I can’t get enough burgundy this season! So many of the fall dresses I featured in this blogpost last week feature it and I love the way it plays with navy, khaki/taupe, pink, ivory, and forest green. A few favorite finds in this moody hue:

burgundy fashion finds fall 2021

ALEMAIS DRESS // TORY BURCH LOAFERS // EN SAISON DRESS // OPI NAIL COLOR // HEADBAND // LEE MATHEWS DRESS // MIU MIU PLATFORMS // MONCLER PUFFER // ANN MASHBURN TWEED JACKET // MARGAUX MULES // TURTLENECK SWEATER DRESS // ZIMMERMANN BLOUSE

These and more below…

THIS FREE PEOPLE DRESS — HATE HOW IT’S STYLED ON THE SITE, BUT WITH A DELICATE HEELED SANDAL AND UPDO AND A BERRY STAIN ON THE LIPS, PERFECT FOR A FALL WEDDING! THE BACK IS STUNNING!

LADYLIKE ALEMAIS MIDI

KHAITE TOTE

PADDED HEADBAND – I OWN A VERY SIMILAR ONE FROM LELE SADOUGHI IN THIS SAME COLOR(LAST SEASON, NO LONGER AVAIL) THAT I WORE ALL WINTER LONG LAST YEAR!

ZIMMERMANN SATIN WRAP DRESS

$120 ULLA-ESQUE SCORE – PERFECT THANKSGIVING DRESS

RUST-COLORED KICK FLARES

TURTLENECK SWEATER DRESS

MANOLO MAYSALES, OR A PAIR VERY INSPIRED BY THE LOOK FOR UNDER $50

SILK BLOUSE TO PAIR WITH SILK TROUSERS (WOWZAAAA) OR A LONG SKIRT

GINGHAM LEE MATTHEWS DRESS

TURTLENECK BODYSUIT

THIS DRESS IN THE PATTERNED BURGUNDY REMINDS ME OF A SEA DRESS I OWN! BUT $40!

ERDEM MAGIC

KULE TEE

THIS POPLIN TOP (UNDER $100)

BATSHEVA DRESS — I’D BALANCE OUT THE PRIMNESS OF THE DRESS WITH THESE BOLD VELVET MIU MIU PLATFORMS

NAP DRESS, OF COURSE

CORDUROY MONCLER PUFFER

CORDUROY BALLCAP

RUST VELVET MULES

BORROWED-FROM-THE-BOYS SWEATSHIRT

OPI NAIL COLOR

ALEXA CHUNG DRESS

ANN MASHBURN TWEED JACKET (THANKS TO THE MAGPIE REC ON THIS!)

TORY FLORAL LOAFERS

P.S. “I respect the athlete at the start line.”

P.P.S. “Is it possible to experience a full day of happiness? A full afternoon? Or does happiness always exist like this: in startling sips? I think back on a couple of fantastic trips, experiences, meals, special occasions, “golden hours,” and I feel as though maybe I’ve “rounded up” and written the entirety of the day off as “happy” when I’m certain, come to think of it, there were moments of stress or frustration or quietude tucked in there alongside the good. And what does it mean that I think about happiness as little dots along the seams of my days?” More on happiness here.

P.P.P.S. Fall textures and some fun recent finds.

My Latest Snag: Decorative Pumpkins.

I shared this earlier this week, but I snagged a couple of textured pumpkins for one of my mantels: this green one, two of these ivories, and one faux fur. Even more options below:

You’re Soooo Popular: Baby Halloween Costume.

The most popular items on le blog this week:

+Baby bunny Halloween costume.

+Lug Von Siga dress. (Swoon! I happen to know that a few of you chic brides-to-be snagged this one!)

+Reversible quilted jacket.

+BEST counter spray.

+My favorite pumps of all time.

+Clogs for $35!

+My favorite bra, on sale for 55% off.

+My devotional.

+SEA-inspired everyday dress for under $30.

+Another fab everyday dress from Target – I ordered this in the blue floral.

+Scallop-trim personalized stationery for $20!

+Waterproof school/playground labels for your little one’s gear.

+Nap dress in emerald floral.

+Zella running tank.

+Monogrammed wreath sash.

+Quilted cocoon puffer.

+Taper candles.

+Athletic shorts for littles.

Weekend Musings: We Were in Exile.

I mentioned yesterday that I would like to read Natalia Ginzburg’s book of essays, The Little Virtues, originally published in Italian in 1962. I read an excerpt from the first chapter and this passage fixed me to my seat:

“When the first snows began to fall a quiet sadness took hold of us. We were in exile: our city was a long way off, and so were books, friends, the various desultory events of a real existence. We lit our green stove with its long chimney that went through the ceiling: we gathered together in the room with the stove—there we cooked and ate, my husband wrote at the big oval table, the children covered the floor with toys. There was an eagle painted on the ceiling of the room, and I used to look at the eagle and think that was exile. Exile was the eagle, the murmur of the green stove, the vast, silent countryside and the motionless snow. At five o’clock the bell of the church of Santa Maria would ring and the women with their black shawls and red faces went to Benediction. Every evening my husband and I went for a walk: every evening we walked arm in arm, sinking our·feet into the snow. The houses that ran alongside the street were lived in by people we knew and liked, and they all used to come to the door to greet us. Sometimes one would ask, ‘When will you go back to your own house?’ My husband answered, ‘When the war is over.’ ‘And when will this war be over? You know everything and you’re a professor, when will it be over?’ They called my husband ‘the professor’ because they could not pronounce his name, and they came from a long way off to ask his advice on the most diverse things—the best season for having teeth out, the subsidies which the town hall gave, and the different taxes and duties.”

Sometimes reading is like opening a hand, and I receive what it is written like a gift, floating towards the experience of another. But sometimes I read with a kind of voracious selfishness, funneling and even bending the words to fit my own experiences. When I saw these words from Ginzburg, all I could think of was March through August of 2020, when we were hunkered down in our Manhattan apartment in quarantine. We felt in exile then, too — “our city a long way off” even though we were technically inside of it. We, too, were disconnected from “the various desultory events of a real existence.” We spent those months gathered together in the same rooms, straining for cadences of normalcy: not Church bells, in our case, but the nightly applause to cheer on the essential workers during those dark times. Even the final line of that paragraph feels perfectly-attuned to the way we all peered anxiously at experts during those days. “When will it be over? You know everything, when?!”

I think perhaps I am still processing that experience, and finding the words of others — even words that do not belong to this era, or this COVID context, and that I perhaps should not liken to my own experience for ethical reasons (i.e., we were not exiles of war) — a salve on a wound. Or if not a salve, some sort of medicine.

I know we are still very much living in the era of COVID, and that people are dying daily, and that we are perhaps too close in and to tender-hearted to begin to sketch out the contours of our experiences during this period. But the experience of living during that time in NYC versus later in the year in NYC, or currently in our home in Bethesda, manifest in stark contrast with each other. For this difference, I am overwhelmed with relief. I find myself thinking back on that period as if it were a nightmare. And so it is helpful to reframe those memories in the words of others, or to connect my own experience then to the disparate reality of Natalia Ginzburg in the 1940s in Abruzzi. Interestingly, the subtitle to the particular essay I excerpted above reads: “God has given us this moment of peace.” I’ll take that reminder, bird-like, back to my nest.

Post-Scripts: Fab Table Lamp.

+Fabulous table lamp at a great price.

+I’m not ready to think about Christmas, but I did come across these darling new ornaments at Nordies. Love this dachsunds!

+Love this scoopneck layering piece in all three colors. Great for tucking into skirts, layering beneath vests/blazers/etc. On sale for $26 right now!

+This top is just so pretty.

+OOOO this puffer coat!!!!

+I’ve been casually looking for a fun evil eye necklace when I want to layer a bunch of delicate pieces over a simple white tee. I think this one is the ticket, in the “E” design!

+I’m desperate to make this belt my own. Can you even?! I want to wear over everything.

+Outnet has some amazing scores ATM: this Sandro dress, these corduroy loafers, this Joie sweater, and this cashmere turtleneck.

+Recent Target finds.

+20% off everything at SuperGoop with code SUPER20. I am a major fan of their glowscreen. I wear it on mornings I go running when I want a tiny bit of oomph/coverage but don’t want actual makeup on.

+Just love these half-zips. Such good colors and the shape feels right for the season.

+Darling everyday dress with clogs!

+I’ve shared these organizational products before, but this expandable bamboo cutlery/implement organizer is the best — great quality and conforms with any drawer size — and these shallow clear containers are ideal for medicine cabinets, junk drawers, desk drawers, etc.

+And these drawer dividers are fantastic for dressers! They actually enable me to uphold folding things like Marie Kondo.

+Darling jumper for a little lady. Love it with a peter pan collar top.

+Loving these dried grasses for fall decor.

+This blouse, tucked into fab new denim for fall…

+A late entrant to my Tuckernuck sale finds!

+Cute little Lilly-inspired bracelet for your little lady.

+This frilled cardigan is in my cart.

+Outerwear and cool weather footwear for your littles.

+Adore the liners on these personalized notecards.

+This sweater. Wow.

+This jacket is major.

+My favorite foldable fabric storage cubes come in so many colors now — love the pale blue!

Tuckernuck is currently offering up to 30% off during its spend-more-save-more Friends & Family sale. Use code BESTFRIEND to get 20% off $250, 25% off $500, and 30% off $1000. My favorite picks:

DUDLEY STEPHENS FLEECE IN BLACK OR NAVY OR KHAKI

CASEY MARKS JAMIE DRESS (PERFECT FOR A MAMA-TO-BE / BABY SHOWER)

LE MONDE BERYL VELVET FLATS

CLARE VIVIER TOTE

ASHA MOTHER OF PEARL STUDS

THIS PARAVEL-INSPIRED TOTE

STRIPED MAXI DRESS

MY FAVORITE MELAMINE PLATES

MY FAVORITE JAMMIES ON MICRO AS A BABE

THIS EMILIA-WICKSTEAD-INSPIRED DRESS (IMAGINE BENEATH AN EMBROIDERED CARDIGAN FROM SHRIMPS OR THIS LOOK-FOR-LESS OPTION…CHIC!)

P.S. Some great upscale athleisure finds here.

P.P.S. To my husband: “There is something about growing old with you that continues to return me to my teenage years, as if every trip around the sun is also a reclamation of things past, every rotation a winnowing inward, closer to you and me as we were at eighteen.”

P.P.P.S. Our NYC bucket list.

*Image above of James Cook’s dreamy library in Paris. Swoon.

I have read nothing since June. The old me would have felt guilty about this, but the current me shrugs and says: “We’ll get back there again.” I love reading for many reasons – escape, provocation, intellectual stimulation, instruction of various kinds – and I feel a nearly vocational commitment to maintaining its habit in my life, but I have finally come to the view that there are heavy seasons where my engagement with some of my favorite pastimes will need to temporarily wane. Moving put everything on hold, but in the weeks since the dust has settled, I have been prioritizing time with my husband in the evening and exercise (when I can) in the morning and I have not been finding enough give in my week to accommodate reading, too. Now that mini is off to school and we seem to be falling into a more regular routine, I have had occasion to pick up a book and it feels delightful. (Hello, old friend!). There is nothing better than getting into bed early with wet hair and a good book. Four books that have lured me back into the saddle, all of which are on the “best-seller, great-for-cocktail-party-convo” side of the spectrum:

1 // Sally Rooney, Beautiful World Where Are You. I loved her earlier novels so much I trekked out to Brooklyn to hear her speak while I was 234 months pregnant and mildly to aggressively worried I might go into labor while on the D train. She is exceptional at building chemistry between characters in small details, like describing the positioning of two bodies, the movement of hands in hair, the casual conversations. I am again wowed by her technique in this regard though I will say the book is not as gripping as her earlier ones were. That said, a few Magpies chimed in to say the novel becomes “stickier” as it unfolds. Description: “Alice, a novelist, meets Felix, who works in a warehouse, and asks him if he’d like to travel to Rome with her. In Dublin, her best friend, Eileen, is getting over a break-up, and slips back into flirting with Simon, a man she has known since childhood. Alice, Felix, Eileen, and Simon are still young―but life is catching up with them. They desire each other, they delude each other, they get together, they break apart.” More on her earlier novels here.

2 // Liane Moriarty, Apples Never Fall. The magic-touch author of Big Little Lies, Nine Perfect Strangers, and — my personal favorite, What Alice Forgot (seriously love that book and wish it had been made into a show; if you are looking for a fail-proof “get me hooked on a book I can’t put down,” start there!) is back again. I always enjoy Moriarty’s cinematic, family-oriented drama and rich character design. Description: “If your mother was missing, would you tell the police? Even if the most obvious suspect was your father? This is the dilemma facing the four grown Delaney siblings. The Delaneys are fixtures in their community. The parents, Stan and Joy, are the envy of all of their friends. They’re killers on the tennis court, and off it their chemistry is palpable. But after 50 years of marriage, they’ve finally sold their famed tennis academy and are ready to start what should be the golden years of their lives. So why are Stan and Joy so miserable?…”

3 // Shari La Pena, Not A Happy Family. If you are a thriller-lover, here’s our next joy ride. I absolutely love thrillers both because they represent a total escape and I find them interesting as a genre in contemporary society, especially from a gender lens. (Like, why is it that so many modern thrillers involve unhappy family relationships, where the evil one is “from inside” — a wanton husband, an evil mother-in-law, a cruel child, etc?). La Pena has some fantastic recent thrillers under her belt (my favorite was The Couple Next Door), and the latest sounds winning: “Brecken Hill in upstate New York is an expensive place to live. You have to be rich to have a house there, and Fred and Sheila Merton certainly are rich. But even all their money can’t protect them when a killer comes to call. The Mertons are brutally murdered after a fraught Easter dinner with their three adult kids. Who, of course, are devastated. Or are they? They each stand to inherit millions.”

4 // Janet Hadlow, The Other Bennet Sister. First, let me thank a Magpie for prompting me to tune into an interesting podcast interview by a UVA faculty member who specializes in 19th century literature in the comments on this post. I enjoyed listening and specifically snagged the Hadlow book rec from her! In The Other Bennet Sister, “Mary, the bookish ugly duckling of Pride and Prejudice’s five Bennet sisters, emerges from the shadows and transforms into a desired woman with choices of her own.” Perfect fan lit for those of us in love with P&P. Cannot wait to read this.

Wheeee — I am so excited to read all four of these romps. A few other books on my radar that have been getting quite a bit of buzz once I make my way through this easy-lift list…

fall 2021 book picks

THE OTHER BLACK GIRL, Zakiya Dalila Harris

CRYING IN H MART, Michelle Zauner

WHEREABOUTS, Jhumpa Lahiri (one of my long-time favorite authors)

DIARY OF A YOUNG NATURALIST, Dara McAnulty

This one is older but it’s been on my list for a long time and is speaking to me at the moment: The Little Virtues, Natalia Ginzburg.

Some other suggestions, if you’re also attempting to climb out of a reading rut or ease out of a busy-season hiatus:

HOW TO GET OUT OF A READING SLUMP (GREAT COMMENTS ON THIS POST)

MY FAVORITE AUDIOBOOKS

10 GREAT BEACH READS

10 BOOKS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE (*SHE ASSERTS BOLDLY*)

MY FAVORITE BOOK PUBLISHED IN THE LAST DECADE

ONE OF THE MOST PROFOUNDLY SAD, DARK BOOKS I’VE EVER READ — BUT SOMETIMES YOU WANT TO JUST CURL UP AND WEEP

Shopping Break.

+OK, I misread the fine print — the Clarins sale is still ongoing! Snag my favorite serum on the planet at a discount.

+I keep coming back to this denim cocoon coat…and I never knew I always needed a Liberty puffer vest.

+Pretty sure this cute little puffer tote is going to be my everyday fall bag. (Gives me Khaite vibes for less.). I’ll be sharing a post on this later today, but Tuckernuck is currently running a promotion of up to 30% off (spend more, save more), so you could snag it on sale here if you buy with something else.

+Just treated myself to my favorite lip product in a new color — punch.

+On my radar for fall beauty: these W.A. eye pods.

+And speaking of beauty: Sephora is currently offering 20% off all foundation PLUS free ship with code SAVE20, which means you can snag Westman Atelier’s superb foundation stick at a rare discount. I wear either this or Laura Mercier’s tinted moisturizer (also 20% off!) every single day. In years past, I have used and liked Giorgio Armani’s famous formula as well as Bare Faced’s formula, though I do feel those offer a heavier/more full-coverage look. (W.A. is like buttah — it just blends into skin, provided you’re well-hydrated. Amazing product.)

+Are you a bath person? We have a soaking tub in my new home and I think I could become one. Maybe slather on a face mask and read for 15 minutes at the end of the day? I think I’m going to splurge on a bottle of Suzanne Kaufman’s bath oil (essentially has a cult following), though I’ve recently heard a couple of different beauty bloggers rave about a classic epsom soak and want to give that a whirl, too.

+Love this fall accessory. Throw on with anything in your closet and instantly feel on-trend and seasonally appropriate.

+A few other Halloween jammie options, most of them fully stocked in all sizes: Hannah Andersson (mini had the cats two years ago; I like the black ones with moons/bats this year), 1212, and Carter.

+I’d like to start cooking for my husband again — he does all (100%) of the cooking for the two of us, though I do cook for the children daily. (We are in a phase where, between early bedtimes and picky eaters, we usually eat after the children are down, but would one day like to synchronize.). Anyhow, my pledge to Mr. Magpie was that I would like to buy a new cookbook or two and make my way through them by cooking recipes from them once a month. A few celebrated cookbooks I’m eyeing for this project:

MARCELLA HAZAN’S ITALIAN KITCHEN

FUCHSIA DUNLOP’S EVERY GRAIN OF RICE

ATK’S AUTUMN AND WINTER COOKBOOK (RELEASED NEXT TUESDAY)

+Or maybe I’ll just go through our existing (and enormous) cookbook library. Some of my favorite cookbooks here.

+This baking cookbook is also in my cart. I was really (!) impressed by a cake of hers I made using a recipe I found online.

+Speaking of, lessons in baking.

+These melamine plates would be so chic on an autumnal table! Imagine with tortoise cutlery against a taupe gingham tablecloth with some red or orange mums.

+And for the kids’ table: this taupe gingham wipeable tablecloth!

+Just the chicest fall bag.

+This Etsy shop offers well-priced, “above-the-knee-length” gingham shorts for tiny boys if you still need some shorts to tide you over til cold weather arrives.

+Such a fabulous everyday dress for fall. Would work in basically any setting with the appropriate accessories — casual work outfit, playdate/playground, coffee, cocktails!

+Great slouchy sweater to wear with your favorite jeans or leggings.

+This taupe blazer is super chic. Love the tie — makes it more feminine.

+I remain in a committed relationship with my Revlon One-Step (on sale for around $30 in the aqua color ATM) but there are random occasions where I let my hair air-dry because of schedule, rush, etc. I’m intrigued by this leave-in product for air-drying your hair — gets good reviews.

+A full review on the One-Step here.

*Image above via Sal E Pimenta featuring one of their darling new arrivals.

Thanksgiving is already on my radar, and we have a few other special occasions and parties coming up, too. Today, sharing precious special occasion dresses and accessories (many more shoe and outerwear options here!) for your little lady:

fall special occasion dresses for little girls

LULI & ME DRESS // CONDOR SOCKS // BLUE BOW // BOOTS // HOPE & HENRY PLAID // CECIL & LOU NAVY CORDUROY // VELVET HAIR BOW SET // LUCA AND LUCA FLORAL // SCALLOPED RIBBON // TIGHTS // L/S SMOCKED PLUM BLOSSOM DRESS // FAIR ISLE CARDI // LA COQUETA DRESS // BURGUNDY TIGHTS // TAUPE BOW // EMBROIDERED BURGUNDY DRESS // BLOOMER SET

Even more options below…

NAVY CORDUROY

L/S SMOCKED PLUM BLOSSOM

SAGE RUFFLE-TRIM SOCKS

LULI & ME PERFECTION

NAVY TAFFETA

NAVY KNEESOCKS AT A GREAT PRICE

OSO&ME TATTERSALL

SAL & PIMENTA BOW COLLAR

LUCA & LUCA CHECK — I BOUGHT MY CHILDREN’S THANKSGIVING OUTFITS FROM HERE LAST YEAR…PRECIOUS!

KHAKI GINGHAM — SWEET WITH A FAIR ISLE CARDI

LA COQUETA BURGUNDY VELVET AND PINK WOOL — MUST HAVE THE TIGHTS TO MATCH!

EMBROIDERED BURGUNDY (UNDER $20!) — YOU CAN TWIN IN THIS

WOOL PLAID (LAYER OVER A KISSY KISSY PETER PAN TOP)

LA COQUETA VIBES FOR LESS WITH THIS KNIT ROMPER

CABLE KNIT TIGHTS FOR $8

VELVET HAIR BOW SET

GRAY PLAID

LOVE THESE TEXTURED HAIR BOWS FOR THE HOLIDAY

TARTINE ET CHOCOLAT TWEED

GRAY PATENT LEATHER DRESS BOOTS

TINY NAP DRESS TO MATCH MAMA

EMERALD GREEN BLOCK PRINT

GINGHAM LINEN

CONDOR TIGHTS AND POM SOCKS — THE O.G. AND EXCELLENT QUALITY

EXAGGERATED COLLAR FLORAL

SCALLOPED HAIR RIBBON

WINTER BLUE FLORALTHIS FOR BABY SIS

OLD NAVY BLOOMER SET

P.S. New jammies and slippers for little ones.

P.P.S. Our current favorite bedtime books.

P.P.P.S. On focusing on just what’s ahead and ignoring the rest.

*I know I have a lot of Magpie brides-to-be reading — so (!) exciting. I’ve been trying to keep my bridal shop page up to date. The exact shoes above are via Tatyana Kochnova. You might find my post on what I’d register for if I were getting married this year helpful.

Q: Shoes to wear to a wedding in October in New England.

A: If you’re game for trends, platforms or back in a major way. Splurge on these or save on these, or go slightly less bold in these. Alternately: these suede block-heel mules are genius because they’re seasonally appropriate but would be comfortable to wear and dance in. They serve up major Loeffler Randall vibes but cost a fraction of the price. Also love these glitter mules from AB, but these suede pointed-toe heels are similar and under $100! Finally, I’m majorly lusting after these Manolos for this fall/winter. Finally, these are my long-time go-to wear-any-season wedding sandals.

Q: Fall booties.

A: I’ve mentioned these a lot lately, but these kitten heel style ones have been my go-to silhouette for years and years now. I also own the more expensive but similar looking Birman Kitty booties and wear both Talbots and AB allll winter long. They are so streamlined and easy to wear, and I love the way they look with long winter/fall dresses like this or any of the fall nap dresses, too. For more of an informal look, I also wore these No. 6 clog boots ALL of last winter during the day, especially for school pick-up when I needed to trek through whatever New York winter had to throw at me. They are seriously warm, waterproof, and surprisingly easy to walk in (don’t feel as chunky as they look). If you’re looking for something in between, I have long loved these Isabel Marant boots. So, so chic.

Q: Non-tacky Halloween costume for kids and adults.

A: I’m similarly squeamish about dressing up as an adult, so I’m not your best guide here! I shared lots of cute Halloween costume finds for littles here, and personally would just start with something you like for your little and then craft yourself as the sidekick, i.e., if she is Dorothy, you go as a half-hearted (haha) cowardly lion with something like this paired with a slick fall outfit you like, i.e. this gorgeous coat. I don’t know — I’m never big into costumes myself! Am I a buzzkill?

Q: Dress for fall black tie wedding.

A: I have been working hard to keep the wedding guest section of my shop up to date since this is far and away the most-asked question I field, but a couple specific to the black-tie request:

THIS SIMPLE AND SLEEK BLACK GOWN

THIS BADGLEY MISCHKA (MARKED WAY DOWN AND WOWWW)

THIS BACKLESS FLORAL

THIS SPECTACULAR FLORAL APPLIQUE

THIS EDGY TIBI — LOVE THE SHAPE (!!)

THIS SACHIN & BABI IS SPECTACULAR WITH A BIG SPARKLY EARRING

Q: Cute athletic clothes for my children for soccer, etc.

A: Currently, micro wears Petits Vilains shorts, Gap toddler tees (I also did just buy him an NYC tee, and if you are Chicago based, check out this cute online boutique for some Windy City swag for your mini), and, if chilly, Les Gamins sweatshirts and Maisonette joggers to soccer. Note that all of those items are unisex and come in great colors to mix and match! Also love:

PETIT VILAINS RINGER TEES — OR THE LOOK FOR LESS

CADETS MAKES AN ATHLETIC SHORT — NOTE THAT THIS BRAND RUNS VERY SMALL; SIZE UP AT LEAST ONE SIZE

RETRO TUBE SOCKS

LES VILAINS SHORTS LOOK FOR LESS

TERRY SHORTS FROM MINNOW

SOL ANGELES MAKES COOL JOGGERS FOR LITTLES, AND MANY ARE ON SALE AT GILT AT THE MOMENT

ADIDAS MAKES MESH SHORTS FOR GIRLS IN GOOD COLORS; PAIR WITH A MINNOW TERRY SWEATSHIRT

FUNTASIA TOO ALSO MAKES REALLY CUTE ATHLETIC SHORTS FOR SLIGHTLY OLDER GIRLS WITH SEERSUCKER

Q: Christmas outfits for 2.5 year old boy and 6 month old girl.

A: OO, next level planning. I love it. I’ll be sharing a post on Thanksgiving/fall special occasionwear for little ones later today and will for sure be sharing holiday outfits in the not-too-distant future, but I love a tartan ditty like this or this for a baby girl, and then cords and a festive sweater for him over a button-down. If you’re into longalls, CPC has some great festive prints each season, including tartan and embroidered corduroy. Personally, I don’t love the way this style fits on boys who have lost their baby fat — they looked so cute when Hill was a pudgy rolly polly but I’m starting to think he’s outgrown them (he’ll be around your son’s age at Christmas). This might be the last few months I can get away with rompers/jon-jons/shortalls/longalls for him…sigh. Anyhow, if you’re still game, I like those layered over turtlenecks.

I also like the idea of these festive trousers on a little man (with a turtleneck) and this sister match.

I also adore (!) embroidered dresses like this or this on a little love. They have such a delicate, heirloom quality. Sold out in your little one’s size, but for others with larger baby girls, this dress is darling.

Finally, I have been eyeing this scottie dog smocked dress for actual years. It is beyond. Brother could twin in this if still small enough to fit into 2T.

Q: Dresses for a November beach vacation.

A: Oo, fun. I like this, this, this, or this. All feel seasonally appropriate but dressed-down/beachy. Enjoy!

Q: Drinkware and servingware to coordinate with Juliska berry and thread china.

A: If you want it to be super coordinated, I’m not sure if you know that Juliska has coordinating glassware/stemware? Otherwise, I spent a lot of time shopping to restock our glassware last year, and ended up with the items here. I really love these “cooler” glasses, which we use for water and also highball cocktails. Great everyday drinking glasses! The style is elegant IMO and I think it’d be a delicate, modern-leaning contrast with the Juliska. But if you want something fun/festive to add color, consider these pretty footed goblets in colors.

For servingware, Juliska also has coordinating bowls and platters, but any simple white serving piece will work! I find we principally reach for white serving dishes because they go with everything (and any tablescape) and show food nicely. Frankly, our most-used serving platters are rectangular/square ones like this — they’re even great for piling a salad on top of, or arranging a bunch of hors d’oeuvres artfully. A few other favorite finds:

DOTTED BOWL FROM C&B

CABBAGE PLATTER

NANTUCKET SERVING PLATTER

VIETRI

POTTERY BARN

SCALLOPED BOWL

At the same time, sometimes a bold statement platter is a chic way to add interest/dynamics to your tabletop. I have long lusted after these pieces from Juliska!

Q: I’m looking for white (plain white, no detailing) Peter Pan collared shirts — actual PP collar, not lace or a frilly collar — for my daughter. Size 5. And she’s long waisted so they can’t be too short. Long sleeves and short sleeves. Prefer no elastic at the wrist. I’m hunting like crazy and am struggling to find… any tips?

A: Basics like this can be so difficult to find. Have you tried Luigi? They do have a picot trim, but in the white on white colorway, almost unnoticeable. I find this brand to be solid quality and soft. We have also used and liked Little English in the past, though I find this particular style runs a tiny bit short and a tiny bit thick (not a bad thing, but not the best for layering). Otherwise, I can’t attest to the quality, but Zara makes a very simple style that could be worth a try.

If any of you Magpie readers have younger ones, Kissy Kissy makes the BEST peter pan collar onesies! The scale of the collar is perfect and I find Kissy Kissy to be the best quality for tiny ones. I was able to pass down all of mini’s onesies to micro and they still looked great.

Q: Host gift for my boyfriend’s parents. Meeting them for the first time and staying for a weekend.

A: I like food gifts for this kind of situation. They’re thoughtful but not too personal, they accommodate both the husband and wife (as opposed to a lot of hostess gifts, which cater to just the wife for some reason — you might score major bonus points with your boyfriend’s sweet-treat-loving dad!), and they may also contribute to easing their hosting responsibilities. I’m not sure where you’re based, but I like the idea of bringing a breakfast treat (like babka, cinnamon rolls, etc) from a fabulous bakery, or a dozen Levain cookies, or maybe a little gift basket with “happy hour” treats like cheese straws, rainforest crisps, spiced pecans, etc. I did a post on food gifts for gourmet lovers that might be a good reference point, too. If that’s not realistic owing to allergies/diets/logistics of travel, I have yet to meet someone who does not love an elegant candle or high-end hand soap. They’re definitely a safer play but — frankly, they work for a reason. If you’re looking for something more off the beaten path, check out this list of unusual gifts.

Q: I recently got engaged (yay!) and we’re planning an engagement party in early October. I’m looking for a dress for the party. Do I need to wear white for my engagement party? (I’m a bit curvier and always shy from white outfits). I love midi dresses that are flowy and feminine, but also unique with a touch of drama. And I LOVE bright colors and prints and puff sleeves. I would like to budget $500 or less for this dress.

A: Congratulations! I do NOT think you need to wear white. I would go with whatever makes you feel best and most yourself. A couple of pretty options that caught my eye…

THIS LUG VON SIGA (ALMOST SOLD OUT ON SALE; MORE SIZES HERE BUT NOT ON SALE!; SOOO GORGEOUS — BLUE AND WHITE IS A CLASSIC BRIDAL PALETTE!)

ADORE THIS DREAMY COCO SHOP DRESS (SELECT SIZES ON SALE HERE)

THIS BACKLESS FLORAL IS SPECTACULAR

THIS ULTRA-FEMININE FLORAL

THIS GORGEOUS REFORMATION

THIS TIERED FLORAL

THIS BOLD RHODE

A BIT OVER BUDGET, BUT THIS AGUA BENDITA

I feel as though all of these dresses have the quality of being festive/celebratory/statement but also feminine and not too-bridal. If you do boomerang back to wanting to wear white, I just updated my bridal shop section again before publishing this post with some new fantastic white finds, including this Zimmermann lookalike for under $50!

Q: Stylish coat for fall trip to Paris.

A: Lucky duck!!! My immediate thought was this wrap style, which also comes in a chic sage color. (Vibe for less with this.) Sophisticated and neutral — my observation (though I haven’t been back in years and years) is that the Europeans tend to favor neutrals. I remember feeling slightly squeamish about my bold color choices back in the day. A trench is also a forever-chic piece, and this Rebecca Taylor has just enough interest to it to feel fashion-forward. This tweed L’Agence would also be crazy chic. Finally, I can’t stop daydreaming about this Rachel Comey with, like, wide-leg tweed pants and heels?! Oh my goodness, crazy chic. It is pink, but a kind of neutral-pink. I can’t even with the shape — it’s SO good.

Q: Baby Christmas pajamas.

A: Love all of my ahead-of-the-game Magpies! Year after year, I buy the holiday jammies from TBBC. This year, I love the toy soldiers and “deck the halls” prints. I also always buy new Petite Plume for the holidays — I am smitten with their Antique Toys print (also comes in proper pajamas format AND a romper, and don’t miss out on the matching sleep mask!) this year, but the tartan is traditional and darling, too.

For those shopping for Halloween pajamas instead, here are some cute pairs, and here are some great costumes!

Oo came across this a little late, but Clarins is currently running a promo where any one item is 15% off; any two items are 20% off; and any three items are 25% off and PLEASE do yourself a favor and avail yourself of this discount to test two total hero items in my book:

DOUBLE SERUM — I CAN’T TELL YOU HOW MUCH I LOVE THIS SERUM AND HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE WRITTEN TO ENTHUSIASTICALLY REPORT THE SAME; FULL REVIEW HERE

V FACIAL INTENSIVE WRAP — A NEW MUST-OWN; I HAVE BEEN USING THIS RELIGIOUSLY ANY TIME I’M GOING OUT FOR THE EVENING AS IT TRULY CONTOURS AND DE-PUFFS THE FACE; FULL REVIEW HERE

The promo ends tonight! Sorry for the late notice, but cheers!

P.S. More of my favorite beauty buys and beauty buys I’ll never quit.

There were some major head-turners in Madewell’s New Arrivals section this week, although I am never totally synced with the styling on their site — a little too slouchy for me. Below, sharing some favorites and how I’d style…

madewell new arrivals

+I love this smocked autumn dress (sleeves are major), and would wear with a padded velvet headband, burgundy suede flats, a gold heart necklace and — swoon — a vintage Chanel bag, or any other statement bag in burgundy. And if going out, I’d throw on these pretty heart earrings.

+Love this boiled wool half-zip with white or ecru ankle-baring denim, clogs, and a statement bag.

+This flannel shacket with VB kick flare jeans and Beth sneakers, or, for a dressier occasion, these pants, this blouse, and these shoes.

+This quilted pullover with navy Aligns, NB 327s, quilted puffer bag, and a blush corduroy ballcap. Maybe all layered beneath this puffer?!

+Into this bib detail blouse tucked into these trousers (or any high-waisted flare!), a pretty heart necklace, my favorite pumps, and a fab statement jacket or cardigan. Throw on this fun tote to finish it all off.

+AND — not a new arrival, but y’all are loving these tailored utility pants! Chic chic!

P.S. More fall athleisure looks here. I received a number of requests in my most recent solicitation for Magpie Mail about school drop-off and I feel like those athleisure looks would be be practical and chic!

P.P.S. Just tried a new face mask (my top five here) from new-to-me brand Follain that was gifted to me by Haven Well Within, a brand you might remember reading about here because we all loved this pullover so much I think we caused it to be back-ordered. Anyhow, I really liked the Follain mask — I’m usually more drawn to the kind that harden and then rinse off with hot water, but this one was ultra-gentle and ultra-hydrating and couldn’t have arrived at a better time, when I was exhausted and felt dried out and dehydrated. I took a hot shower, slathered this on, and laid in bed in a robe for 20 minutes alone and it did wonders for my mood (and my skin).

P.P.P.S. Musings on a new way of thinking about self-improvement: “When asked how he created the celebrated sculpture of David, Michelangelo responded that he’d “simply chiseled away what wasn’t David.”

I came across a spectacularly moving post by the wife of a victim of the 9/11 terrorist attacks reflecting on the 20 year anniversary of the tragedy. In it, she writes with poignant directness about her grief, describing it as “a tenacious and liquid emotion [that] finds any crevice in our hearts and souls and seeps in there, just waiting to burst through at the slightest provocation. A smell. A sound. Familiar handwriting on an old card. A duffel bag in the attic. And a crisp September morning shared by strangers, each with their own story to tell. Then suddenly, driving on the highway or checking out groceries, that grief bursts into any empty space.” There is more, and I cried while reading it — especially the words she would say to her husband today — but I’ll leave it at that, and applaud her bravery, and salute her.

On a truly trivial footnote, I was startled by her use of the Latin word “desiderata” in the piece, as I was not familiar with it. It means “something that is needed or wanted,” but the most common hit on the Internet when searching for the word led me to a 1927 poem of the same title by Max Ehrmann. It occurs to me that this poem may be known to everyone the world over but me, and if so, I apologize for my dilatoriness. However, if you are among the uninitiated like myself, It reads a bit like speech-making for a graduating class, but in the best possible way. It drinks like tonic: bracing, vaguely medicinal, but with a pleasingly sweet finish. My favorite bit runs as follows:

“Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”

Beautiful reminders, all, but especially: beyond a wholesome discipline / be gentle with yourself.

Post-Scripts.

+On being on my own side.

+On driving gently.

+I especially need to hear these words when fraught with mom guilt.

+On permitting myself to grieve not as I should but as I can.

+You are enough.

Shopping Break.

+This Maje cardi just came out and truly belongs in this roundup of tweed and tweed-inspired finds. Get the look for less with this popular style ($128 and selling quickly).

+I love this new all-natural-colored LL Bean tote!

+My new favorite recommendation for a fall function — Ulla vibes for $120! I have been receiving so many inquiries about what to wear to fall weddings, which brings me so much joy. I’ve been keeping this section of my shop updated for you.

+Ordering this doormat for our backdoor — on sale for $39!

+This sherpa bag is SO good. If out of budget, consider this sherpa pouch / laptop case!

+This shacket is major, and $50! I like it in the plain ivory or brown/white check.

+Intrigued by these straight-leg ponte pants from Spanx.

+This blouse is one of my favorite snags for fall — have been wearing it a ton already, and it’s on sale! I layered mine under joveralls for apple picking the other day!

+Gingham masks for fall.

+Love this pink fitness dress.

+Four pretty neutral cardigans for fall: this ruffled Mango, this belted Intermix, this J. Crew, and my pearl cardi.

+Drawn to this alternative to Dudley Stephens: even thinner material, and the pockets add interest.

+These themed craft kits are great for rainy afternoons.

+OK, this ivory dress!!!! Love the detail on the straps in the back.

+These Lizzie Fortunato earrings feel like they are designed to go with fall dresses like these.

+These tapered utility pants have been flying.

+Kind of drawn to Ugg’s new mini silhouette?

+Cashmere ballet slippers! These look like a dream.

+Love this simple taupe gingham tablecloth (under $30).

+Pretty gold dress.

+Coordinating Halloween jon jon and sister dress match.

+OO this table lamp is fantastic.

+Cutest corduroy dress for a little love.

+Lilly Pulitzer is running its annual two-day sale, and its classic shifts for little girls are on sale for $40. I always buy 1-2 of these for mini each summer season — timeless. Love the idea of a Lilly mask for $5, too! I also have a couple of their dresses and shorts that I roll out from time to time and I have to say this romper situation ($64?!) is currently in my cart.

+A heads up though — Saks has a few Lilly pieces for children on sale for even less, including this baby bloomer set and this one for only $23 (and free ship!), and Zappos has a few toddler swimsuits on sale for over 50% off here.

+And pro-tip: if you want just a little splash of the Lilly vibe, I have frequently found cute hair bows from Etsy that are Lilly-inspired (like this and this) that I pair with a simple solid colored play dress like this, this short-sleeved variation (on sale for $19!), or this ($8). Finish with Cienta t-straps, on sale for 40% off here in most sizes!

+And if you don’t love Lilly but are still looking for some fall statement hair bows to pair with simple play dresses for your little one, consider: oversized gingham, linen check, and these gorgeous canvas ones (come in the most sophisticated colors!)

+Next up: Lake Pajamas just launched a new early fall collection and I am eyeing this patio dress in spruce. Drawn to green at the moment!

+J. Crew temporarily discounted a bunch of its new fall arrivals, including its La Ligne-esque half-zip, my favorite tees (buy in white and navy!), and its cocoon puffer (such a great silhouette, such great colors!).

+I ended up buying a mix and match of the fabric pumpkins I shared a few weeks ago for one of our mantels: this green one, two of these ivories, and one faux fur. More fun decorative pumpkin options here, but sharing this today because some of the pumpkins I’d been eyeing have already sold out!

+Speaking of Halloween, just added this cute ghost banner to my cart to decorate the breakfast table for my children on Halloween!

+Finally, TBBC is offering dollar monograms and free sitewide shipping with code FALLISHERE. That means you can get this sweet play dress without the $8 shipping — or monogram a pair of some of my favorite shorts on micro or a classic jon jon for only $1! Also a good promotion to use to buy a new baby a monogrammed infant set.

P.S. My husband makes even the toughest moments better.

P.P.S. It doesn’t have to be the blue iris.

P.P.P.S. Fall dresses!

*Image above via Margaux. I love their captoes and pointed toe flats this season!

I already talked your ear off about clogs, so I won’t dwell on that trend here, but a few other on-trend options for fall…

Even more picks below…

SADDLE BROWN LEATHER POINTED TOE FLATS — REMIND ME OF PRADA BUT UNDER $250, AND THE COLOR IS PERFECT FOR ANYTHING

THESE BROCADE LOAFERS ARE CHARMING WITH ON-TREND DENIM AND A CHUNKY KNIT

ADORE THESE VELVET SLIPPERS IN THE CHICEST FOREST GREEN…SHEARLING IS ALSO FUN

THE PERFECT SUEDE PUMP — I OWN THESE IN LIKE 6 COLORS

THESE MACHINE-WASHABLE (!) FLATS LOOK SUPER COMFORTABLE AND I LOVE THE DESIGN! (UNDER $100!)

THESE SHEARLING SLIDES ARE ELEGANT, AS ARE THESE FROM BRUNELLO CUCINELLI

BALLET FLATS IN THE PERFECT BURGUNDY SUEDE (IMAGINE WITH THIS BURGUNDY DRESS FOR THANKSGIVING)

LOVE THE LOOK OF THESE REFINED COMBAT BOOTS

MALONE SOULIERS MULES

THESE SUEDE BALLET MULES ARE SO GOOD — CAN’T BELIEVE THE PRICE

CAN’T STOP DREAMING ABOUT THESE SAINT LAURENT PLATFORMS

THESE PLAID PLATFORMS ARE ALSO SERIOUSLY FUN…OR YOU CAN DIP YOUR TOE INTO THE TREND WITH THESE UNDER-$100 SUEDE ONES IN VERSATILE BLACK

THESE BOW-TOPPED MANOLOS ARE CALLING MY NAME

DREAMY AQUAZZURAS

THESE UNDER-$100 BOW-TOPPED MULES ARE ALSO SPECTACULAR IN THE NAVY

I SHARED A BUNCH OF FUN STATEMENT SNEAKERS IN THIS POST, BUT SUPER LOVE THESE NB 327S

MY FAVORITE PROFILE FOR BOOTIES EVER…HAVE OWNED SEVERAL PAIRS OF THIS STYLE AND THEY ARE FAB

SHEARLING CLOGS (A NEW DISCOVERY SINCE MY PREVIOUS POSTS ABOUT THIS TREND)

MY FAVORITE TALL BOOT ON THE MARKET (VIBE FOR LESS WITH THESE)

SUEDE BUCKLE SANDALS

MINNETONKA MOCS

BETH SNEAKERS

HAVE MENTIONED THESE A TON, BUT THESE UNDER-$50 MANOLO INSPIRED SLIDES

P.S. Chic fall finds under $129.

P.P.S. Has COVID impacted your social skills?

P.P.P.S. Sometimes a little tenderness is the best I can do.

Some incredible recent home finds…

amazon home finds

BOXWOOD // TASSELS // COUNTER SPRAY // CANDLE // LLAMA ROCKER // CANDLES // CANDLE HOLDERS // FINIALS // COMFORTER SET // CAKE STAND // WASTEBIN // NAPKINS // PULLS // WOVEN OTTOMAN

These and more below…

KEY TASSELS, INSPIRED BY THE SNAP ABOVE (AND SIMPLE BRONZED FRAMES TO HANG ON THE WALL, INSPIRED BY THE ABOVE AS WELL)

PRESERVED BOXWOOD IN CLAY POT

MEMORY FOAM HOUSE SLIPPERS

HOBNAIL CAKE STAND

BRASS BOW FINIALS

BAMBOO FRAME

LLAMA ROCKER

CLASSIC COMFORTER SET AT AN INCREDIBLE PRICE

WOVEN OTTOMAN

OUR FAVORITE MEMORY FOAM PILLOWS

WIRE UTILITY SHELVING (THIS BRAND IS THE ABSOLUTE BEST FOR UTILITY STUFF LIKE THIS)

DECORATIVE BRASS PULLS

ONE OF MY FAVORITE HOME SCENTS

BLUSH TAPER CANDLES

GLASS TAPER CANDLE HOLDERS (WOULD LOOK SO PRETTY WITH THOSE BLUSH TAPERS ON A MANTEL!)

PEOPLE LOSE THEIR MINDS OVER THESE SWEDISH DISH CLOTHS

MATISSE INSPIRED COCKTAIL NAPKINS

STAINLESS STEEL CLOROX WIPES DISPENSER…IF THEY MUST BE OUT, AT LEAST YOU CAN HIDE THEM IN HERE

MOST GORGEOUSLY SCENTED COUNTER SPRAY — WROTE ABOUT THIS A LOT LAST YEAR, BUT IT’S AS IF JO MALONE HERSELF CLEANED YOUR KITCHEN

BAMBOO ROMAN SHADES

CERAMIC WASTEBIN

P.S. How an old dresser served as a reminder of love.

P.P.S. Chic bar and counter stools.

P.P.P.S. My New York apartment judged me.