Q: Outfits for a baby girl to wear with her fur vest.

A: My two go-tos when mini was younger were: 1) Layering the vest over sweet diaper sets like this (currently on rare sale!), this, or this, paired with cable-knit tights (<<this brand is fantastic and really holds up) and tiny mary janes. Meep! Too sweet! The other option: 2) layer over a cozy rib knit set like this and finish with Donsje booties. Mini had a few pair of those boots and they were beyond adorable.

Q: Wallet!

A: I have a quilted Chanel wallet and a Prada card case and both bring me such joy every single day I use them. Strong upvotes for both. I also really love this current-season Gucci style (and the unnecessary but chic matching key case). For something a bit more affordable, I love the ones from Clare Vivier that can be personalized with shadow lettering. (Look for even less from Mark + Graham.). I also love this chic zip-around style from Neely + Chloe, which comes in great colors. They also have sweet card cases!

Q: Wide leg winter white pants.

A: For evening, these silky ones from Ramy Brook are IT. Can you even imagine paired with a simple cashmere crewneck in ivory or camel and then some glitzy earrings?! If you’re talking denim, I love the slightly cropped silhouettes from Ayr and Rag & Bone. For a full-length style, I’m drawn to this pair from M.M.LaFleur. And if you’re looking for proper trousers, I like these from Sandro and these from Halston Heritage. And for all-around wear (dress up or down), these from Apiece Apart!

Q: Ideas for styling top of Ikea docksta dining table paired with Serena and Lily Riviera chairs in navy.

A: Oo! What a chic pairing. Love. I immediately imagined a pop of green in the middle — maybe either two or three potted preserved boxwoods in different sizes/shapes (i.e., two of the sizes here or here) nestled against one another, or two of them potted in blue-and-white chinoiserie (this and this). I like that it offers height, texture, color. If this is in your breakfast nook, you could also keep a cake dome in the center and fill with whatever you have on hand — we nearly always have ours in the center of our kitchen island, featuring pastries/baked goods (store-bought ones are fine!). The particular cake dome I have (<<linked here) can also be inverted and used as a fruit bowl when you have an abundance of citrus, bananas, etc, which I also do frequently. If the cake dome feels like it’s “floating” in the middle (not sure how big the table would look in relation to the dome), you can add simple glass candleholders with white pillar candles to flank the dome to sort of section the area off, or you can layer a round tray beneath the dome. Twist on the theme: rattan tray (tie in with chairs) topped with a white footed bowl that you can fill with fruit or moss balls.

Q: Newborn stocking stuffers.

A: So sweet you’re already thinking of this — actually made me heart melt a bit! (Congrats, mama!)

THE BEST FLEECE BOOTIES (THE ONLY ONES THAT ACTUALLY STAYED ON MY BABIES’ FEET)

HIGH CONTRAST CRINKLE TOY

HIGH CONTRAST CARDS

WOOD KEYS

KNIT RATTLE

TEDDY HAT

CLASSIC JELLYCAT

INDESTRUCTIBLE BABY BOOKS (CAN BE PUT IN MOUTH, CRINKLED TO HIGH HELL, AND RUN THROUGH WASHING MACHINE!)

EVERY BABY’S FAVORITE BANANA

Q: Bedding and towels for little boys.

A: For bedding, I like these stripes, this toile, these stars, or this gingham. All of these would look great with a classic navy-trim duvet! Finish with a monogrammed lumbar in red piping (with navy lettering) or applique boudoir pillow for a tailored look, or top with this Katie Ridder pillow for a high-end designer vibe. (Major addition: these drapes to match!). For towels, we use a blend of Matouk Auberge and Weezie (you can see a peek into my children’s bathroom here). I love the bold monograms both have. These rugby stripe towels in navy would also be cute blended in with hand-towels from Matouk or Weezie!

Q: Fall flat knee-high boots.

A: I really love this pair from Anthro. I think they’d be the perfect compliment to all of the fall floral dresses we’ve been buying! This pair from Alexandre Birman is more of an investment, but is truly a timeless piece — the buckles make it feel very Hermes to me. I am sure we’ve overdue for a return of the tall riding boot, and you’ll be ahead of the curve with this!

Q: Fun dress/skirt/matching set for a long weekend in Mexico City.

A: This Mi Golondrina is spectacular and feels autumnal but festive. You could wear when back home with suede booties and a chunky knit! A few other fab finds for a festive night out:

THIS BOLD RED NUMBER

FABULOUS FARM RIO

NESLI NAP DRESS IN EMERALD

BANJANAN

ZIMMERMANN

AGUA BENDITA (IF YOUR TRIP IS LATER — THIS IS PRE-ORDER ONLY)

BANANA YELLOW TOVE

THIS ROSEWATER HOUSE MASTERPIECE

THIS ULTRA-FUN MINI (UNDER $200)

FINALLY, CAN’T STOP THINKING ABOUT THIS JOHANNA ORTIZ

Q: Blush bridesmaid dress — can be midi or long — for a July wedding on a farm in Vermont!

A: Enjoy! I like this blush Reformation, this on-trend Self-Portrait, or — statement! — this Marchesa Notte.

Q: New mom winter white dress to celebrate my son’s Christening. Kate Middleton vibes!

A: Congratulations! This is not white, but Kate has worn many dresses by the brand GOAT and this pink one (on sale!) would be so fetching paired with a headband like this. For a major splurge, this ODLR tweed boucle number is perfection and could be worn until you’re old and gray. This belted Self-Portrait style is also seriously chic, and I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve suggested this Sandro beauty. This Ted Baker would also be spectacular!

Q: Fall wedding dress for a guest!

A: I have loads of chic options here and here! For black-tie, I can’t get over this navy slip dress situation (under $250 and so devastatingly chic). I’m imagining it with a little feather/fur stole and a low bun. For cocktail attire, love this patchwork Ulla, this floral SEA, and this olive paisley Cara Cara.

Q: Need a good gift idea for an 8-year-old niece.

A: I recall being really into games at that age — maybe classics like Operation or Guess Who? Klee Naturals has these fun all-natural makeup kits that I would have absolutely loved, too. My mom gave me an enormous pink play makeup kit for a birthday around there and I spent HOURS doing my makeup, my sisters’ makeup, my friends’ makeup, etc. If you have an artist on your hands, Ed Emberley drawing books are fabulous, especially bundled with Ooly drawing implements. I would have loved this Ooly set at that age, come to think of it! Finally, you can’t go wrong with Lego!

Q: Black velvet blazer that is more dressy than worky.

A: If it’s gotta be black, it’s gotta be L’Agence. So incredibly chic and saucy. Right now I’m kind of freaking out imagining myself pairing it with these dramatic feather-trim pants for a major moment. (NYE?!). Reiss has a great one, too. But if it can be navy, Zara has one that is so fabulous.

Q: Diaper bag organization!

A: Pouches are the answer, and I shared all my favorites here. I specifically like using these large wet/dry bags now that I have two children, so I keep all their must-haves in easy-to-grab pouches monogrammed with their respective initials. Bonus is that the interior lamination means if you need a place to store soiled/wet clothes, you have one on hand! When my children were super young, I loved this ToteSavvy insert, too — especially great for a Goyard (my diaper bag), which has more or less no structure. Great to keep bottle in one place, diaper in another, etc. I always had what I needed and knew exactly when I was due for a refill, forgetting something, etc. Once the kids got a little older, though, I found pouches easier to use since their on-the-go needs fluctuated by activity/season/time-of-day/etc.

My girlfriend Inslee (seen above, with her precious son, Jackson) designed some of the adorable holiday prints that Lake Pajamas launched this morning! I am eager to get my hands on her whimsical print for my children this holiday season. I also love (!) the awning striped nightgown Inslee is wearing above (perfection with my green velvet furlanes — I’m imagining wearing this while wrapping gifts and clinking champagne on Christmas Eve)…and then of course my favorite pair of pajamas of all time is their long-short set. (Pair with those mini Uggs everyone from Kaia Gerber to Joan Smalls has been wearing and you basically winterize them.)

While we’re on the subject of the holidays, I know that some of you have been asking for gift guides and holiday decor roundups, so I’m sharing all of the finds I’ve been sitting on for weeks, just waiting for a semi-appropriate time to spill (anticipators, unite!), and have also begun to organize them into a Holiday Shop.

EARLY 2021 HOLIDAY FINDS

+The stockings from Stuck on Hue are nothing short of spectacular. Can you imagine these or these in a well-appointed living room?!

+A sleek menorah.

+I buy Mr. Magpie a new ornament every year for our tree and am thinking of giving him these beautiful turtle doves this year: “A symbol of love and devotion, it’s believed that turtle doves stay together for a lifetime.” These would also be a sweet holiday gift for newlyweds!

+My other contender for this year: one of these customized ornaments showcasing a portrait of your home. So sweet for new homeowners (like us!)

+The chicest modern version of an Advent wreath I’ve ever seen. We introduced this as a nightly family tradition last year during Advent and it was really a beautiful way to stay close to the Christmas story during the season. We sang the old school “O Come O Come Emmanuel” as we lit the candle(s) nightly, and mini would fling her arms out and yell: “REJOICE! REJOICE!” at the refrain. Will never forget that big energy during a holiday that felt so isolated from loved ones!

+We also did an Advent calendar my mother-in-law had made for my husband years and years ago where you tie a little surprise on for each day. This similar style has pockets for the same purpose and can be personalized with your children’s names (or your family name). This one is also super cute, but a little more expensive. Note that delivery is currently estimated for end of November, so good to get a head start on ordering this if you want it for the holidays!

+Gorgeous personalized wreath sash for your door.

+My children have a peg doll nativity set similar to this that consumes hours and hours of play and attention every holiday season.

+My favorite holiday decor — mini boxwood wreaths to hang in the windows or over the back of dining chairs with a sumptuous velvet or tidy grosgrain ribbon.

+These mini stockings would be cute as a way to present gifts/gift cards, or as decoration in a smaller space (or a child’s room, for their stuffed animals or something!)

+Gorgeous velvet bows with self-ties for garlands or napkins!

+A few fun ornament sets: ginger jars, handpainted chinoiserie balls, the London-themed ones like this and this from an Etsy shop, and – my personal favorite – these hand-felted NYC subway cars (she also does London double deckers and more!).

+Love the idea of these vintage bells as mantle decor nestled in among evergreens and taper candles.

+This Etsy shop has the cutest (!) personalized, laminated holiday placemats for little ones.

+These wicker tree baskets have been super popular the past few years as a tidy alternative to a tree skirt. Would be so chic, I think, in a coastal home.

+Adore these berry cluster trees to keep on a sideboard or even in the middle of the kitchen island during the holiday season.

+I bought all the white metal houses from Target’s collection last year, and my children adored them. So chic in a windowsill, on a sideboard in a dining room, or on a mantel. I love these ceramic ones from Ballard and these from Crate and Barrel, too.

+On our first Christmas together in Chicago, Mr. Magpie and I bought a bunch of Martha-Stewart-brand ornaments in different shapes — birds, classic balls, some icicle-types, and they were such a great “starter pack” for us before we’d accrued the more sentimental ones we now have. This is one such set.

+These bells would be pretty hanging from swag on a piece of furniture or newpost.

+Absolutely darling holiday mug for a little one who loves hot chocolate but can’t be trusted with porcelain/ceramic.

+This pinecone wreath is a forever piece! Bring out year after year and never worry about dead/dry swag. For the same reason, this faux cedar garland is kind of brilliant.

+I feel as though Scrooge himself had these brass candlesticks in his house. Just perfect.

+Some of my favorite holiday books to read my children: Pick a Tree (the illustrations are perfect), Red & Lulu (perfect for NYC babes), and of course The Night Before Christmas. For littler children, Christmas in the Manger is in our year-round repertoire.

+I was just thinking excitedly last weekend about bringing out puzzles as we head towards the holiday season. There is something so hygge to me about having a puzzle out on the dining room table to work on when you have a few minutes, listening to Christmas music, enjoying a glass of wine or a cup of tea. I enjoyed this one and this one last year!

P.S. More favorite sleepwear finds for littles. Check out Petite Plume’s holiday prints, including their sleigh bells, antique toys, and blue bows!

P.P.S. I love NYC this time of year — from mid-October through the holidays. I personally think the city’s at its most magical. Was looking back on some of my posts about the city, like this and this, and feeling all the feels.

P.P.P.S. I won’t, however, miss NYC’s slush lagoons.

One morning last fall, I was on the final leg of my favorite running circuit in Central Park, and as I pushed up the slight incline of the bridle trail running along the west side of Jackie O. Reservoir, I mumbled to myself: “Hurry up, slowploke!” It was a strange moment, in that I actually whispered the words out loud, made even stranger by the realization that I was talking to myself in a fairly denigratory tone. I started to wonder whether I always spoke to myself like that, carping at the quick at every fault and line gone slack. The next few runs, I found myself more self-aware about my internal dialogue. When I’d find myself leaning almost subconsciously into chastisement, I’d interrupt myself and rephrase: “You got this,” and “Keep going,” and “You’re almost there.” Truth be told, I’m too close-up to know whether these modifications have done me any good in the categories of achievement or self-worth, but I was frankly appalled by the way I’d caught myself talking to myself. I haven’t found myself using that tone in other areas of my life, so maybe it was isolated to the exercise sphere — a sort of internal tough-love to muscle through the most strenuous parts of the workout — but still. I would never speak that way to anyone else — why was I so comfortable directing that tone inwardly, even if only while running?

Yesterday, I came across the apt excerpt below in the devotional I’ve been working through. (I promise I won’t make this blog a sequence of replies to its every prompt, but some of the messages have truly stirred something in me.)

“What if we had a transcript of all the conversations we have with ourselves? If our thoughts were typed out for all to see, what conclusions would be drawn? What do we tend to focus on, think about, and struggle with? When does out mind tend to race without cautious and get anxious inside? What keeps us up at night or motivates us to stay on the treadmill? Are we usually dealing with an inner critic or a kindness coach?”

The last question in particular struck a chord. The answer for me came easy: my internal voice is undoubtedly more often a critic than a kindness coach. But what does this mean? I think sometimes having high expectations — for yourself, for others — is perceived to be a bad thing, but I’m not sure I agree with that assessment. I have often found it healthful and productive to set the bar high, to sit in reflection about where I could have done better and what I will do differently next time to achieve a different outcome. For example, I think being hyper critical of my own work has made me a better writer. I have looked back on my writing from years past with the eyes of a landscaper: oo, trim that foliage way back! and yuck, weeds here. And I can’t speak to the efficacy of my parenting writ-large, but I know I have improved in patience and calm as a mother given many, many nights of tearful reflection on moments of frustration and shortcoming. But then maybe I am permitting “constructive feedback” to subsume the neighboring “unduly harsh criticism,” because I also know for certain that some of my self-reproach in the areas of creative output, fitness, and especially motherhood are overly heavy-handed.

So where to go from here?

For me, perhaps it begins with a deliberate pause when I am reflecting on losing my patience with my children, hitting publish on a half-formed essay whose conclusion I just couldn’t quite mold, or putting in a half-assed effort on my morning run. I think asking myself: is this the nasty critic or the kindness coach speaking? will be instructive. Maybe the criticism is earned. But maybe I also need to give myself some grace, or to cheerlead, or to simply say: “Yep, that was rough. Moving on.”

What about you? What does your internal voice sound like? Have you caught yourself using a tone you wouldn’t use with anyone else, too?

Post-Scripts.

+On mom guilt.

+On difficult ages.

+On finding optimism after a really tough parenting stretch.

+Words of wisdom on failure from the luminous Patti Smith.

Shopping Break.

+Mr. Magpie and I have a few copper cookware pieces from Mauviel that we treasure. I find that copper conducts heat quickly and evenly, and I just love the “French kitchen” vibes. I was just eyeing this beautiful copper kitchen bowl, which would be great for making swiss meringue over simmering water — or just, mixing up salad!

+These popular clogs are on sale through today only!

+Some of my favorite pajamas in long-sleeved format — ultra soft, would work great for nursing mamas.

+I’d never have thought to switch out sheeting fabrics seasonally but how fun would this nutcracker print sheeting be for a little one around the holidays?! And I’m kind of in love with this Santa toile

+Speaking of holidays, I LOVE these plates.

+This pink floral puffer vest for a baby girl!

+These Rue de Verneuil bags are majorly appealing to me — make me want to go back to school and wear tweed and read in libraries with stained glass windows! Super love this oversized tweed clutch to pair with anything corduroy…I now have this Boden dress and just added this to my cart from J. Crew!

+Love this dark floral dress with black suede boots.

+This cardigan from Le Lion’s collaboration with Julia Berolzheimer is just spectacular.

+Speaking of fabulous sweaters, Gilt just further discounted some ultra-chic knits from LoveShackFancy, including this pale pink alpaca (only $119 now!) and this gorgeous patchwork style.

+This chic, dramatic blouse is currently on sale!

+This bed blanket is hands-down my favorite element of our bedding — it is super soft, affords just the right level of weight over sheets and under a duvet, and adds interesting depth to the overall “bedscape.” I just noticed Pottery Barn launched a super similar product for about half the price. Such a great upgrade to your bed for winter especially!

+This velvet chair is in-sahhhhn.

+Another fab fall everyday dress. Would work with bump or while nursing, too — pair with velvet mules or clogs for an on-trend moment.

+Burgundy. velvet. dress. YES.

+Super into fair-isle at the moment, and Mango has some amazing and affordable options — do I need this turtleneck vest?! Would be so good over a contrasting-print dress or white blouse. Also love this cardigan and this one, too!

+Oo la la, intaglio earrings!

+I have been eyeing this Sandro dress forever, and it just cropped up at The Outnet. SO chic. Would work for so many festive occasions, like baby showers, bridal teas, receptions, etc. Conservative but not.

+Both of my children absolutely loved these ultra-soft blankets as babies. Hill still sleeps with his every night!

+Use these on your existing juice glasses for a chic coastal vibe next time you’re hosting brunch.

+Such a gorgeous velvet holiday dress for a little love — mini had a very similar one in the same moody blue hue from Sal e Pimenta last year that was just spectacular. Works for Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas! Love the baby sister match, too.

+I just live for turtlenecks.

+These boots are fabulous.

+Cute reusable plastic cups for your Halloween gathering – thinking of ordering these for a little party we’re hosting!

Shopbop is running one of its rare sale promotions — 15% off purchases of $200+; 20% off purchases of $500+; and 25% off purchases of $800+. My favorite finds:

The Fashion Magpie Shopbop Sale Scores

LUSTING AFTER THIS BLOUSE — IMAGINE WITH THESE EARRINGS IN NAVY VELVET

MUST HAVE THESE ADORABLE SHERPA MITTENS

MY FAVORITE WINTER BOOTS — THESE NEVER GO ON SALE

THE SWEATER HEADBAND I’VE MENTIONED 1300 TIMES — JUST THE BEST FALL COLORS!

MY FAVORITE TALL BOOT ON THE MARKET

PERFECT EVERYDAY FALL DRESS — LOVE LENGTH, CUT, COLOR…WOULD PAIR WITH SUEDE MULES OR FLATS THOUGH!

…FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT THIS NAVY GINGHAM DRESS! WOULD WORK WITH BUMP — FAB FOR A FALL GATHERING WITH CLOGS/MULES

THIS FAIR-ISLE CARDIGAN IS AT THE TOP OF MY LUST LIST AT THE MOMENT (NOTE: ON SALE FOR EVEN LESS IN A DIFFERENT COLOR HERE)

CURRENT “IT” GIRL FLEECE…BEEN SEEING THIS EVERYWHERE!

SPECTACULAR EVENING DRESS FOR UNDER $130 (EVEN LESS WITH PROMOTION!)

CHICEST SWEATER FOR LAYERING OVER HOLIDAY DRESSES — CANNOT RESIST A BOW

FAB NAVY STATEMENT DRESS

GET A PRICE BREAK ON THE CLARE VIVIER TOTE OF THE SEASON!

P.S. Great finds at Loft and how I’d style them.

P.P.S. This dress is selling like wild fire — only a few sizes left, under $100 (with promo code), and perfect for Thanksgiving.

P.P.P.S. On making our way through the hardest part of COVID: “It begins with a prayer, and it ends with something laughably, improbably trivial, like the splash of champagne that spilled over the edge of a coupe on my Easter Sunday table as I sat with family after months of separation. Both are reassurances that life — that love — will find a way. It is my mother kneeling and crying at the House of Mary, and it is my mother calling me on the phone to ask: “Did you want me to pack you some snacks for the train ride home? I know you like Cheez-its.” It is the expansiveness of faith and the preening minutiae of motherhood, and one way or the other, we have made it.”

In seventh grade, my homeroom teacher asked us to select an artwork of our choosing and write an essay on it. I recall classmates groaning at the assignment, but I was delighted. Even now, I get a thrill out of the open-endedness of the prompt, a barely-mantled invitation to corral the ping-ponging thoughts of a twelve-year-old into something of shape. I selected an obscure wood carving by Renaissance artist Albrecht Durer titled “Melencolia.” My election is as close to a portal into the psyche of a 1997-era tween as you will find. The theme was slightly morbid in the way of the Ouija board and dark lipstick and subtle obsession with witchcraft then in vogue, and overtly self-indulgent in the way of a twelve-year-old. These were the years of tamagotchis, sleepovers, passed notes with “do you like Katie? check yes or no,” butterfly clips, lip smackers, spin-the-bottle, boys who wore flannel shirts unbuttoned over white tees, Alanis Morisette, chanting “Bloody Mary” into the mirror, “Teen Wolf,” the Goth trend, pamphlets labeled “Your Changing Body,” the book Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret, chokers, and those hideous black Steve Madden platforms with the stretchy band that conformed to the top of the foot, which my Dad aptly dubbed “clod-hoppers” which he in turn sometimes appended to just “clogs,” which then became a stand-in for any footwear he disliked for the rest of my life. (A strange kitten heel with a jarring buckle on the toe? “A clog,” to my Dad.) Of course, I was too much of a skittish rule-follower to ever actually chant “Bloody Mary” or play the Ouija board. I was convinced that if the devil didn’t get me, my mom would find me with my palms over the board or my hands in front of my face and my life as I knew it would be over. I knew this with confidence because she had once told me that her father (my Granddad, a pious man) was appalled by the cocktail of the same name — or, more accurately, the non-alcoholic variation, the Virgin Mary, and would refuse to order it on naming convention alone, and she delivered this information with such firmness and reverence that I still think about it to this day when I see it on a restaurant menu. Anyhow, I suppose that writing an essay about melancholy was as close to rebellious self-expression as I could get as that time. It is agony to be a tween! was the subtext. Durer gets it.

I think back now and imagine my teacher smirking as he skimmed my loose-leaf paper. Amidst a sea of reflections on “Starry, Starry Night” and Degas’ dancers, here was…Albrecht Durer? Is that even an artist? he might have asked, not having Wikipedia as an easy reference. These were the dial-up days — DOS prompts, computers that weighed a shipping ton, heavily-pixelated Michael Jordan v. Larry Bird, etc. How I even found Durer is a marvel to me, although I am fairly certain it was from a set of encyclopedias my father kept in the basement that we mainly used as “bricks” in fort building but found sporadically useful for oblique self-expression in open-ended essay prompts.

My teacher gave me an “A+,” on the assignment, which was not unusual for me, but added: “See me after class,” which was. My stomach dropped. The last thing I needed was my teacher to ask if I needed counseling, and I was aware enough that my topic might have earned me that conversation. How could I have been so bold?! I immediately started worrying about whether my parents would be called. Would Sister Joan, our principal, be involved in all of this? Ah, the spiraling of a 12 year old Catholic girl!

When I timidly approached my teacher’s desk at lunch, he grinned.

“Durer, huh?” he asked. I gulped, but found the smile disarming enough to begin to resume some posture of normalcy.

As it turns out, he simply wanted to praise me for my writing, and for the effort it must have taken to source the artwork I’d written about. He also looked me square in the eye and said: “Keep writing.”

The episode now reads like a parable to me. I took a risk at self-expression and it was fraught with peril and in the end it not only paid off but spurred me forward.

Keep writing.

Two of my uncles used to say the same thing to me, often in long-form letters. “Still writing fiction?” my Uncle Jim would ask me when I was thirteen, fifteen, nineteen. He’d urge not to stop, once tucking a xeroxed copy of a favorite Salinger short story of his into the envelope, as though an ebenezer for future attempts at fiction.

Keep writing.

My mother enrolled me in writing workshops, sat in audiences at poetry competitions where I would read my work in trembling sotte voce, kept a hand-written story of mine in her bedside table.

Keep writing.

The other day, I sat down and wrote an email to three girlfriends of mine telling them that — without their even knowing it — they had shaped my life as a writer in a meaningful way. I had just moved to New York, just dissolved a business with my husband, just had a baby, and I felt adrift and throttled. All three of them were successful creatives in their own right, and I was entranced and encouraged by not only the quality of their art but their fearless entrepreneurship. They became models for my own confidence. But mainly, it was their earnest acceptance of what I was doing, the way they’d ask what I was working on or let me know when they particularly liked an essay, that motivated me.

Keep writing, in different words.

It is easy to be deterred by criticism, and more often than not, I am the loudest of the howling wolves nipping at my heels — that is, I am often the harshest critic of my own work. In past occasions where my writing has been poorly received, I have sometimes felt like saying, “Oh I know. Tell me about it. Horrible!!!”

And you know —

I think I have not thoroughly acknowledged the patronage that has brought me through. For most of my life, when generous people would say nice things about my writing, I would flush, change the topic, dissent. But obviously some of the encouragement seeped through, lodging itself in the tender spot beyond the armor, and I doubt very much I have gone even one day — even one single day! — of the last few decades of my life without writing, in no small part because of that furtherance. Sometimes, that writing has been in narrow, fractional modalities: fragments of essays jotted on a notepad, turns of phrases captured on my iPhone Notes app, even “oh! I love the way she put that!” awarenesses that later spring up, daisy-like, in my musings. And sometimes, it has been long, heart-wrenching essays that consume me for days and leave me as fossil. All of it — even when there is no pen on paper — is writing, though, which to me is process rather than product. Some of my best writing happens while on mile three of a run or laying awake in the middle of the night: it is the unfurling of words into empty space. And so writing has been a lifeblood. A through-line. The backbone of my professional career, a partial-casting of my identity. And it wouldn’t be that way without the teachers, family members, friends, readers (you!) who have unwritten my longtime experiment with language.

All to say: today I am taking a pause to give praise where it is due, to sit in gratitude with the memory of that teacher’s encouraging stare over my strange seventh-grade essay. And I want to pay it forward. So to anyone who needs to hear it today: keep going. Take the risk. Lean into the encouragement. Let this note today be your own ebenezer.

Post-Scripts.

+On getting into a flow.

+Do you consider yourself creative? (The TL;DR: even if you don’t, you are.)

+Writing, fishing, and The Roaring Fork.

+More words of encouragement.

+On selecting English as a major.

Shopping Break.

+Thanks to the reader who pointed out this adorable exaggerated-collar sweatshirt! SEA vibes but on a more manageable scale (and much more affordable).

+I will be doing an entire post on this promotion in a few hours, but Shopbop is running one of its buy-more-save-more events, and it includes this very popular blouse.

+Last-minute Halloween buys: Halloween PJs, 50% off, and Martha Stewart bat mirror clings.

+This tunic sweatshirt looks like Saturday morning lounging perfection.

+This is to me the perfect sweater for throwing around shoulders during this transitional season. Great colors, not too bulky, super soft!

+Glass salt cellar at a great price. Thinking of putting this in Mr. Magpie’s stocking alongside his annual stocking stuffer of Maldon salt.

+These frames are so fun!

+This $35 gingham top! WOW! Instantly reminded me of the Emerson Fry blouse. Perfect tucked into high-waisted flared denim with this bag or beneath joveralls.

+Cute, affordable shacket in the blue plaid and camel colorways!

+ICYMI: H&M’s new arrivals are on fire.

+I don’t know how I missed it, but this piece from Target’s designer collab with Sandy Liang is amazing! I would probably pair it with polished navy slides or loafers and a headband.

+These limited-edition floral slides are so incredibly chic, and would go with basically everything here.

+Speaking of fab shoes, these mules are perfect for the holiday party circuit.

+Corseted velvet dream.

+I know I’ve shared this before, but this sherpa funnel-neck is just so fun.

+As is this sherpa belt bag — currently 25% off!

+This patterned bulletin board is SO fun, and currently on sale! Kind of love this as a sneaky way to fill up part of an at-home office wall with color/design but save a little money (versus artwork).

+Such a classic dress, in a great moody blue.

+We are a ways out from Christmas, but these paper placemats in festive prints are so fab!

+This travel hanging bag looks impossibly well-designed.

+These striped pillows are so handsome (and on sale!), and these green herb-motif plates from the same shop are super chic and a great deal as well.

+Into some of the fall prints at Chappy Wrap, like this herringbone.

+All my favorite fall finds, in one place.

+Cute scores for little boys and fall basics for them, too.

+Fall athletic gear!

I’ve lately been inspired by McGee + Co’s aesthetic — a mix of rustic and refined pieces, mainly in neutrals, in interesting textures. I’m normally drawn to bolder colors and patterns, but — good design is good design! I am loving their new holiday collection (the early bird gets the worm!) and do note that they have a diffusion line with Target with some amazing pieces at great prices (I love this $40 wood-base lamp!). A few pieces from all over the place that are appealing to me in this vein:

The-Fashion-Magpie-Chic-Neutral-Finds-for-Home

DRAMATIC LAMP // FOSSILIZED CLAM // HORN AND BONE MIRROR // FAN PALM // MOSS BALLS // MARBLE FRUIT BOWL // PALMS BOOK // LACQUERED CONSOLE // TEAK STOOLS // CUTTING BOARD // CANDLE // SCALLOPED TRAY // PEDESTAL DINING TABLE // SOAP STONE CANDLE HOLDERS // PAMPAS GRASS (GREAT VALUE COMPARED TO BIG RETAILERS) // END TABLE // SET OF TWO LAMPS (YOU WON’T BELIEVE PRICE)

A few other finds in this vein:

WOODEN BOOK STAND

CARVED WOODEN STOOL

BOUCLE CHAIR

DECORATIVE WOOD BALLS

PENDANT

FEATHER DUSTER — COULD BE CHIC DECOR IF ARRANGED

PEDESTAL DINING TABLE

GLAZED PITCHER

BURL WOOD SIDE TABLE

DRIED PALM FROND

SWIVEL CHAIR

P.S. More recent home finds here and here.

P.P.S. Decorating for Halloween.

P.P.P.S. Admittedly boring things made better by great design.


My Latest Snag: Everlane Cashmere Polo.

I’ve written about this piece a few times recently and also shared some photos of myself wearing this on Instagram, but I am absolutely in love with this cashmere polo sweater from Everlane, which was generously gifted. I have never owned this style of sweater but I love the slight sexiness of the neckline, and the olive green color is amazing in real life. So sophisticated and unexpected! I wore with wide-leg ecru pants similar to these and my green furlanes the other day. Perfect fall sweater for feeling pulled together but comfortable.

You’re Soooo Popular: Le Perfect Pump.

The most popular items on le blog this week:

the fashion magpie blog best sellers october

+My ride-or-die fall pump. I have friends who also own Manolo Blahnik BBs (super similar in shape/style/heel height) and prefer the J. Crew. More comfortable! I own this pair of shoes in so many colors! Great with jeans, the wide-leg pants everyone’s wearing, dresses, etc!

+Micro’s owl costume for Halloween! Ships fast and the quality is great.

+This $35 dress I wore twice last week. So comfortable! Specifically love long dresses like these for hosting people at home while barefoot! It’s cut generously — would work with bump, too, and would be great in the cranberry color for Thanksgiving!

+Hand-painted ornaments! I guess we’re ready to think about Christmas?!

+Halloween treat tags!

+Cord joggers for a little boy. So sweet with an ivory cable knit.

+$20 loafers for boys! This is the kind of deal I love at the moment, when we’re still not doing THAT much social stuff because of COVID. If your child might only wear loafers on two occasions this winter, why splurge on Elephantito?!

+Chicest scalloped side table.

+My favorite winter boot in such a great shade!

+Such a great versatile dress for moving into cooler weather — long-sleeves, terracotta hue. Could be paired with wintry accessories or summer ones. Love a year-round style like this.

+One of my favorite Thanksgiving dress options.

+Sailor-style velvet hairbows for little ones.

+The devotional I’m working through. A caveat: I find this book uneven. Sometimes the messages grab me and other times I feel a little put-off or over-strained (?). Maybe this is the purpose and the resistance will ultimately prove instructive. What I do like about it is that it pushes me to spend time in thought every day. A good habit-forming tool.

+We own several of the prints of this cute smocked, Liberty-inspired blouse ($21!) for my daughter. Easiest weekday outfits with solid leggings and Cientas!

+$25 velvet bow shoes for littles!

Weekend Musings: A TV Show I’m Enjoying.

Are you watching “Only Murders in the Building” on Hulu? This show was filmed down the street from us in Manhattan, and I walked by the apartment building in which it is set (“the Arconia” in the show; “The Belnord” in real life) daily when taking mini to school via the 1 Train, so I will admit that some of the show’s luster stems from “I know that place!” sentiments. But it is also richly allusive and self-aware in provocative and meaningful ways. I specifically appreciate the show’s consciousness of generational gaps: “Should I call or text her?” asks Steve Martin’s character, referring to Selena Gomez’s much younger character; Martin Short’s character pauses and replies: “Calling seems to make them angry.” (Haha!) Jokes like these are cunningly strategic in that half of the cast feels very “old-guard Hollywood” and this humor bridges the gap while also commenting thoughtfully on medium versus matter. The entire show is deftly metafictional in this way: it is full of winks at the processes of funding, casting, and producing performances; there are celebrities playing themselves (Sting!) and other ones not (Nathan Lane!); and by and large, the show interrogates the design of different “texts” and how the mode predicates, or conditions, the audience’s consumption. For example, we are obviously watching a television show and one of the leads is a celebrated actor, but the characters are designing a podcast and we are also shown excerpts of play productions, bits of text narrative from The Hardy Boys, musical interludes by bassoon and accordion and even Sting on his guitar. There are moments where the characters in fact directly comment on the conditions of performance, i.e., the bassoonist notes that she plays in the courtyard so she can better hear her own pitch, and Martin Short’s character visualizes the process of “casting” a villain for the podcast. Then there are text messages, hand-written notes, audio files, video files! In short, the show is a pastiche of texts, and we are always made aware of the competing desires, expectations, and inputs that support the production and reception of each. We are only four episodes in but there is so much to unpack about communication, medium, performance, truth, art, and money.

Strongly recommend this show!

What else are you watching?

Post-Scripts: Exaggerated Collars + Pencil Cups.

+These linen pillow covers are on sale in select colors at such a fabulous price — like $23! Great for adding depth/texture/contrast on a couch!

+A girlfriend of mine just bought this blouse and looks adorable in it! If you’re into the exaggerated collar, this floral blouse is under $100.

+The rattan pencil cup you never knew you always needed. I also love these Birdie Hall brush pots or julep cups for this purpose. I actually use julep cups for everything from bud vases (so chic with winter berries in them for the holidays!) to tooth brush holders in my house!

+Some of these seashell ornaments are on sale for under $2! I love! Would be so cute to do a tree like this for a coastal house.

+Somehow missed this cute chunky knit cardi in my H&M New Arrivals post. So good! Love the color!

+Another FAB Target find for $25!

+Another great tool for transforming a summery dress into an autumnal one.

+These tiny floral booties for a baby!! Meep!

+OO yes to this just-launched cropped jacket. More jackets in this vein here!

+Bellabliss is running a buy more, save more promotion. Great time to buy for family portraits, Thanksgiving, and/or Christmas at a discount…or just invest in great knitwear! I especially love:

DEFINITELY ORDERING MINI THIS DRESS

THIS DRESS FOR THANKSGIVING

THIS FOR BABY (WOULD WORK AT A DRESSY COLD-WEATHER GATHERING — HILL HAD ONE OF THESE IN NAVY THAT WAS PERFECT FOR AT-HOME CHRISTMAS COCKTAILS WITH FAMILY!)

DARLING DRESS FOR FAMILY PORTRAIT

THIS FOR DAUGHTER AND THIS FOR SON FOR FAMILY PHOTO OR THANKSGIVING

PERFECT CORD OVERALLS FOR HIM

+Testing a new body wash scent.

+I have mentioned this puffer a few times but just WOW. I love!

+FUN (!) fall layering piece.

+OMG this side tie Chloe blazer.

+Great stacking bracelet to layer in with others you own.

+Cutest gardening toy for a little one.

+Gorgeous red heel — imagine simply paired with jeans and a white button-down.

+The most attractive learning tower I’ve ever seen.

+This gingham coverall is darling!

+I’ve never been a huge Mary Jane gal but I kind of LOVE these. Currently 25% off!

+These #extra pajamas are also 25% off — so ridiculous and fanciful but I can’t lie. I kind of swoon over them!

+This is such a big look, but I kind of love it. Fair isle head to toe! Why not?!

+Merino loafers!

My tabletop post earlier this week prompted me to think more intensively about what I might wear for Thanksgiving this year, now not *so* far off! Some pieces I love…

thanksgiving outfit ideas

MEADOWS DRESS // MISSIGIRL DESIGNS EARRINGS // MULES // HEADBAND // SWEATER // SKIRT // HEADBAND // ANN TAYLOR DRESS // HHH TOP // HUNTER BLAKE STUD EARRINGS // ULLA JOHNSON DRESS // CORD HEADBAND // SWEATER // DROP EARRINGS // PLATFORMS

My favorite dresses for the occasion:

THIS SOPHISTICATED ANN TAYLOR (VERY EMILIA WICKSTEAD) WITH EITHER PLAID PLATFORMS TO SHAKE IT UP OR DEMURE KITTEN HEELS

THIS PATCHWORK DRESS, WITH NAVY VELVET/SUEDE ACCESSORIES (LOTS HERE AND HERE)

ULLA JOHNSON WITH A CORD HEADBAND AND FAB HUNTER BLAKE EARRINGS

THIS MEADOWS, PAIRED WITH GREEN VELVET ACCESSORIES, LIKE THESE MULES, THESE VELVET BOW EARRINGS, AND THIS HEADBAND

FOR A SAUCY, WARMER-WEATHER HOLIDAY (DON’T FORGET THE TAPE!)

THIS CHESTNUT BROWN DRESS, MAYBE WITH A SWEATER HEADBAND?

BURGUNDY FLORAL

SMOCKED BROWN PLAID

PLAID MAXI — WOULD CINCH WITH BELT

SILK ZIMMERMANN

ALEMAIS

BRUGUNDY EN SAISON

THIS NAVY FLORAL — THE COLLAR FEELS VERY APPROPRIATE

THIS BURGUNDY FLORAL (I HAVE IT IN THE NAVY AND MIGHT GO BACK FOR BURGUNDY — SO EASY TO WEAR, SO CHIC! I SWEAR IT LOOKS LIKE SEA!) WITH THESE EARRINGS

On the more casual side:

THIS TIERED CORDUROY WITH CLOGS OR FURLANES

TARTAN PLAID SHIRTDRESS

SUEDE BELTED SHIRTDRESS

THIS CUTE MINI

If dresses aren’t appealing…

THIS SKIRT WITH THIS SWEATER (OR THIS ONE)…OR IF YOU DON’T LOVE THE SKIRT, THESE TROUSERS

MY FAVORITE CASHMERE POLO IN THE OLIVE GREEN WITH ECRU HIGH-WAIST DENIM…POSSIBLY WITH THIS TILE HEADBAND

THIS CHIC SCULPTED SWEATER WITH THIS HEADBAND

PAZ TOP WITH HIGH-WAISTED FLARED JEANS

PILGRIM CHIC WITH YOUR FAVORITE JEANS

THIS SHACKET TO TOP IT ALL OFF

If you’re expecting…this ByTimo, this Rachel Pally, the aforementioned Target stunner (would def work with bump), this nap dress.

And two other accessories to contemplate: leather headband and satin mules.

P.S. More fab fall outfit inspo here and here.

P.P.S. “Not everything that weighs you down is yours to carry.”

P.P.P.S. If you ever find yourself in the wrong story

*Image above via Maisonette, featuring their cardigan, marked down to under $20 at the moment!

Some favorite recent children’s finds, all under $20 (!!)…

Affordable Finds for Little Girls.

LITTLE GIRL FINDS UNDER $25

EXAGGERATED COLLAR SWEATSHIRT

CORDUROY SKIRT

VELVET HAIR BOW SET

NAVY CARDIGAN

THIS 3-PACK OF INEXPENSIVE GLOVES IN GREAT COLORS IS A MUST-BUY — HAD THESE LAST YEAR AND SO GREAT BECAUSE THEY AREN’T TOO EXPENSIVE WHEN THEY GET LOST!

PINK HAT AND GLOVES SET (UNDER $10!)

RUFFLE COLLAR BLOUSE

STRIPED LONG-SLEEVED DRESS

QUILTED FLORAL JACKET

SKINNY CORDS

BURGUNDY DRESS

VELVET MARY JANES (!!!!)

SMOCKED TOP

FLORAL SWEATER

CORD BONNET (FOR BABY GIRL OR BOY)

FLORAL BLOUSE — LAYER UNDER OVERALLS

RUFFLE BLOUSE

RIBBED TIGHTS

BABY GIRL KNIT ROMPER

Affordable Finds for Little Boys.

The-Fashion-Magpie-Boys-Finds-Under-25

QUILTED SWEATSHIRT

INEXPENSIVE GLOVE 3-PACK MENTIONED ABOVE — A MUST-BUY!

STRIPED TEE

VEJA DUPES

CABLEKNIT CARDI

TEDDY SWEATER

KNIT LS POLO (CAN BE MONOGRAMMED!)

LS RIBBED ROMPER

LOAFERS

TWILL JOGGERS

APPLE BUBBLE

TRICERATOPS HAT

NAVY CABLEKNIT HAT

CORD JOGGERS

GREAT BASIC TURTLENECKS

OSH KOSH OVERALLS

PLAID VEST

DARK WASH DENIM

CAR SWEATSHIRT

CAR SNEAKS

P.S. More recent finds for girls and boys.

P.P.S. These are the days that must happen to you.

P.P.P.S. Lessons in baking.

A couple of beauty products I’m currently lusting after…

The Fashion Magpie Beauty Wishlist

CHANTECAILLE FAUX CILS LONGEST LASH MASCARA. I know. $73 for mascara. But several beauty bloggers consistently recommend this product as the be-all, end-all ultimate mascara. I’m desperate to try!

GIVENCHY SHEER LIPSTICK IN N16. Has been described as the perfect blush-nude color.

LAURA MERCIER MATTE EYE SHADOW IN MORNING DEW. This is not a new product — have worn this color for years and years. It’s such a great basic that looks natural but adds a little brightness to the lid. My favorite everyday eye shadow, and I’m due for a restock.

RETINOL EYE STICK. I wrote about this recently, but drawn to this product for ease of application (just slick it right on!) and the notion of retinol on the undereye area!

BOBBI BROWN EXTRA LIP TINT IN BARE RASPBERRY. One of my favorite products, but want to try the darker raspberry color for fall.

OUAI POMMADE for days where I want a slicked back bun.

CHARLOTTE TILBURY FACIAL PALETTE. Love all the shimmering, happy autumn colors.

NEUTROGENICA CLEANSING BRUSH. Have heard good things about this little gadget, especially when used with this aloe cleanser.

GUCCI RED NAIL POLISH. Obsessed with the color. Similar to OPI Big Apple Red, which is my salon go-to these days.

CHARLOTTE TILBURY MAGIC CONCEALER. Hearing good things about this!

EPSOM SOAK. For sore running muscles!

Related to beauty: I’ve written about this in the past, but White Elephant Designs makes gorgeous personalized leather cosmetics cases that were just restocked. I love these because you can buy the pouches separately or as a set of two. Great holiday gift, as would be this ultra-chic lipstick case along with a favorite tube of lipstick!

And also — has anyone tried these heavily-hyped, highly-expensive LED masks? I am so highly dubious but several trust-worthy bloggers have raved. I think it’s too pricey for me to take the risk but so curious. Have you tried? Have you tried any other gadgets like this?

P.S. Beauty products I can’t quit and all my favorite face masks.

P.P.S. Sometimes self-improvement is more about “chiseling away what isn’t” versus building something new.

P.P.P.S. A reminder not to worry about things too far down the road.

WOW — some of the new arrivals at H&M are insanely chic!

h&m new arrivals

+This $40 quilted coat is a dead-ringer for Ganni. Love the collar! Love the length! This would even be cute thrown on over a pair of fall-colored aligns, chic sneaks, and tote bag for drop-off.

+This wool blend coat is SO chic — love the built-in scarf situation to throw over your shoulder. TDF! Pair with these shades in oatmeal.

+Not usually an all-black gal, but this shacket with trim pixie pants and pointed-toe flats, black shades, and a smart crossbody.

+For a chic at-home date-night…knit tank, matching sweater, and joggers paired with statement slippers like these or these or these.

+More Ganni vibes, for $50! Tuck into on-trend denim and finish with suede kitten heels and statement bag.

+Absolutely LOVE this minimalist chic canvas tote! Could be Celine, could be H&M.

+This Horror Vacui-inspired mini with tall suede boots and crossbody. This is also major Horror Vacui vibes but a bit more of a statement. Is she wearing a nightgown? Is she a Victorian ghost? We can’t be sure. I feel I’d need to pair this with Hermes Orans and a headband to ground it a bit, but I give major props to the chic pea who goes for it. Also would be a good maternity dress for everyday lounging at home!

And, not H&M, but a few other finds that majorly channel higher-end designers:

+This Mango (and the maxi variation) is a dead-ringer for SEA.

+This dramatic blouse reminds me of Kika Vargas!

+This ladylike burgundy midi is GORGEOUS and reminds me of a style from Emilia Wickstead! Another great Thanksgiving option. So chic!

P.S. My favorite recent finds (and how I’d style) from Loft and Madewell.

P.P.S. The loft born of experience.

P.P.P.S. I consider myself a pragmatic cook. How about you?

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Mr. Magpie and I often revisit the slightly macabre query: “What would be your last meal?” His answer remains the same, year after year: blue crabs and cold beer, enjoyed outside with family and friends. Mine has evolved over time but it is nearly always pasta. My current choice would be Amatriciana. This is the page our well-loved, tomato-splattered, dog-eared copy of Sauces and Shapes opens to on its own, so frequent has Mr. Magpie made it since we first discovered it a few years ago. He has annotations in the margins and the page is itself wrinkled with pasta water and grease. Let these tactile indicators of its beloved positioning in Mr. Magpie’s incredibly diverse and ambitious monthly meal planning speak for themselves. This past week alone, he has prepared 3-day-brined pork chops served with Garden & Gun’s outrageously delicious, peanut-streusel-dotted sweet potato casserole (yes, you need the sorghum syrup, but you can find it on Amazon) and steamed, buttered green beans; homemade sheet pan pizza startlingly similar to Prince Street’s finest using Kenji Lopez’s recipe; Zuni-style roast chicken with our favorite Boulud carrots and roasted small potatoes, slightly smashed and garnished with salsa verde; chicken salad (from aforementioned roast chicken leftovers) accessorized with tarragon and the tenderest butter lettuce from our garden; and the most satisfying Italian Wedding Soup with fregola, escarole, and lamb meatballs. Suffice to say, Mr. Magpie is an absolute genius in the kitchen and I eat like a queen. He insists on varying the protein (I’m sure we’re due for seafood next), cuisine, style, and we rarely repeat — with the exception of a handful of pastas that he makes over and over and over, at my urgent request.

Amatriciana is one of those. (Orecchiette with broccoli rabe and spicy sausage, penne with puttanesca sauce, and linguine and clams come in close behind.). The way Oretta Zanini de Vita describes this dish in her cookbook is perfect: “It seems incredible for such an easy, humble sauce, but this is one of the dishes self-appointed purists (read: fanatics) will fight over to the death, or at least death by boredom. You have to use spaghetti or bucatini, they say–nor is it that simple, since there are spaghetti-only and bucatini-only factions. No cheese but pecorino is permitted. And woe betide you if you use pancetta in place of guanciale.” Later: “Like many rustic, simple sauces that have found immortality on trattoria menus throughout Italy, this dish is only as good as its ingredients…The result is a red sauce studded with bits of lightly fried pork, but you don’t want it too red. The pasta and guanciale should be coated with a thin mantle of sauce, not hidden. Don’t let the gloppy, oversauced trattoria version be your model. The cheese is sharp and salty, but again, don’t use too much.” There are many paragraphs circling in on these details and the provenance of the dish and why you must only use pecorino romano in this dish, and the way Oretta runs through all of these details — the finnicky commitment to tradition, the ideal serving style, makes my mouth water.

On an experiential level, a big plate of bucatini dressed in Amatriciana sauce is the ultimate comfort food. It is delightfully salty and the bucatini affords such an incredible mouthfeel — chewy and satisfying. There is nothing like a big forkful of slightly porky, slightly tomato-centric bucatini, offset by the tang and salt of the cheese. It is deeply satisfying. If you don’t consider what you’re doing, you’re bound to eat an entire plate and still want a few extra bites right out of the serving dish. A plate of this pasta would be the centerpiece of my final meal, but I’d probably also bribe Mr. Magpie into making sauteed broccoli rabe dressed with chili, garlic, and anchovy to serve alongside it, which is in my mind the perfect bitter foil to the fatty condimento (and rabe is my favorite vegetable), and I’d eat it all at the coffee table of our living room, sitting on the floor next to him, with an easy-to-drink red wine like Montepulciano d’Abruzzo, drunk out of a juice glass — the way I like it.

*Note that photo at top is NOT accurate to the recipe, i.e., it shows parm and may in fact be carbonara or something, but still…evocative!

Anyhow, below, our beloved Amatriciana recipe, with Mr. Magpie’s annotations:

Amatriciana a la Oretta, a la Mr. Magpie

This sauce is used on flour and water shapes [i.e., not egg pasta] — spaghetti or bucatini, of course, but rigatoni, cassarecce, or some of the handmade flour-and-water shapes, such as strozzapreti/pici do nicely too. [Ed. note: do yourself a favor and invest in some really good dried pasta for this dish. It makes a world of difference. The sauce clings to the pasta much better, and you can just taste the quality. Eataly carries a lot of our favorite brands and ships anywhere. While you’re there, pick up some great olive oil — we’ve tried most of the styles Eataly carries, and all are delicious; I think “experts” believe EVOO from Liguria in Italy is the best, and here is one such bottle — and San Marzano canned tomatoes. Mr. Magpie places a few huge orders for these staples each year, either from Eataly or Gustiamo. These high-quality pantry staples really make a difference in this simple recipe in particular! Meanwhile, the guanciale makes this dish! It is worth seeking out.If you are in NYC, you can find guanciale at Dickson’s in Chelsea Market, at Eataly in Flatiron, and occasionally at Hudson and Charles on the Upper West Side, conveniently a few doors down from Barney Greengrass, and therefore worth a trip on its own (stock up on guanciale for dinner and then lox and bagels for the next morning). If you are in the D.C. area, we have been getting our guanciale from Organic Butcher in McLean, which in fact delivers to Bethesda. I would venture to guess that Butcher & Larder in Chicago would carry it, too — Gepperths and Paulina were also favorite butchers of ours when we lived there, but they seem more entrenched in the classic German butcher tradition, so not sure they’d carry it.]

For the condimento:

4 oz guanciale, cut into thin strips

2-3 tablespoons EVOO

1 small onion, chopped

1 whole 14 oz can whole peeled tomatoes

1-2 small pieces dried chile

salt [we use only Diamond Kosher salt]

To make the dish:

1 pound pasta

70 grams grated pecorino

Instructions:

Put the guanciale and oil in a saucepan. Turn the heat to medium and heat gently so the guanciale renders some fat and starts to brown. Taste a piece to assess how salty it is. Then, when it jut begins to crisp, add the chopped onion and saute gently until transparent. Add the tomatoes and chile, then taste for salt (how much you need will depend on the gunaciale). Finish cooking the sauce, covered, over low heat. You’ll know it’s done when the liquid has thickened somewhat and the fat shows on the surface, about 20 minutes.

Bring 5 quarts of water to a boil in an 8 quart pot over high heat. Add 3 tablespoons kosher salt, then add the pasta and cook, stirring occasionally, until al dente.

Drain the pasta, reserving some of the starchy pasta water in a Pyrex measuring cup. Place pasta back in cooking pot off the heat. Coat with a little pasta water and cheese, adding cheese in increments of about 1/3 cup, tossing constantly with tongs. You want to see the cheese and water start to cling to the bucatini to create a kind of cheesy saucey coating. Then add sauce to the pasta pot and continue tossing constantly with tongs, adding additional cheese/pasta water as needed to create perfectly coated strands.

Serve immediately on plates (not bowls), grating additional pecorino on top.

What about you? What would be your final meal?

Post-Scripts.

+Funny how some dishes weave themselves into the fiber of memory.

+Writing about Paulina Meat Market above reminded me of this lovely story from a small Polish restauranteur in Chicago.

+If you’re thinking ahead to Thanksgiving, I shared all of our favorite Thanksgiving recipes in this post from a few years back (scroll down).

+Ideas for a date night at home.

+Are you an adventurous eater?

+Notes on hosting girlfriends at home — including some delicious menu ideas.

+Some of our all-time favorite recipes — the scarce handful Mr. Magpie will make over and over again.

+Some of our favorite cookbooks!

+Things you must have in your kitchen.

Shopping Break.

+You know I love overalls. This pair would be so adorable with this blouse beneath.

+This sweater is somehow marked down to $41 in the ivory color in an XS…snagged.

+These earrings are in my cart.

+Beauty guru Courtney Grow swears by this pommade for the perfect slicked-back bun. I trust her implicitly. This reminds me that I have on a few occasions in the past few weeks let my hair air dry overnight and then curled it into loose, beachy waves using a 1″ barrel iron. I let my hair cool for a few secs, run my fingers through it, and then set with my favorite texturing spray, also by Ouai. It yields the perfect “cool girl” waves IMO.

+When I do wear my hair slicked back in a low bun, for some reason I always want to wear gold hoops (?) and have been sporting these inexpensive ones, whose quality impresses me!

+This utilitarian-chic radio and bluetooth player is marked down to almost 70% off. I might buy it as a stocking stuffer for Mr. Magpie for when he’s gardening / grilling in the area below our deck and the music doesn’t quite reach him!

+Lake Pajamas just restocked its maternity collection and I immediately sent pairs to two friends who delivered recently! Such a luxe and lovely gift for a new mama. So often the gifts are (understandably) all about baby — nice to spoil mama too.

+These mini Kankens are perfect for little ones when traveling. Micro has one and I keep his books, toys, stuffed animals, etc in it so it’s easy for him to find his stuff! They come in such great colors, too.

+Just look at this chic pendant light — love!

+Adore these placemats from such an unlikely source!

+Another cute fall blouse for a little one at a great price, paired with a cord jumper at a great price. More darling (affordable) finds along these lines here.

+Drawn to these slightly masculine penny loafers.

+Inexpensive velvet hairbows for littles.

+Drawn to these “layering pants” in ponte. Sort of like a notch above leggings, designed to fit into boots and under sweaters, like this fisherman style shown on the site.

+A perfect fair isle sweater to pair with denim like this.

+Honestly, I might order this bag for myself.

+This floral jacket ($20!) for a little lady is too cute!

+Margot Tenenbaum vibes.

+I don’t know how else to say it — these coupes are sexy?

+I love the look of these under-$100 black waterproof suede boots — like, if you need to look pulled together but also trudge through Chicago snow on your way to work?

+Love the color of these cord overalls for a baby.

+A refined take on the shacket.

+These dramatic coats from Saks Potts have been all the rage the last few years. You can get the look for less with this, or aim somewhere in the middle with a Shrimps coat, which is definitely on my lust list…!