Weekend Vibes: More On Women of Substance.

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Image above via. I love (!) that little brass floor lamp in the back. It’s super similar to this RL one I’ve had in a “home” Pinterest board forever.

My Latest Snags.

As you’ll see in the bestsellers list below, a lot of us purchased denim this week! I’m also in the market — facing some major winter doldrums and need new jeans to make my fleet of sweaters feel new again. I ordered four pairs to try last week and will do a try-on next week. My buys were these SLVRLAKES, these Citizens, these Agoldes, and these Sezanes. Will report back on all!

This Week’s Bestsellers.

01. J. CREW ROLLNECK // 02. KHAITE VIVIANS // 03. VIRAL TIKTOK MAKEUP BRUSH ($8! AND REALLY GOOD!) // 04. TWEED BLAZER ($129 AND VERY VERONICA BEARD-INSPIRED) // 05. SOLDOUT.NYC WHITE TEE // 06. SLVRLAKE LONDON CROPS // 07. TARGET WAVY BOWL // 08. HANNI SPLASH SALVE // 09. LULULEMON RIBBED TEE // 10. LAUNDRESS LAUNDRY BRUSH (I SWEAR THIS IS MAGIC — USE WITH A LITTLE STAIN REMOVER AND LIQUID DETERGENT AND GET RID OF ANY MANNER OF SINS) // 11. OUAI DETERGENT // 12. J. CREW JEANS // 13. VALENTINES* // 14. TARGET SPORTS BRA // 15. MY BELOVED AMAZON HALF-ZIP

*These are selling really quickly. Several of the designs I shared earlier this week are now gone! These are so appealing because they come packaged with the little treat so you aren’t, like, stringing 30 friendship bracelets together. I got the dino-egg hatching ones for my son. I presented my daughter with a few options and she chose these Taylor Swift themed ones, which we’ll bundle with these little disco ball keychains.

Weekend Musing.

I know I’m not the only Magpie who loves Harry Styles; perhaps I’m not alone in humming this lyric to myself:

I’m on the roof, you’re in your airplane seat
I was nose-bleeding, looking for life out there

I’m extrapolating here (and I may have written about this lyric before), but every time I hear the words, I think about the notion of sitting in the nose-bleeds section for your own life, and something stirs inside.

I think —

You are the main character in your story.

Let’s live life, not visit with it. (To paraphrase Mary Oliver.)

I don’t want to sleepwalk through my own life. (To borrow from a notion Leslie wrote about recently.)

And also —

Dave Chappelle released a new Netflix stand-up special a few weeks ago, and one of the points he makes is that maturity means recognizing when you are in someone else’s narrative, and, with care, situating yourself accordingly. He positioned this while talking about pursuing his aspirations as a comedian, and how intense and blessed it has been to chase and live out that dream in his lifetime. He added that sometimes, though, he realizes he’s walked into someone else’s dream, and that the moment, or day, or production has nothing to do with him. He’s “just regular Dave,” and that’s OK, too. There is something powerfully philistine about his admission in the context of contemporary cultural mores, and it has something to do with knowing that you are not always at the nucleus. This in essence gets to some of my musings earlier this week on what it means to be a woman of substance:

“A woman of substance can listen without interjecting her own story; she can marvel without battling jealousy; she can endure unkindnesses without questioning herself. She does not need the last word, the biggest laugh, the adulation, the apology: she is full without the feedback. She stands still in her center.”

Ooh, Magpies: how difficult I have found these guidelines. How sometimes, still, even after many life lessons have pointed me in the opposite direction, I crave the last word, the apology. How sometimes I want to bubble over with news of my own world, and yet I know the right thing is to stop and listen instead. Knowing when, and how, to cede the narrative, or to weave together multiple narratives, or to otherwise toggle between frames, requires humility and perspective that I hope to continue to cultivate with age.

I recently read somewhere that “most of the wisdom that comes with age has to do with forgiveness.” Here I see the silhouettes of the same principle.

Onward, Magpies!

Shopping Break.

+You all loved this Target sports bra; have you seen Target’s sock game?! SO GOOD. I have all three sets in my cart!

+Still my favorite cleanser I’ve used the past year.

+Swooning over this new Zimmermann.

+A great ribbed knit top to tuck into high-waisted pants/skirts. Lots of fab colors!

+I’m such a big fan of Madewell’s Perfect Vintage denim line. I find it’s helpful to go down one size in most of the styles in this lane. This pair is on sale for $60. Because I know a lot of us are shopping denim, I also wanted to mention I’ve seen a few people rave about these jeans, too.

+All Alice Walk sweaters are 20% off this weekend!

+Now this is a timeless boot.

+This cardigan (more sizes here) with the matching skirt (more sizes here) is BEYOND good. Perfect for a baby shower, bridal shower, high tea, Baptism, etc…!

+A week or two ago, someone was asking for a wide leg satin pants similar to La Ligne’s Colby, which continue to sell out / are hard to find. I came up with this pair from Reformation, but this $40 pair is worth a look, too! Pair with a striped La Ligne sweater (10% off with code MAGPIE10) to achieve le contemporary look.

+People are still losing their minds over this lip oil. Has anyone tried it?!

+Lululemon’s popular swiftly tech tee also comes in a relaxed fit!

+This embellished tweed dress is fab!

+A pretty box of French hand soaps.

+I’ve been drooling over these denim Chanel ballet flats — these afford the look for less. Very tempted. I feel like denim reimagines the ballet flat, makes it less formal!