Kazuo Ishiguro’s eighth novel, Klara and the Sun, imagines a not-so-distant future in which technology has displaced much of the working population, enabled children to find companionship and supervision in artificial friends (AFs) like the title character Klara, and established something of a caste system that separates individuals who are “lifted” (a sort of genetic reprogramming to optimize performance) from those who are not. It is a strange landscape made stranger by Ishiguro’s trademark timbre — one he uses in all of his novels — which sits somewhere between clinical and stiffly polite. The novel is narrated by the robot Klara, and as such, we spend a fair amount of time aiming to understand what we are seeing by sizing up Klara’s own apprehension and its limits. Klara seems to puzzle over the intricacies of human interactions, for example, sometimes misreading intentions or proclamations, though this belabored analysis reifies the complexity of the human heart and how illegible and irrational it can be. There is a point in the novel in which we learn that Klara’s owner, “The Mother,” has hatched a plan in which Klara might eventually substitute for her own daughter, Josie, a sickly girl whose death at some points in the book feels imminent. The Mother asks whether Klara can learn Josie so well that she can not only mimic her movements (apparently Josie has an unusual gait) but occupy “her heart,” too. The subtext is whether we as humans are capable of understanding our own hearts — whether the heart is knowable or not, much less performable. There are many points in the novel that pose similarly complicated, earth-shifting questions about love, identity, and even religious belief. Klara, for example, believes unquestioningly in the beneficence of the sun. We are made to believe that this might be because Klara is solar-powered, and there is a sense that perhaps her worship is unfounded or confused. In various instances in the novel, Klara communes with the sun, begging for exception and intercession on behalf of Josie — and it is impossible not to see these petitions as a permutation of or analogue for religious faith. And so we must sit with the uncomfortable parallel between a robot exalting the sun and the foundations of our own belief systems.

The book is incredible in this way — asking difficult questions in an imaginative future that is uncomfortably believable in such a way that we find ourselves face-to-face with our own identities. There are also complicated interactions with desuetude as a condition of a society driven by advanced and artificial technologies: what does it mean when technology renders entire swathes of the workforce obsolete? What does it mean when humans can genetically modify themselves, and from a socio-economic lens, who does it leave behind? (And are they actually “left behind”? What is lost or gained in the “lifting” process?) What happens when humans are able to prolong a version of their loved ones through artificial intelligence? What is gained and lost there? All of these questions sit at the foreground of our minds throughout the novel thanks to the opening vignette, in which we witness Klara and other AFs waiting to be purchased move around the floor of a showroom as newer models come onto the market. Klara is in fact relegated to the back corner of the store, not even visible from the street, when she is purchased. What would have happened to this highly observant robot had she not been picked? At the end of the novel, we see Klara retire to what seems like a robot junk yard. We are forced in these instances to think about abandonment, waste, and obsolescence as a byproduct or perhaps inevitability of technology-centric living.

All in all, I would give this book high marks as a contender for a book club conversation (a lot to unpack), and a worthy read if you are in the mood to have a big, deep think. At the same time, it was an enormous and, if I am honest, unwelcome leap from Commonwealth for me. I make no bones about it: I am drawn to character-driven books, especially ones that are tender at the bone and generous to their own casts. Ishiguro felt like a cold, unpleasant wind to Patchett’s warm, hazy breeze. Next up for me: Ruth Ware’s Lying Game (I somehow skipped this one when it was released in 2017 but have thoroughly enjoyed all of Ware’s books!) and, because I have so loved Patchett’s other novels, Bel Canto.

Beyond that, I feel so out of the loop on what’s trending in the recent publications category! I’ve seen a few people reading James Clear’s Atomic Habits on the subway in the last week, but the description doesn’t hook me: “No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving–every day. James Clear, one of the world’s leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results.”

What other new reads have captured you? What are you reading?

Post-Scripts.

+Unfussy short pajamas for little ones.

+One of my mom friends told me that her daughter asked her to “do her hair like Emory’s.” I was bowled over! So flattered! My secrets: condition with Noodle & Boo cream rinse after shampoo in the bath and then, in the morning, re-wet with water using a continuous mister and spritz with this detangler before styling. I find this brush exceptional. It is expensive (!!) but it lasts a lifetime and I feel like it’s gentle enough on her hair while also really contending with snarls. I honestly first bought it for myself without realizing it was marketed as a child’s brush, and I loved it for myself, but I eventually gave it to her because it made hair styling much easier with her. I also use this hair spray once I’ve tied her hair back back — it holds nicely without leaving hair crispy and it smells amazing. The hair spray has made a huge difference for us since she has such fine hair and always had fine strands of hair in her eyes. I usually alternate between two pigtails, a high ponytail, and a side parted half-up-half-down (the latter being my favorite to tie off with an enormous white bow, but sometimes it’s nice to really have her hair out of her face and off her shoulders — it’s quite long now!)

+What to do if you’re in a reading rut. (Check the comments.)

+Chic wicker clutch.

+Heather Taylor just launched a collaboration with West Elm full of great, classic-with-a-twist pieces, like these quilted and scalloped placemats, this gingham bath mat, these blue-and-white striped bath towels, and these throw pillows.

+Swooning over Reformation’s brand new footwear launch — trying to decide between the kitten heel mule and the flat slide in the Olympia pattern. I am leaning towards the mule because I have a lot of flat sandals and I imagining how those mules would transform any LWD.

+Avant-garde details but so fun! Would be great with a bump for a very interesting, fashion-forward piece that works while pregnant.

+Ulla Johnson vibes for under $100. More designer vibes for less here.

+Love these embroidered pillows! (More great pillows here.)

+Frilly Frog just marked a ton of current season pieces from some of my favorite childrenswear brands 25% off — just use code MAY25. I love these short pajamas sets from Lila + Hayes (silky-soft cotton), this strawberry bikini, and this gingham dress. I know a lot of you love these popover dresses from Bisby, too — 25% off!

+OMG — this Schumacher laminated tray and ice bucket! What a clever (fun!) way to introduce a high-end designer into a nook of your home, like a bar or bar cart.

+This block-print dress for a baby is precious. You can wear this $25 score for a coordinated (though not matchy-matchy) look.

+Hydrangea print blouse!

+Celia B. has such festive dresses out this season. Love this! I also love the bold and party-ready pieces from Farm Rio, like this tile-effect dress. Perfect for making your vaccinated debut out…

+And how amazing is this fish-print swimsuit?!

+Great H&M finds.

+This cardigan (or this one) feels like the perfect transitional piece to throw over sundresses until we are officially in warm weather.

+This cami dress looks so comfortable for post-shower lounging and scrolling.

+FUN ikat glasses.

+This ruffly little top!

+The brushed brass lanterns! Such great sizes!

*Image above via Chappy Wrap.

I am new to the Chappy Wrap world but apparently these bold, versatile blankets enjoy quite the cult following. The last two times I’ve stumbled upon their website, nearly all of their blankets have been sold out. I just happened to land there today and notice that they are offering 20% off select items with code SURPRISE through tonight (5/6), including the two styles I liked the most: this herringbone and this blue printed style. These blankets are appealingly machine-washable and dryable, purportedly ultra-soft, and versatile in the sense that I’ve seen them used as beach blankets and picnic throws. (And even receiving blankets for babies/snugglies for little ones, as they come in multiple sizes.)

Speaking of blankets/throws, an appealing lesser-price option for your next picnic: this style (love that it is lined in a water-resistant polyester on one side AND machine-washable — so crucial!!; comes in three great colors). If you’re a blockprint fan, you might enjoy picnicking on this beauty. (BTW: great picnic recipes here.)

Two unrelated deals you might want to know about: H&M x LemLem just launched this morning and so many pieces are already sold out in my size. I wish I had moved fast enough to snag this striped beauty! And! From 12-4 EST today, all Bella Bliss pajamas are marked down to $29.

Happy shopping!

P.S. More recent, great H&M finds here, to which list I must add this striped swimsuit. I also must alert you to the fact that Gilt is for some reason I can’t decipher offering a FREE 25% off stackable coupon to H&M.

I wrote not long ago that if last year bore the summer of the caftan, this one brings the summer of the shirtdress for me. This is my favorite style at the moment. A few of my favorite picks at all price points in the collage and even more linked below…

shirt dresses summer 2021

01 // ALEX MILL STRIPES — IMAGINE WITH THIS BAG (*CHEF’S KISS*)

02. // EVI GRINTELA DRAMA — WOW!

03. // THIERRY COLSON FLORAL — I AM OBSESSED WITH THIS BRAND; I HAVE EYED THIS STRIPED DREAM FOR AWHILE AFTER SEEING IT ON MEGAN STOKES

04 // BURU RELEASES SUCH FUN PRINTS IN THEIR LONG-LENGTH SHIRTDRESSES; LOVE THIS AMERICANA STRIPE, WHICH HAS A CHARLOTTE YORK VIBE I DIG

05 // THIS $49 SCORE READS MUCH HIGHER-END THAN IT IS — LOVE THE WIDE SASH AND WOULD BE SO FUN WITH PATTERNED SANDALS

06 // PRETTY THISTLE-PRINT FROM C.E. FINN

07 // I BOUGHT THIS EYELET MAXI IN THE WHITE BUT NOW I MIGHT GO BACK FOR THAT STUNNING BLUE

08 // TIERED DAPHNE WILDE — SO, SO ELEGANT

09 // $79 FLORAL BEAUTY

10 // STRIPED, TIERED MILLE MAGIC

11 // THIS PLEATED HEM SHIRTDRESS IS SUPER SOPHISTICATED — WOULD LOOK GREAT WITH A POINTED TOE FLAT AT WORK OR AN ON-TREND BRAIDED SLIDE ON THE WEEKENDS

12 // THIS PRINTED BLUE DRESS (ON SALE FOR UNDER $100) WOULD LOOK GREAT WITH A CONTRASTING PRINT SCARF

13 // THIS $28 STEAL IS SO CHIC WITH THOSE DRAMATIC CUFFS AND PUFFED SLEEVES

14 // ALREADY WRITTEN SO MANY TIMES ABOUT THIS DRESS, BUT THIS $114 FLORAL IS ONE OF MY FAVORITE BUYS THIS SPRING!

15 // VERSATILE CLOSET STAPLE IN WHITE OR BROWN

P.S. I’m partial to headbands with these dresses.

P.P.S. If you’re still in the market for fresh footwear for warmer weather

P.P.P.S. Wedding guest dresses. And I should say that this mother-of-the-bride dress is getting a lot of attention — a fancy shirtdress!

There are some serious winners in J. Crew’s latest batch of new arrivals:

THIS WHITE PUFF SLEEVED BLOUSE (VERY BROCK COLLECTION VIBES — I LOVE THE WAY THEY STYLED IT TUCKED INTO SHORTS!)

THIS ROLLNECK SWEATER (SEEN ABOVE) — I WOULD SIZE UP TO WEAR A LITTLE LOOSE AND SLOUCHY WITH SHORTS AS WE HEAD TOWARDS SUMMER, BUT ALSO LIKE THE WAY THEY STYLED IT!

THESE FUN LIBERTY SHORTS (WITH A WHITE TANK, SO EASY AND CHIC FOR CHASING CHILDREN THIS SUMMER!)

THIS PERFECT BLUSH RAIN COAT (I HAVE THIS IN MY CART – HAD BEEN WANTING TO BUY A NEW ONE FOR AWHILE, WAS DEBATING INVESTING IN A STUTTERHEIM, BUT THIS ONE HAS TO HAPPEN)

THIS PEBBLED CROSSBODY — SWAP OUT THE STRAP FOR ONE OF THESE INEXPENSIVE GUCCI-ESQUE WEBBING STRIPED STYLES (I OWN AND USE FOR ONE OF MY CROSSBODIES!)

FINALLY, THIS FLORAL DRESS — LOVE LOVE LOVE…I USUALLY WAIT FOR A PROMOTION BUT I JUST HAD TO HAVE THIS AT FULL PRICE AS I KNOW IT WILL SELL OUT IN MY SIZE

P.S. A weird poem I like and musings on pessimism.

P.P.S. Target run!

*Image above via Tracksmith. They make exceptional running gear.

I got into running every other morning last August, and it took until sometime this spring for me to really hit my stride. The routes that used to be excruciatingly difficult — the ones I’d save for mornings where I felt energized and strong — are now handily accomplished. Running is interesting in that way: it reveals both the frailty and strength of the human body. On the one hand, I feel absolutely charged running up the final (steep!) ascent on one of my routine routes, as I always think to myself: “This part used to totally kill me, and I can do this now, and with strength.” On the other hand, I am more consistently aware of my body and its aches and pains now, as it is far more common for me to limp around on sore legs or massage my aching calves. I’m sure this is true of all fitness regimens: they require an attentive return to the body. Running settles me into my own physicality, roots me in it. I like the way it feels.

A couple of recent fitness finds to power through our early summer exercise routines…

I LOVE THESE SHORTS, THOUGH I WOULD SIZE UP ONE SIZE — I TOOK THE SIZE I USUALLY WEAR IN LULU AND FOUND THAT THEY RAN A TINY BIT SNUGGER THAN I WOULD LIKE

I HAVE HAD GOOD LUCK WITH THE WELL-PRICED LOOSE-FIT TANKS FROM TARGET, AND THIS ONE COMES IN GREAT COLORS

I’M INTRIGUED BY THESE ON CLOUDNOVA SNEAKERS (THIS IS A LIMITED EDITION RELEASE FROM THE BRAND DESCRIBED AS “FUSING ELITE-LEVEL RUNNING TECHNOLOGY WITH A STREET-READY SILHOUETTE”)

THESE $30 RUNNING SHORTS COME IN SOME GREAT COLORS

I ALSO HAVE AND LOVE A COUPLE OF THE FORM-FITTED SWIFTLY TECH TOPS IN SS AND SLEEVELESS FROM LULU

MY FAVORITE SPORTS BRAS: THESE FROM SPLITS 59 AND THESE CROPPED TANKS FROM BEYOND YOGA (MORE ON SALE HERE), WHICH ARE SO, SO SOFT

BUT I LOVE THE LOOK OF THIS $25 SPORTS BRA AND JUST ORDERED IN BOTH THE NAVY STRIPE AND THE ROSE BUSH PINK

FITTED ATHLETIC BOMBER

LOVE THE WAISTBAND NIKE LOGO ON THESE JUST-RESTOCKED SHORTS

THESE NIKE SHOES COME IN FANTASTIC COLOR COMBOS

SO INTO THE COLOR OF THESE LEGGINGS AND THIS MATCHING BRA

ADORE THIS FITTED JACKET FOR COOLER MORNINGS, WHICH BOASTS SUN PROTECTION!

STILL MY FAVORITE RUNNING SOCKS OF ALL TIME — ETERNAL THANKS TO THE READER WHO RECOMMENDED THIS BRAND!

I LOVE THIS LACOSTE HAT IN WHITE FOR RUNNING THIS SUMMER

BELT BAG FOR RUNNING

GREAT LIGHTWEIGHT COAT FOR THROWING ON OVER TENNIS / GOLF / YOGA GEAR

ON MY RUNNING MORNINGS, I JUST ORDERED THIS TO APPLY TO MY CLEAN, MOISTURIZED SKIN — SPF AND A TINY BIT OF A GLOW

STILL OBSESSED WITH USING THESE FACE WIPES POST-RUN

THESE ADIDAS RUNNING SHOES ARE SO COOL

TENNIS/FITNESS SKORT

I HAVE SEEN A TON OF WOMEN WEARING THESE NEW BALANCE RUNNING SHORTS IN THE PARK — THEY MUST BE GOOD?

I OWN AND LOVE THESE FROM TRACKSMITH — THEY ARE JUST A TINY BIT LONG ON MY FRAME, THOUGH, AND I THINK I WILL ORDER A PAIR OF THESE TO TEST, TOO

P.S. On achieving “flow” in running and musings on one of the songs on my running playlist.

P.P.S. Some tennis and golf outfit ideas in this post!

P.P.P.S. You are enough.

I came across these words the other day:

things must end to begin again

Useful words in a moment of transition, and a Mary Oliver-like nudge to attend to the patterns of nature when in doubt. Whether you are starting a new job, ending a relationship, moving, retiring, putting your out-of-home career on hold to look after children (or vice versa), many of us are stepping through a lintel, from one room to the next. Writing that sentence makes me realize that though I think a lot about transitions (like, a lot a lot) and how I can design my life to ease my way through them, I don’t often think of them in terms of endings and beginnings anymore. Bearing witness to the unyielding chain of firsts and lasts in my two young children has made me more attentive to change as a continuous condition rather than a staccato string of doors opening and closing. Life is more fluid than that. Even abrupt changes, understood a couple of months out, seem more like legato symphonic gestures than sharp drum beats. Besides, my children leave me prone to optimism for the unexpected future. As an example: I miss the newborn days, but how deliciously and unexpectedly satisfying to sustain a full 24 minutes of conversation with my curious and creative four-year-old on the way to school every other morning? How curious to think that I made that tiny human, that she is forever a part of me, but that she is also a force unto herself, with sharp observations and a passion for the color blue and an earnest sweetness I have never witnessed — never, not ever! — in a fellow human before. On Saturday, she plucked one prized M&M from a sweaty palmful of five to give to her whimpering, pilfering younger brother. I know myself well enough to realize I would not have shared an M&M with any of my siblings at that age, when treats are sparing and esteemed. All to say: my children remind me that the future can be a beautifully bright surprise. The apparition of each new stage is not so much a door closing as a movement between rooms.

Mid-writing this little musing, I came across a quote from an entrepreneur with several young children who was asked how and when she decided to have children in the context of her straining career. She replied: “I have found that every new day is more complicated than the last. Today is the least complicated day. Don’t put your life on hold for easier times — they likely won’t come.” On the one hand, I agree profoundly with the premise that there is no “perfect” time to have children, and that it is a risky and often losing proposition to “put your life on hold” for some imagined future state. (Let it be noted, however, that I am so firmly in the camp of “a bird in the hand is better than two in the bush” that Mr. Magpie teases me about my overuse of the phrase. I am, in other words, a cautious tearaway and will often jump on an opportunity for fear that no future one will materialize.) On the other hand, I don’t agree that life must be an inexorable sink into complication. I feel as though the last two years have represented an ironing-out in many ways for me — professionally, creatively, and certainly as a family unit. I feel much more oriented and stable than I did in my 20s and early 30s and especially as a brand new mom. Learning to own my parenting style and relax into my experience with motherhood has simplified — decluttered — things tremendously for me.

A few years ago, a Magpie advised me to make a decision, and then go boldly into it. These words have proven a north star when I am feeling queasy about change. I let myself linger for a minute on the past, I permit myself to fret for a minute about the unknowns of the future, and then I remind myself to go boldly and remain receptive to the possibility of great surprise.

Post-Scripts.

+ICYMI: we are moving to D.C.

+But I will miss New York. I have nothing but gratitude for our time here.

+How I feel about my hometown.

+I learned the intense way back in my mid-20s that moves can be highly stressful. Taking care of myself this go around.

+The sense of an ending.

Shopping Break.

+This maxi dress is right up my alley and comes in three great prints. Definitely hits all of my standards for highly-worn at-home dresses.

+On that note: SZ Blockprints caftans restocked! I think I slightly prefer the length of that Kitty style but I also have the Jaipur style, which is a great beach coverup.

+Similar vibe: this dress sold out during the Shopbop sale but is back in a few sizes!

+Love this Matouk print.

+WOW, this rug!

+I think I mentioned in my post on Hill’s imminent second birthday that we would like to buy him a piggy bank — mini has one that she has loved depositing coins into forever. I’m torn between these Scandi-cute styles in elephant and pig and this silver-plated race-car shaped one.

+I need this pearl clutch.

+I’m imagining a cheerful lawn party with these.

+My backyard furniture post was prescient — fingers crossed, will soon be in the market for my own sets!

+The happiest little date night top (under $100).

+I’ve mentioned these a few times, but I feel like these linen pants would be so easy to wear with espadrilles, sneakers, or Hermes Oran sandals and a white tank for a no-brainer, comfortable, weekend look.

+A new crop of gorgeous printed Agua Benditas, including this bird-motif maxi (swoon) and this tile-effect swimsuit (the turtles!)

+This platter is just calling out for a whole-roasted fish to present!

+The Daphne Wilde look for less. (The D.W. is on my wishlist for this spring!)

+Seriously cute $129 shoes.

+Amazing ceramic garden markers.

+These tortoise shades are not for the faint of heart but VERY on-trend.

+I literally cannot stop wanting to buy every blue-and-white shirtdress I lay eyes on. This one is SO good!

+This sunhat is absolutely gorgeous. (Your little one can twin!)

Every season, Gap puts out a couple of standout scores. Earlier this spring, I bought the exact outfit above for micro, from the navy gingham shirt to the white jeans. I have been pairing the look with his tiny boat shoes (genius because the top of the shoe is a hidden velcro closure, meaning it is a breeze to put on!), but the Vans are so adorable, too, and I might take a cue from Gap’s stylist and finish the look with his red Keds.

A few other great pieces:

THESE SCALLOPED CHAMBRAY SHORTS ARE BACK IN STOCK!

GREAT SUMMER JAMMIES FOR BOYS AND GIRLS

ALSO LOVE THESE STRIPED JAMMIES FOR OLDER GIRLS

PERFECT EYELET TRIM TEES FOR LITTLE LADIES TO PAIR WITH SHORTS

ADORE THIS TERRY SHORTS SET FOR A TODDLER

CUTE GINGHAM ONE-PIECE — MINNOW-ESQUE IN STYLE

MY CHILDREN HAVE OWNED THIS CLASSIC RAINSLICKER IN A FEW SIZES — GREAT QUALITY, CLASSIC STYLE; THE PETIT BATEAU LOOK FOR LESS!

AN UNFUSSY SHORTS SET FOR A BABY BOY OR GIRL — I LOVE SETS LIKE THIS FOR NAPTIME

DARLING DRESS FOR AN OLDER GIRL

And of course we can’t miss out on the opportunity to throw something for ourselves in the cart — this swimsuit in the black or navy and white stripe are timeless and have a Solid & Striped flair to them. And I love this red, white, and blue stripe blouse! Another contender for Memorial Day!

P.S. J. Crew’s popular cottage dress now comes in a Liberty floral!

P.P.S. Since sharing my laundry favorites a few months ago, I have made two changes: first, I started using powdered Tide detergent at the suggestion of many Magpies and you all were correct: this formula is much better at getting out stains! However, because of the current configuration of our laundry (a nook off the kitchen), I couldn’t leave the detergent box as-is since my children routinely bump into that area and I had nightmare visions of them knocking the entire box of powdered detergent all over themselves and the floor, as the box does not re-seal after opened. Funny — a lot of women must have had the same issue or reservation because I found two great storage options that come with scoops that conveniently hang off the side: this one and this one. I know it’s minor but I love the scoop off the side so you aren’t digging your fingers into the detergent! Second, I started using this starch spray and WOW. It is absolutely incredible. It is pricey but amazing!

P.P.P.S. My favorite warm weather shoes for little ones.

Are you heading to the beach for Memorial Day or any of the weekends in early summer? I shared some patriotic-leaning finds to celebrate the Fourth and Memorial Day on Sunday and some swim picks a few weeks ago, but a couple of other pretty picks…

beach vacation packing list

01. // 02. // 03. // 04. // 05. // 06. // 07. // 08. // 09. // 10.

So many chic beach finds!

SIMPLE JELLY SLIDES THAT GO FROM POOLSIDE TO DINNER IN A SNAP

JUST THE PRETTIEST ONE-PIECE (TWIN WITH YOUR MINI ME)

FUN BEACH TOTE ($139 — COMES IN LOTS OF DIFFERENT VARIATIONS, LIKE THIS ONE FOR ST. BARTHS)

SEASHELL EARRINGS (ALSO LOVE THESE) — PAIR WITH A SIMPLE LWD AND A LOW BUN AND YOU’RE READY FOR DINNER

LOVE THE IDEA OF WEARING A LIGHTWEIGHT SKIRT, LINEN PANTS, OR LINEN SHORTS WITH A SWIMSUIT IF HEADING TO LUNCH STRAIGHT FROM THE SAND

THESE WEAR-WITH-EVERYTHING RATTAN DROPS

BREEZY DAY CAFTANS/COVER-UPS LIKE THIS LEM LEM, THIS XIRENA, THIS JULIET DUNN, OR THIS SCALLOPED STYLE

FUN CHUNKY SUNGLASSES/MASK CHAIN — I HAVE THIS! — TO PAIR WITH YOUR CHIC SHADES (LOVE THESE INEXPENSIVE MINT GREEN ONES)

NOT A FLIP-FLOP GAL, BUT THESE ARE MY GO-TOS AT THE BEACH — THEY ARE SURPRISINGLY STURDY; I’VE HAD A PAIR FOR A DECADE AT THIS POINT AND THEY STILL LOOK GREAT, ESP GIVEN THAT THEY ARE OFTEN WORN IN SAND!

A COUPLE FUN BUT BEACHY EVENING-OUT DRESSES, LIKE THIS DAMARIS BAILEY, THIS RIXO, THIS MIRTH, AND THIS FAITHFULL DREAM

ALL OF WHICH WOULD BE PERFECT WITH THIS BEYOND-ADORABLE PAM MUNSON SEASHELL CLUTCH

THIS $30 SWIMSUIT IS AMAZING

IF YOU ARE A HEELS GAL, I LOVE THIS EYE-CATCHING OPTION FROM CULT GAIA AND THESE BOTTEGA-LIKE MULES, BOTH OF WHICH ARE SUPER VERSATILE

INDIA AMORY PAREO

Love the idea of keeping makeup simple, with this “glowscreen” (illuminating SPF!), my favorite blush stick (doubles as lipstick), mascara, and a beachy scent.

P.S. Don’t forget a good beach read and my secret to low-stress travel: packing cubes.

P.P.S. European pharmacy favorites worth the hype.

P.P.P.S. I regret not traveling more before children!

*Image above via Emerson Fry featuring their gorgeous Frances blouse.

This one goes out to all my breastfeeding mamas: what to wear this summer while nursing! Below, a bunch of fun options…

TARGET DID A COLLAB WITH HATCH — I LOVE THIS DRESS (WORKS WHILE EXPECTING OR NURSING, AND I WOULD HAVE ESPECIALLY LOVED IT RIGHT AFTER DELIVERY…SO LOOSE!)

THIS PRETTY FLORAL — ALL OF THE DRESSES FROM THIS SHOP ARE NURSING-FRIENDLY (!!!!)

THIS WHIMSICALLY-PRINTED TIERED MIDI (UNDER $100)

THIS SEA-LIKE EMBROIDERED EYELET STATEMENT (UNDER $60)

CHIC STRIPED BUTTON-DOWN OXFORD DRESS — IMAGINE WITH STRAPPY SANDALS! — OR, IF YOU PREFER A LONGER LENGTH, THIS J. CREW VARIATION

INDIA AMORY SHIRTDRESS

THIS GARDEN PRINT MAXI

MY BROOKS BROTHERS SHIRT DRESS — ALSO THEY HAVE CUTE SOLID COLORS…TRES CHIC

SIMPLE STRIPED DRESS — WORKS WHILE PREGNANT TOO!

I FEEL LIKE THIS WOULD BE EXCELLENT FOR LOUNGING AT HOME

If you are comfortable with pull-down styles (I found button-downs to be more discreet, but depended on if I was going to be out and about!), you are in luck because there are so many smocked-bodice dresses with tie shoulders or pull-down sleeves that would be easy to accommodate nursing. A few favorites:

THIS MANGO GINGHAM

THE HHH ELLIE DRESS

STRAPPY EMERSON FRY

AQUA HAS A FEW GOOD STYLES — THIS BLUE AND WHITE STRIPED ONE OR THIS ONE WITH TIERED EYELET

THIS PUFF SLEEVED MIDI

PUNCHY ZARA

Finally, if you’re more of a shirt-and-jeans gal:

THIS BILLOWY WHITE (LIFTS UP)

THIS HATCH X TARGET

THIS LOOSE-FIT EYELET

THIS ULTRA-PRETTY PINK TOP

In my opinion, this is the absolute best nursing bra on the planet, and it’s 30% off.

P.S. Some of my maternity and post-partum must-haves here.

P.P.S. On weaning.

P.P.P.S. Dresses for maternity shoots.

I’ve asked you in the past — how do you gain a sense of perspective in a situation that is spiraling or stressful? I love the rubric of asking myself how long the situation will matter: Will this matter in a day? A week? A year? More recently, I have also found it helpful to take a minute to imagine myself explaining the situation to a friend. What would I emphasize or de-emphasize? At what point would I contextualize the matter in relation to my friend’s life and goings-on?

There is a specific scenario I have in mind that predicates this point: a few years ago, I bored my friend to sleep by detailing the ins and outs of the preschool application process one evening over wine. I cringe when I think back on it. It was new terrain for me, I was going through it alone (no close friends were enrolling their children at that time!), and I was determined to make the right decision and so I was being vulnerable, but still. I should have known better than to drone on about it to a girlfriend who was struggling to have children herself, and who might think sending a two-year-old to a private pre-school in Manhattan was borderline insane to begin with. A few years later, she made a comment in passing that let me know I had indeed gone off the deep end. It was a good lesson, and one I have learned in other permutations dozens of other times over the past few years. These experiences of over-sharing and over-self-indulgence have on the one hand made me much more sensitive to cue-taking and on the other hand — for better or worse — left me a bit more withholding as a general proposition. But mainly, they have established markers that help me “drive within the lines” in the sense that I now have a better sense for when I am exhausting a topic, and I more intuitively visualize the relationship between whatever is weighing on my heart and whatever is weighing on theirs. I know better when to pull on the reins.

And so I find that imagining a conversation with a friend on a given topic helps me resituate myself. I don’t do this to undermine my own feelings, or to downplay whatever is on my mind at a given point — but more to float above for a few minutes, to perch somewhere outside my meandering knot of thoughts.

I have leaned on this prompt a fair amount lately, as I work through the stresses of finding a home, leaving New York, setting up in the DC area. Somehow, imagining myself talking through whatever is draining me on a particular day inevitably reminds me of the fantastic opportunity we have in front of us, and I find myself saying (in imagined exchange with a friend): “But it’s all leading to the right place. We’ll get through it.”

What about you? How do you find a perch above an emotional fracas?

Post-Scripts.

+Recently-found perspective on losing the New York I know.

+Our decision to move back to D.C.

+This spring, in the long shadow of COVID, has particularly resonant meaning.

+On choosing English as a major — so many interesting comments on this one.

Shopping Break.

+This popular $60 swimsuit is back in a fun red color!

+I feel like a lot of us are into this dress shape for summer — works with bump!

+Adorable blockprint cosmetics bags at a fantastic price.

+Great longline sportsbras — have been hearing such good things about this brand!

+This pendant light is just so good — note the dimensions! Big enough to work in a formal dining room.

+Outnet has a surprisingly good cache of discounted Zimmermann pieces, like this pretty lilac top.

+I have several expecting mom friends who swore by this loose-fit sweatshirt during pregnancy, but totally works sans bump too! Love it in the stripe!

+Cute summer trousers. Imagining wearing these over a swimsuit or with high heels and white silk blouse!

+Hello! These croc-effect slides are SO chic for the price!

+A great crib at a great price. Just love this look.

+Totally and utterly in love with these gorgeous blouses from new-to-me label Andion. This is just TOO cute!

+Loretta Caponi vibes for less.

+WOW — gorgeous grass-cloth wrapped furniture custom made for a reasonable price.

+In case you want to refresh your bathroom decor

+Should have mentioned these adorable hats in my roundup of amazing H&M new arrivals.

+Lele Sadoughi facemasks in simple colors are on sale.

+Festive ALC dress on sale — cute wedding guest situation! More wedding guest options here (trying to keep this updated!).

+How great are these bib and bento box sets for littles?!

+Fun little chairs.

Hard to believe, but Memorial Day is less than a month away! Are you going away? We are living in limbo at the moment, not wanting to commit to any travel while we are deep into our home search and have only the foggiest idea when we might close and move, but I think we might be getting to a point where we just need to put some stakes in the ground and work around them. We are all desperate for some time out of the city!

A couple of chic patriotic-inspired outfits to wear for Memorial Day and/or The Fourth (and all summer long, for that matter…) below…

memorial day picks

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Memorial Day Finds for You.

LITERALLY THE PERFECT DRESS FOR THE OCCASION – WHAT I’M EYEING

SUCH A FUN WIGGY KIT DRESS

RED + WHITE BABYDOLL DRESS — I’M IMAGINING A BAREFOOT BACKYARD HANG IN THIS (LOOK FOR LESS WITH THIS)

RED OR RATTAN HEART EARRINGS

I KNOW I’VE BANGED ON AND ON ABOUT THIS SHIRTDRESS DRESS, BUT IT ARRIVED AND IT IS SO, SO GOOD — AND PERFECT FOR THE FOURTH

ADORABLE ROPE SANDALS

THIS BOLD BLUE DRESS IS SO BEAUTIFULLY CUT, AND THE COLOR SO UNEXPECTED!

FOR CASUAL AND COOL WEATHER MAGPIES: THIS AMERICANA FLEECE

THE PERFECT TOTE FOR THE OCCASION (OR THIS IN THE HARBOUR PATTERN) — PAIR WITH AN LWD AND YOU ARE DONE

WHITE EYELET WRAP TOP

FIERY RED ESPADRILLES

MADE-FOR-MEMORIAL-DAY PAJAMAS (YOUR MINIS CAN TWIN WITH YOU!)

RED SCALLOPED ONE PIECE SWIMSUIT (OR GET THE O.G. MARYSIA, ON SALE!) TO WEAR BENEATH A TIERED GINGHAM SKIRT OR JEAN CUT-OFFS

RED, WHITE, AND BLUE STRIPED SHIRTDRESS

Memorial Day Finds for Littles.

ABSOLUTELY ADORE LITTLE ENGLISH’S FLAG COLLECTION — HAD LAST YEAR’S VERSION LAST FOURTH, AND THINK I WILL REBUY THIS YEAR’S VERSION, TOO! (SISTER MATCH DRESS HERE)

THIS STAR-PRINT DENIM BUBBLE IS UNDER $25 AND BEYOND ADORABLE

SERIOUSLY CUTE FOR AN OLDER GIRL

DARLING RED AND WHITE STRIPED DRESS, AND ANOTHER CUTE RED, WHITE, BLUE STRIPE STYLE

BELLABLISS HAS SOME GREAT AMERICANA SEERSUCKER PIECES — LOVE THESE SHORTALLS AND THESE SHORTS — AS WELL AS A CUTE RED GINGHAM (CURRENTLY 40% OFF!!!)

THIS KNIT FLAG BUBBLE IS CUTE AND COMFORTABLE

THIS WOULD SHIP IN TIME FOR THE FOURTH, NOT MEM DAY, BUT SO CUTE

SWIM: LOVE THIS SUIT FOR HER AND THIS FOR HIM; THIS GINGHAM RASH GUARD; AND THESE $20 STRIPED TRUNKS ARE A GOOD BUY, TOO)

CUTE FLORAL BUBBLE

JAMMIES: LOVE THIS STRIPED GAP PAIR (UNDER $20!), THIS NAUTICAL SET, THIS WAS ONE OF MY FAVORITE RR PRINTS I BOUGHT LAST SUMMER, AND I AM ORDERING THESE PAJAMAS FOR MICRO AND THIS NIGHTGOWN FOR MINI

P.S. More great recent children’s finds here and warm-weather shoes for littles here.

P.P.S. Amazing Etsy finds, to which I would add: this gorgeous quilt (perfect for picnics), a personalized teacher note pad (EOY gift!), and ceramic garden stakes.

P.P.S. Truly scattershot thoughts.

My Latest Snag: Picture Day Dress for Mini.

Mini’s school is doing something really cute this year — a “Parents’ Day.” As a part of the celebration, they will have a backdrop set up at drop-off so that we can pose as a family for a photo. I am SO excited because it’s been a minute since we had our photo taken altogether! We’re going to bring micro down for it, too, and he’s not been in the subway since the start of the pandemic — it will blow his mind! Anyhow, we have that portrait to look forward to in addition to mini’s picture day a few days later. I spent way too much time thinking about what I wanted her to wear for these photos — ha. She’s had this Sal & Pimenta dress in her closet waiting for a special occasion for awhile, so I’ll probably go with that for one, and for the other, I couldn’t resist this Smockingbird x India Amory dress. I also have this cherry print dress (this similar one is 40% off!) as an option. I guess I’m in a blue-and-white mood for her, which is convenient since blue is her favorite color.

You’re Soooo Popular: The Tiered Tolima Dress.

The most popular items on le blog this week:

+You all are LOVING this tiered statement dress for special occasions this summer! More wedding guest picks here.

+Adorable blockprint sarongs at a great price.

+So many of you have loved my new favorite floral dress! I wore it with an Hermes scarf in a similar color palette and these Loeffler Randall sandals (if you are a size 5, you are in luck — these are only $39!!) the other day and felt SO spring-like and happy. Because I’ve gotten a lot of questions on sizing: I would say this runs a little big. I took a 0 in the regular run (they do have petites, but I tend to find petite sizing is cut sort of matronly?) and it is a bit big in the chest and waist, but because of the self-tie belt, I just cinched it all in. I love it. Hits at just north of midi on me. (For reference, I am 5’0 and usually take a 0 or 00 if they have it.)

+These rainbow espadrilles. All the heart eyes.

+Personalized name ring. (Sweet gift!)

+The best tea brewing basket — read the 5,000+ five star reviews!

+A great bath rug/mat at an incredible price.

+Pretty floral tiered dress. (I think we are into tiers!)

+Our kitchen could not run without this OXO scale.

+Gorgeous intaglios.

+Darling puff-sleeved blouse for under $25.

+CHIC soap dispenser for a powder room.

+Easy striped midi shirtdress at a great price. Pair with navy Supergas and go!

Weekend Musings: Lessons from House Hunting.

Unexpected side effect of house-hunting: pressure to dial in on what we value in our day-to-day life, and a commensurate pressure to sift out the noise that occasionally deafens our instincts along these lines. Mr. Magpie and I have had countless heart-to-hearts over what we really want out of a new home over the past few weeks. Anyone looking for a house out there will commiserate around the astounding lack of inventory out there right now (nationally, 50% fewer homes on the market than average) and the attendant, spiking sense of urgency that has accompanied each and every viewing. The other day, we were looking at a home with an inspector in tow (current insane trend in this hot market: waive inspection contingencies to present a cleaner offer, which means that when we view a property that we find intriguing, we pay an inspector to come with us to give the house a once-over so we can feel a little more assured should we make an offer without inspection contingencies) and we danced around several other prospective buyers touring the home at the same time. It was supremely awkward: all of us speaking in hushed voices, our inspector ceasing conversation the minute another buyer walked by, etc. I was bowled over by the sensation of competitiveness. And so, as Mr. Magpie and I decompressed and talked it all out on the train ride home, we had to work assiduously to separate the hype from the heart: did that house really speak to us, or were we responding to the crazy shortage of options and the fact that there were other serious-looking buyers circling around that same property?

It has been an interesting process, not without self-discovery. With every week that passes and every home that we tour, we have been peeling back layers of the onion to divine what we truly prioritize in our lives at this stage, with both of us working from home for the foreseeable future and two little children tumbling around. As an example, I had originally gravitated towards older homes. I love their charm, their eccentricity, their sturdiness. I grew up in a great stone house built in 1920 or so and I loved the old-fashioned, individually-paned windows; the flagstone terrace; the eccentrically long corridor down the center of the house; the hectagonally-shaped sunroom off my father’s study; the hand-painted tile around the fireplace. Character, all of it. But also: insane upkeep, all of it. My father was never free on the weekends. There was always something to fix, oversee, install, upgrade. Further, many of the older homes we’ve seen boast floor plans with clearly demarcated rooms (i.e., fewer open spaces), smaller closets, smaller bedrooms. All of which I personally rather like as a general proposition, but — in touring homes these past few weeks, I have been surprised by how much I have been attracted to either newer construction or homes that have been thoroughly remodeled to have more of an open flow between kitchen and family room, one (or two!) rooms clearly designated for office space, and a larger owner’s suite with more closet space (and often double vanities in the primary bath — all things that are newer-age contrivances!). I frankly am shocked with myself. But in really thinking about our lives right now, and how much time we spend at home both because we now permanently WFH and because of the ages of our children (and also, of course, the pandemic), I find myself drawn to the amenities of more modern construction. I also find myself averse to the idea of Mr. Magpie working on an upkeep project every weekend — I want him hanging out with us! There is appeal in moving into a home whose roof needs minimal attention for a good forty years, and whose refrigerator is newly-installed, and whose HVAC does not leak. (Do HVAC systems leak? Haha.)

Is anyone else house hunting at the moment? Or recently finished with the process? What did you learn?

Post-Scripts: Le Perfect Cover Up.

+The perfect cover-up.

+Adorable embroidered footie at a great price. I was just telling a close friend who is expecting her first: if there’s one category to over-buy in for newborns, it’s footies. Hill basically wore footies 24 hours a day for the first three months. When they are tiny, you just want them in cozy soft cotton!

+OK, this under-$10 pearl mask chain arrived and…I am astounded at the price? It is so good! I love having this on hand while taking the kids out to the park, when I don’t always need to have my mask on while seated/far from other people. I might also use for my sunglasses. Majorly impressed!

+I’ll be needing this top for summer, pls and thank you.

+OMG this portable patio cooler is SO amazing for a party!

+This dress was SO me-in-my-20s. I would have bought it in the blue in a heart beat.

+This jacket is so cool. I just added it to my cart for next winter.

+What grown-ups wear to the pool. While on the subject of swim: this nails the Agua Bendita look for $106.

+Cute $118 sundress. Makes me feel like I’m on the beach just looking at it.

+Someone recently asked for tennis gear — I just came across this $23 tennis skirt that has great reviews and comes in tons of cute colors.

+Cutest seersucker shortalls for a little man. Would look perfect with Hill’s new red sneaks!

+Chic personalized throw blanket discovered via Le Catch. Would be really cute decor in a nursery.

+Fun statement top for $29.

+This tee dress looks like a dream to wear.

+Remember when I wrote “say yes to hot pink Louboutin mules on sale at the Outnet“? These glittery Choos runs in those same tracks. Love.

+Fantastic outdoor rug at a great price.

+Cute gift for a mom friend / new mom in honor of Mother’s Day especially — just a little fun surprise. More Mother’s Day gifts here.

+THIS POOL FLOAT IS BACK IN STOCK!