?  I’m drooling over this in the pearl white and this bell-sleeved beauty.

+When was the last time you felt like a fish out of water?

+This satin bow hair accessory!  SO GOOD!

+You must read this book.  It is so juicy and mind-boggling and fascinating.  I need to unpack what I feel about it.  I actually worked for someone startlingly similar to the Holmes described in this book and so it struck a deep chord with me.

+Pageantry.

+Adore these embellished mules!  So chic!

+I have been hesitant on the leopard/cheetah print trend that has been everywhere lately, but this skirt with a simple black tee and black mules would be pretty damn chic.

+Love this plaid blouse!

 

The weather has turned crisp and autumnal in Manhattan and I’m suddenly very aware of the holes in minimagpie’s fall wardrobe.  I instantly ordered a wear-with-everything navy cardigan and these cableknit tights in every color — they’re my favorite.  Thick, warm, and hold up well in the wash.  I sadly retired her Natives Shoes, which were ESSENTIAL over the summer when she was in and out of splash pads all the live long day and swapped in a new pair of Cienta t-straps in red.  And while I should have then focused my sights on layering staples, I instead found myself trying to legitimize the $27 shipping fee for this absolutely precious gingham set from La Coqueta, shown above and below.  My heart!  I will find a way to weasel that into mini’s wardrobe, possibly by waiting for it to crop up at The Tot whenever they restock.  (Incidentally, I bought this La Coqueta dress while on sale in anticipation of next Easter.)

The Fashion Magpie La Coqueta Gingham Outfit

Back to staples: I had been on the lookout for pima cotton peter pan collar onesies/tops.  I used to buy them in multiples from Kissy Kissy (<<these are really the best; extremely durable and so soft) but am finding it hard to track down sizes over 18-24M and mini is really tall.  I am kicking myself for not ordering a few extra of these ones from Spanish line Babidu back when I placed a larger order at SweetPeaKids (a London-based e-boutique) and was willing to justify international shipping.  (I also snagged this, which is perfection.)  The Babidu style is just what I was looking for — very similar to Kissy Kissy and fairly cheap, too!  I did find these discounted Jojo Maman Bebes though, which will do the job well!

A couple of other recent fall finds:

THIS SOPHIE & LUCAS CORDUROY SET (WITH TIGHTS AND CARDI?! YES)

THIS LONG-SLEEVED SMOCK DRESS (ON SALE!)

THIS DARLING PINAFORE

THIS ADORABLE RED JUMPER (PERFECT FOR LAYERING OVER THOSE PETER PAN COLLAR BLOUSES)

THESE KICKS IN LIGHT BLUE OR NAVY (20% OFF YOUR FIRST ORDER IF YOU SIGN UP FOR EMAILS)

THIS PLAID BLOUSE AND THIS OXFORD ONE — IDEAL FOR LAYERING OVER THIS CORDUROY JUMPER, WHICH I AM ITCHING TO BUY IN THE HUNTER GREEN

THESE CLASSIC SHOES!

THIS CABLEKNIT SWEATER IN PINK

THIS EASY-TO-WEAR STRIPED EVERYDAY DRESS*

THIS PRECIOUS FAIR ISLE SWEATER DRESS (ON SALE)

And because I have often received requests to offer more little boy clothing picks (I’m so myopic, I’m sorry!), thought I’d add a few good picks for the wee gents as well:

ACTUALLY DEAD OVER THESE LITTLE BOY DRIVING MOCS

CLASSIC YELLOW SLICKER

LONG-SLEEVED POLOS IN EVERY COLOR

OSH KOSH OVERALLS — I LIKE THE KHAKI WITH THE PLAID CUFF

CABLE-KNIT SWEATER

CHAMBRAY BUTTON-DOWN

THIS GUCCI VIBES SWEATER

THESE JAMMIES OMG OMG OMG OMG

P.S.  Mini is in itty bitty “twinkle toes” pre-ballet classes.  It’s the freaking cutest thing of my life.  They actually requested that the girls wear ballet slippers, if you can believe it!  I ordered these (adorable) and, along with my favorite ILovePlum tutus, got her one of these, which is decently well made for the price.  I also fished this book out of a big chest in which we are storing toys and books that are too mature for mini at the moment — she loves this book now!  I am surprised at how well she is doing with longer books with thinner pages.  She will sit and listen to the entirety of Curious George, which is not as short as you’d think.  Anyway, the Matilda book would be a really nice treat for a child in a family of multiple siblings.  It’s partly about ballet but mainly about making space for yourself in a large family.

P.P.S.  We have given this as a gift to several little boys turning three this year and it has been a big hit.  I think it must be around the age when kiddos are learning about rockets — but we also liked it because it teaches them the basics of physics!

I tend to invest in (or splurge on, depending on whether you’re talking to Mr. Magpie or I) shoes, handbags, and the handful of clothing staples (like denim and outerwear) that I know will take a beating through continuous, heavy use each season.  But a lot of the remainder of my wardrobe is scored on sale or through the careful ferreting out of pieces that look high-end or fashion-forward, but cost far less than you’d expect.  Below, my favorite affordable luxury finds for the season.  (Most of these items are under $100.)

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 1: Everlane Cashmere Crewneck.

First up: my beloved Everlane cashmere crewneck, shown above next to a lovely jewelry case my mother gave me when I was a young thing in my late teens and didn’t appreciate such heirloom-quality gifts (it still bears my maiden initials!) and a string of pearls from my grandmother.  I can’t look at those pearls without thinking of the time she stopped me at our Christmas dinner a year after she’d given them to me as a gift and said: “Oh my!  Where did you get those enormous pearls?!”  HA!  I guess they looked a little larger around my thirteen year old neck than they had around hers.  At any rate.  Cashmere sweater.  I have written about this sweater a number of times but cannot believe that it costs $100 when it feels and looks like it should be well into the $300-$400 range.  Everlane generously sent me the soft blue sweater above (thank you x 1000!) after I wrote about it about 23 times.  Heads up: the color is more heathered and a bit darker than it appears online, but I love it all the same.  I’m currently wearing mine with white distressed denim and Golden Goose sneaks on the reg.  (And I hand-wash it with this.)

The Fashion Magpie Everlane Sweater

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 2: The Puff-Sleeved Blouse.

Speaking of blue (are we sensing a theme?), I was smitten with this dramatically-sleeved blouse from hot line Khaite.

The Fashion Magpie Khaite Top

I found a similar look for less from Arielle Charnas’ latest collection for Nordstrom — it rings in at $85 and I actually prefer the square neck!  Love.  And if you’re not into the blue color, J. Crew has yet another similar style (minus the puff sleeve) on offer in black or white.  I snagged that one in black. The Fashion Magpie Something Navy Top

 

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 3: The Plaid Coat.

I mean, how could you not want to wear the ultra-chic chunky plaid coat seen on Amber Valletta below?  It’s from Escada and if you saw it walking down the street two city blocks ahead of you, you’d pause and think: “Dayuuum, that woman has style.”  You can splurge on this flashy statement yourself to a tune of $2,795 here and waltz through the remaining decades of your life in timeless boucle style (this would work on a 20 year old or a 90 year old and every age in between), or you can get the look for less with this J. Crew style, currently 40% off.  (Aside: I’m dying over this ice blue down coat from Escada, too.  Love that it can be belted!)

The Fashion Magpie Escada Coat

 

The Fashion Magpie Escada Coat

 

The Fashion Magpie JCrew Plaid Jacket

And let’s not forget the minis here: you can score this ladylike boucle topper for your mini me, too.

The Fashion Magpie Baby Plaid Coat

 

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 4: The V-Neck Flat.

I first heard about the apparently iconic Celine “v-neck” flat  (seen below) from my uber-stylish sister, Christina, who has worked in the fashion industry for her entire adult life.  (She now runs her own amazing brand, Dagny London.  You can read all about her here.)  My first thought was — ehhhh, not sure the silhouette is for me.  But, as commonly happens, she is always about two seasons ahead of the curve and I came around to envying them fiercely.  Now you can get the look for less with these stark-white beauties from Mango, and for less than $80!  I also love these J. Crew snakeskin stunners, which are a little less dramatic in the silhouette but achieve a similar look.  These would look SO good with an otherwise staid work wardrobe, elevating anything from a simple black dress to a crisp button-down and dark wash denim.

The Fashion Magpie Celine V Neck

The Fashion Magpie V Neck Flats Mango 1

The Fashion Magpie V Neck Flats Mango 2

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 5: The Fuzzy Fleece.

I know I’ve written about this a lot before, but every fall, I look forward to pulling out my Patagonia Retool Snap T fleece.  It is the snuggliest thing I own and I love its vintage vibe (like something worn in 1970?)  I own it in that oatmeal color, and it’s actually on sale for $77 right now.

The Fashion Magpie Patagonia Fleece

BUT Old Navy also has a shockingly chic fleece hoodie that looks very much like a Patagonia and comes in excellent colors: an oatmeal similar to my own Patagonia and a deep pink-burgundy hue.  I absolutely love those oversized laces at the neck, too.  So chic!  I want to wear this everywhere.

The Fashion Magpie Sherpa Fleece 1

The Fashion Magpie Sherpa Fleece 2

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 6: The Silk Shantung Blouse.

I absolutely love the silk shantung pieces in Mansur Gavriel’s collections over the last few seasons — especially this sleeveless blouse, on sale for $130 in select sizes here, and available in more colors and a range of sizes here.  (Would love to coordinate that blouse with their trousers for a monochrome look.)

The Fashion Magpie Mansur Gavriel Silk Shantung 2

The Fashion Magpie Mansur Gavriel Silk Shantung 1

Fortunately for us, we can get the look for even less with this J. Crew blouse (note the bow in the back!!!!)

The Fashion Magpie Silk Blouse

 

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 7: The Ice Blue Coat.

Sorry I’ve written about this Ganni coat so much but man do I love it.  The plaid, the color, the length, the beltedness!  You can get a similar ice blue look with this Something Navy teddy style, which turned my head.  Love it paired with white and shades of blue.

The Fashion Magpie Ganni Coat

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 8: The Chunky Marled Sweater.

This ACNE sweater is so cozy-chic.  I think it’d be amazing paired with coated black jeans and some embellished, pointed toe mules (get the look for less with these).

The Fashion Magpie ACNE Marl Sweater

You can get the marled sweater look for less with this style from J. Crew.

The Fashion Magpie J Crew Sweater

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 9: The Bow-Sleeved Dress.

I have been drooling over these dramatic-bow Roksanda dresses for awhile now.  What a statement!  Ladylike and whimsical all the same.

The Fashion Magpie Roksanda Bow Dress

Get the look for less with this $50 Zara steal.  Alternately, get a similar look with a bow at the waist in this knit midi.

The Fashion Magpie Zara Bow Dress

Affordable Luxury Pick No. 10: The Patagonia Kids Alternatives.

Who doesn’t love a classic Patagonia fleece for a little one?  I’ve invested in a few already in my time as a mom but when the wee ones are little, it kills me how briefly they are able to wear a given size.  Luckily, there are some solid lookalikes on the market.  Instead of the darling furry friends fleece shown below, you can get the look for less with this $20 steal.  (Though please note that if you sign up for emails at BackCountry, you get 15% off your first purchase!)  I got mini this fleece for the fall in pink, but this vest nails the look at a fraction of the price.  And then there’s the classic Retro-X Patagonia fleece.  Get the look for less with this or even less with this (love the green)!

The Fashion Magpie Patagonia Fleece

 

P.S.  I think they call that kismet.

P.P.S.  I’m heading home to D.C. for a few days this weekend, and have been thinking a lot about this.

P.P.P.S  Do you ever break curfew?

 

I’ve been having a field day watching all of the fashion shows and fashion week festivities as they jump from New York to London to Paris.  Below, my absolute favorite micro-trends — plus how to get the look…

AW18 Microtrend 1: Marigold.

Marigold was EVERYWHERE on the runway — from Mansur Gavriel (top) to Oscar (middle) to Carolina Herrera (bottom).  I especially love it paired with pastel blue (more on that later).

The Fashion Magpie Marigold Trend 1 The Fashion Magpie Marigold Trend 2

Get the marigold look with…

THIS BALLOON-SLEEVED SWEATER (LOVE)

A STUNNING WOVEN MAXI

A CASHMERE CREWNECK

A FUN EMBELLISHED HEADBAND (I’D PAIR WITH A CRISP WHITE DRESS/BUTTON-DOWN AND LOAFERS TO TONE DOWN THE PRINCESS-Y-NESS)

AW18 Microtrend 2: Feathers.

I was drooling over the 1960s Holly Golightly vibe at Marc Jacobs — especially the marigold feathered number seen below (top).  Stunning.  Feathers were also prominent at Oscar de la Renta (second from top), Attico (third from top), and Brock collection (bottom).

The Fashion Magpie Feather Trend 1

The Fashion Magpie Feather Trend 2

The Fashion Magpie Feather Trend 4

The Fashion Magpie Feathers

Get the feather look with…

THIS DARLING BAG

THIS SPLASHY BLOUSE (FOR A NIGHT OUT!  AMAZING!)

THESE FUN EARRINGS

 

AW18 Microtrend 3: Fuzzy Sweaters.

I know I saw them elsewhere, but can only come up with the snap below of street style starlet Jenny Walton wearing a fuzzy mohair sweater — and man is she darling in it!  (She made the skirt!!!)

The Fashion Magpie Fuzzy Sweater

Get Jenny’s entire look with…

A FLUFFY SWEATER LIKE THIS PASTEL BEAUTY, THIS TEXTURED GRAY STUNNER, OR THIS MANGO STEAL  (LOOKS A LOT LIKE THIS GANNI)

A FLORAL MIDI LIKE THIS OR THIS

THIS MANSUR GAVRIEL BAG (GET THE LOOK FOR LESS WITH THIS)

AW18 Microtrend 4: The 80s.

I’ll admit I’m a little skeptical of the return of the 80s, but there was a LOT of it on the runways — both in the form of neon colors and amped up dramatic dresses straight from 1984.  Below, snaps from Prada (top), Brandon Maxwell (second from top), Oscar (again — third from top), and Prabal Gurung.

The Fashion Magpie 80s The Fashion Magpie Brandon Maxwell The Fashion Magpie Marigold Trend 2 The Fashion Magpie Prabal Gurung

GET THE 80S LOOK WITH…

THIS BARBIE DOLL PINK ULLA CONFECTION (#BACHELORETTE)

THIS SKIRT (LOOKS LIKE PRADA BUT COSTS FAR LESS)

THIS ASYMMETRIC DRESS ($100 AND SO BADASS)

THESE HOT PINK MULES

AW18 Microtrend 5: Ice Blue.

Finally, I saw a ton of the most elegant, ladylike ice blue color, including at Brock Collection (top), Erdem (second from top), Mansur Gavriel (third from top), and Rodarte (bottom).

The Fashion Magpie Ice Blue 3 The Fashion Magpie Ice Blue 2

The Fashion Magpie Ice Blue 1

The Fashion Magpie Ice Blue 4

GET THE ICE BLUE LOOK WITH…

THIS GANNI COAT

THIS CHUNKY KNIT FROM A CULT-FOLLOWING BRAND

GANNI PUMPS

Quick micropost — just got an email last night giving me early access to a major Shopbop coupon code:

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THE BLUE COAT I’VE BEEN BLABBING ABOUT (TIME TO PULL THE TRIGGER??)

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P.S.  The years that ask questions, and the years that answer.

P.P.S.  Wishbones and backbones.

 

Once a month, I meet with a group of whip-smart ladies in Sheep Meadow to discuss books.  I leave in a kind of intellectually-charged daze, my mind alight with new observations and re-readings of the book at hand.  This book club has reminded me why book clubs exist: to make us better readers.  It has revealed to me — in a way that teaching and studying in the classroom never did — that there are different kinds of readers.  In school, there was a kind of prescriptiveness to the sorts of observations we were able to make.  We never talked about whether we liked Tess of the D’Urbervilles or Hester Prynne or Humbert Humbert, or whether we felt that a particular authorial strategy worked or not, or whether the book was just too damned long.  Instead, we focused on identifying the devices at play in a given text, unpacking the language, charting the course of a particular theory through the plot in front of us, tracing the cultural and literary and familial influences that may have shaped the design of the book.  There was something borderline scientific about it, as if we were pinning insects to a board and itemizing their parts with numbers.  “Yes, yes — 3a., catachresis used here.”  But I’ve come to learn that this academizing of the act of reading — while it made me appreciate and respect The Author and The Text — subjugated the very human impulse to decide for myself whether or not I cared about the characters.  Whether or not the book was fun to read.  Whether or not I would recommend it to a friend, a sister, a colleague.  Every book was important, serious, worthy by virtue of its inclusion on the syllabus — whether it was a joy to read or not.  (No thank you, Waverly.)  My book club has restored a sense of readerly humanity to me, has granted me permission to emote around  books in a way I’ve not indulged since I was a teen.  It has made me realize that good readership can come in many forms, and I’d like to acknowledge those forms here:

Thank you, Jess, my strong feminist reader.  I find myself smirking as I read a particularly gender-charged section: “Aha, just wait until Jess sees this passage; she’s going to have a field day.”  I love your conviction, your passion, your occasional contrarian-ness.  You add rich color to our conversations, and I respect your willingness to stake an alternative reading when the group seems to have swung in a different direction.

Thank you, Diana, for your groundedness, for showing me how to connect to characters who are so different from me.  Your empathy for the characters in books — your willingness to meet them where they are, understand them without passing judgement — astounds me.  You are generous in the way you read.

Thank you, Charlotte, for your laser-sharp observations.  Nothing slips by you.  You are one of the most alert, diligent readers I’ve ever encountered, and I can always count on you to call out a character or author for something untoward or unlikeable or problematic.  I think mainly of you when I am scoring these books.  “Charlotte will disagree, but I’m giving this a generous four…”

Thank you, Inslee, for the biting wit and skepticism with which you read; you make even the dryest of books racy and hilarious.  Of everyone in the book club, I’m always most surprised by what you have to say; I can never predict whether you will like or hate something, will laugh or nod at something.  But whatever it is, you will startle me with your well-observed (often sardonic) commentary.

Thank you, Susie, for your inquisitiveness, your curiosity.  I love that you return to and re-read passages to make sure you understand what has happened.  You demonstrate such devotion and earnestness in your reading that it makes me want to be more careful in my reading.

Thank you, Diana, for your lowkey brilliance.  You will shruggingly toss out an observation that entirely reshapes the way I think about a character, a plot line, an authorial decision.  “Yeah, well, she needed to tell the story that way in order to build suspense,” you’ll say, picking at a blade of grass and glancing around unassumingly.  BOOM.  My understanding of the book has been reformed.

Thank you, Gina, for your investment in the books and characters we read.  I know few people who care more about what happens in literature than you do — the way you talk about characters and plotlines, with such passion and empathy and frustration, engages me deeply in the books we read, makes me see the books as extensions of our own experiences.

ICYMI: please read along!  And if you’re in NYC, shoot me an email to reserve a spot for our next gathering.  We’ll be meeting in the art studio of the fabulously talented Inslee, who just recently sent me this moving article on french fries and parenting that had us both in tears.

Post Script: The Best Books I’ve Read in the Last Two Years.

We talked about a lot of books on this blog, but here is a shortlist — the can’t miss, must read of the bunch.

+All the Names They Used for God by Anjali Sachdeva.  Easily my favorite book we’ve read in book club thus far.  Wildly imaginative, creepy, provocative.  The stories sit with you for a long while.  Full review here.

+The Last Mrs. Parrish by Liv Constantine.  In a totally different category: this chick lit thriller slayed me.  I was reading into the wee hours of the morning with this one.  I can’t recall the last time a book shocked me as much as this one did.  Such a thrill ride.

+In Other Words by Jhumpa Lahiri.  This quiet little book on language and identity doubles back on itself.  It reads simply but you’ll find yourself treading in deep waters, mulling over the metacommentary for weeks after.  But what is language after all? you’ll find yourself wondering.  Potent, big stuff.

+Upstream by Mary Oliver.  A poetic, stirring set of musings on nature and life and boundaries and blurrings between them.  This left me philosophical.

+The Silent Duchess by Dacia Maraini.  One of the funkiest, richest books I’ve ever read.  A lot happening here on the gender front between love and sexual assault, patriarchies and matriarchies, inheritances and bloodlines, silence and speech.  Very very very very weird and very very very very good.

+Open by Andre Agassi.  OK, I might have read this over two years ago.  But just over.  This was one of the best memoirs I’ve ever read.  A fascinating and insightful (poetic!) look at tennis and its psychology, plus juicy drama about one of the biggest sports stars of the 90s.  Really good read.

What about you?  If you could nominate just one book as the best book you’ve read in the last two years, what would it be?

P.S.  All the things you need for fall, plus this dress and this blouse (for date night — ps it’s lined).  And maybe this dress for work (Chanel vibes!)

P.P.S.  In case you’re already on the hunt for a festive look for the holiday circuit: this blouse or — wait for it — this epic $98 dress, which feels like a more sophisticated approach to glitter.  Kind of like my boots in that cool gunmetal hue.  LOVE.

P.P.P.S.  10 books that will change your life.