The other week, I went over to a girlfriend’s house for a glass of wine, and she was playing classical music throughout her house the entire time we were there. At some point, I must have mentioned it, and she shared that she, her three siblings, and her parents have the same channel — Classic FM Nederland — playing at all times in their respective homes. (They are Dutch.) She’ll sometimes be on a call with her brother or mom and hear an echo of the music in her own home across the line!

How sweet is that?

I loved both the shared tradition (“it’s just the way it’s done,” was her shrugging reply) and the way it binds her, temporally, with her loved ones, even if they’re spread across the globe.

Do you have house music you keep on at all times? What is it, and why?

We were spoiled by our first home, which was wired for Sonos speakers in nearly every room. I loved the way I could drift from the kitchen to our primary bedroom to the family room and hear the same thing: we were enveloped in music. It was a killer way to set a mood. In our new home, we use Apple HomePods to achieve a somewhat similar effect (you can snyc what’s playing across any Apple device), but regardless of technical set-up, we have rarely in our married life together gone more than an hour or two without music on. Our house music is decidedly less consistent than my girlfriend’s, though we do group music by time of day.

Morning music is old Bonnie Raitt (her first few albums are incredible), Fleetwood Mac, John Mayer (I know he is triggering for some people but I find him to be one of the most clever lyricists of our time), classical piano (Chopin and Beethoven especially), orchestral music (the children like The Four Seasons and Beethoven’s Fifth because they have books about those symphonies, but we will also play Peter and the Wolf and The Nutcracker during the month of December), and — when the children are really in a funk — meditation sounds, with the intended purpose of calming.

Midday music is often balladic country. I love Kacey Musgraves and am having a major dalliance with Miranda Lambert’s Palomino and Marfa Tapes albums, but we also adore Willie Nelson, Sturgill Simpson, Tim McGraw, Randy Travis. And I live for the old Chicks albums. Sometimes we’ll play Toots and the Maytals if we’re in a chill/happy mood or Brandy Carlile if we’re in our feelings.

Evening music is a tale of two personalities: we are either heavy into pop or ease on by with jazzy classics. On the pop front, we love listening to full albums, end to end, as arranged on the album itself, by a particular artist. We’ve been into Carly Rae Jepsen’s most recent album, “The Loneliest Time,” Harry Styles’ “Harry’s House” (ofc), and we absolutely never tire of Bruno Mars’ “24K Magic” album or his collaborative album with Anderson Paak, “An Evening with Silk Sonic” during the pre-dinner/dinner hours. But we will also infinity play off of current favorite singles (Miley Cyrus’ “Flowers,” Adele’s “I Drink Wine”) and songs we just can’t quit (we love Dua Lipa’s “The One” song). And then there’s the whole category of “old pop.” Our children have been on a major Michael Jackson kick lately, so there’s a lot of that, and sometimes we like to listen to 90s hip hop or pop.

If we’re going with a jazzy evening vibe, it’s Frank Sinatra or Tony Bennett, and I think I probably hold a world record for listening to Tony’s “The Silver Lining: The Songs of Jerome Kern” album. It’s more piano bar than “old standards,” which is my preference. I discovered it during the depths of the pandemic in NYC and have still not tired of it — it’s like a warm, soothing blanket.

Car music is a whole other beast, and also dependent on time of day and mood. Mr. Magpie has even more eclectic music tastes than I do, and he’ll play everything from Stromae to Surfaces to Nirvana to Weezer to Jacques Brel to MorMor. It’s always a wild ride.

How about you? What’s your house music?

Post Scripts.

+A playlist for chores.

+What do you eat when your fridge is bare?

+What would your last meal be?

Shopping Break.

+Love these high-rise utility pants — only $30 at the moment. Also, do I need this black denim jacket?! It look SO chic!

+Such a fun and festive pattern for a spring dress.

+Cute $12 boxy tee — love it in the sand stripe.

+Such a cute everyday spring crossbody — great for moms who want to be hands-free. Ideal playground bag! More cute spring bags here.

+This embroidered shirt dress is gorgeous and only $120.

+Hokas in pretty new spring colors.

+People are saying this Neutrogena foundation is comparable to the industry elite standard — Giorgio Armani’s formula.

+Spring office organization goals! (More office decor inspo here.)

+This pretty spring skirt reminds me of one I have from Horror Vacui. Gorgeous.

+I know I just did a shoe roundup, but this jacquard floral (under $100!) is SO fun and unexpected with white jeans / a white dress.

+This book feels relevant to the conversation we were having about staying on top of household admin.

+This neutral cap reminds me of some of the styles from Sporty and Rich. Love the vibe. Pair with a monochromatic leggings/tank set.

+This bow clutch is SO me.

Today, pulling together a few favorite spring looks at different price points, including Katie Holmes’s favorite spring sneaker (the Chloe Nama!) — get her look for less with these Dolce Vita sneakers.

spring trends for less

ROW 1: MOON RIVER CUT OUT DRESS // JOHANNA ORTIZ MINI DRESS

ROW 2: BODEN JACKET // MARFA STANCE REVERSIBLE COAT

ROW 3: DOLCE VITA DOLEN SNEAKERS // CHLOE NAMA PLATFORM SNEAKER

ROW 4: MOON RIVER CROP TOP // AGUA BENDITA CROP TOP

ROW 5: GAP FLUTTER SLEEVED MINI // SEA VIENNE DRESS

spring fashion looks for less

ROW 1: H&M BOUCLE JACKET // J. CREW LOUISA JACKET

ROW 2: QUEENORIS WOVEN BAG // NAGHEDI ST. BARTHS BAG

ROW 3: MOON RIVER SKIRT // AGUA BENDITA SKIRT

ROW 4: EN SAISON AMAYA DRESS // SEA FLUTTER SLEEVED DRESS

ROW 5: CASTANER ESPADRILLES // CHANEL ESPADRILLES

P.S. The whole sky is yours, Magpies.

P.P.S. Target run!

P.P.P.S. What does your job say about you?

Mr. Magpie and I are now, finally, able to reflect on our shuttered business with straight faces and clear eyes. We founded and ran a technology business from 2015-2017, and it has taken us years (and countless hours in post mortem hell) to process the experience. I feel in some ways as though we endured the eleven stages of grief. Which sounds crazy, unless you’ve also built a business and poured all of your money into it, and lived on heart palpitations and stress for the duration. It was, undoubtedly, the most challenging thing I’ve ever done in my life. We now often muse on our learnings, and we continue to circle back to this: running that business removed the wool from our eyes. I understand, finally, the economics of things. The layers of business logic. Not the concept but the actual workings of product-market fit. It all clicks in ways it never did on the page. Running that business was like watching a landscape emerge from mist.

It dawned on me the other day that writing operates according to the same epistemological principle: I begin with scattered filaments, wisps of things, that I draft and re-draft into something of shape. I move from the nebula to the narrow and fine-tipped.

I was reflecting on this parallelism the other day on my walk, and I found myself prodding my own cognitive poetics. Clearly, I have internalized a kind of formula for knowledge acquisition: you must labor through a lot of hard things to arrive at a posteriori insight, the implicit goal being clarity.

But is clarity the goal in all things?

Increasingly, in matters of the heart, I think not.

Love obscures, throws light where there is none, softens and mediates. It is a warm haze, a penumbra, rather than a beam yielding full illumination.

Yes, when it comes to relationships, the longer I live, the more I think the goal is growing comfortable with irresolution. Of living peacefully in the light-dappled spots. My husband sent me an essay a few weeks ago that said something like, “True maturity is recognizing that your parents are independent, fallible human beings — and accepting that truth willingly.” And I thought — yes.

Motherhood certainly instructs me in this way: I spend much time puzzling over my children’s every mood and symptom, only to write things off as a blip and adapt to new norms. Loving my children is embracing things half-formed — thoughts, patterns, moods, routines! — and trusting the underpinnings will hold. Children are not weather patterns, or equations, or screens. They are irreducible; they are perfect; they change; they defy.

Parenthood, for me, is not about finding the answers. It is not angling toward a destination either.

It’s about lovingly feeling my way through the forested process, one foot in sunshine and the other in shade.

Post-Scripts.

+The spring blouse we all need. And the other spring blouse we all need.

+Tuck either into these jeans!

+Eyeing this “grow with me” play table for my son. You can buy longer legs to swap in as your child grows up so it converts to taller heights!

+Swooning over this mirror.

+People are raving about these “lip lights” (cream lip glosses) from RMS Beauty!

+Meanwhile, I went down a deep beauty TikTok rabbit hole the other day and so many makeup afficionados are raving about this $23 liquid blush. Dying to try! A little goes a long way!

+Love this quilted floral vest — very SEA without the price tag.

+The sweetest floral spring coat for a little love.

+Currently wearing this Alice Walk blouse — all of their pieces are just so thoughtfully designed. The elacisticized cuffs do not dig into your arms; the front is a tad bit shorter than the back so you can tuck in front and leave back un-done / offers more coverage. And love the neckline of course!

+This tablecloth is on its way to me — thinking of using it for my Easter table! — along with some woven bunnies?

+These clay cachepots would also be pretty lined up down the middle of a spring table, or on a spring mantle.

+How much do we LOVE these wall hooks?! So chic for a robe, backpacks, coats, hats!

*Image above via Emily Quigley, featuring her gorgeous gift wrap!

I wrote yesterday about the pique of my daughter turning six. How can it be?! Today, sharing what I purchased to celebrate her on her big day. She requested a robe and the Brave Barbie doll, and I filled in the rest of the blanks. The big theme this year is reading in bed. She has been a determined little reader lately; we often find her sounding out the words in her beloved comic books. We bought her this clip lamp so that she can read in bed at night without having to get up and turn off the lights. My husband had the brilliant idea of plugging it into a smart plug so that we can set it to automatically turn off at 9 PM each night (just in case she does fall asleep with it on or is staying up too late!). She is curiously obsessed with the one magnetic bookmark I gave her to hold her place in her books, so I bought her an entire set of the magnetic ones as well as some personalized paper ones. I’ve noticed that she will dog-ear even library books (yikes!) so these will help us keep our books in good working order. And the robe for her reading sessions! I actually made a “awww!” noise when I saw it. I couldn’t help but by the matching doll pajamas for her American Girl and some jammies for her, too. Finally, I bought her a ton of books — a few Dory Fantasmagory (recommended by a Magpie! Thank you!), this Junie B. Jones box set, this Magic Treehouse set, and a few Cam Jansens, which was one of my favorite series when I was little.

I feel I also need to explain items number two and nine on the list below. On two: she recently begged me for highlighters? No idea why a nearly-six-year-old needs highlighters, but these were too cute to pass up and I know she’ll get a kick out of them. On nine: she has totally outgrown her micro scooter! She’s too tall for it. The girls in our neighborhood have these two-wheeled “Sprite” scooters, so we followed suit. She’s going to flip over the “neochrome” color and light-up wheels. So cute! I couldn’t resist this sprinkle helmet to match.

gifts for six year old girl

01. BRASS TASK LAMP // 02. MINI HIGHLIGHTER SET // 03. RUFFLE POUCH // 04. MAGNETIC BOOK MARKS // 05. PERSONALIZED BOOKMARKS // 06. FLORAL ROBE // 07. DOLL PAJAMAS // 08. FLORAL SHORT PAJAMAS // 09. MICRO SPRITE SCOOTER // 10. BANWOOD HELMET // 11. DORY FANTASMAGORY AND CAM JANSEN // 12. BRAVE BARBIE

P.S. Go-to gifts for young children.

P.P.S. Toys you won’t mind leaving out.

P.P.P.S. Nursery organization.

Several of my most recent shopping inquiries have been asking after spring 2023 shoe trends. The major trends I’m loving for the season ahead are ballet core-inspired and all things woven. On the ballet core trend: Miu Miu led the way with their elastic band ballet flats, which street style starlets have been styling with socks (!), though you can nail the look for a lot less with this pair from Mango. On the woven front: we are still deep in the world of raffia everything, and Loeffler Randall has some spectacular new silhouettes on offer this season, including these curved mules and their ever-popular Leonies, which you can see me wearing above with this breezy midi shirt dress. Sort of the perfect fusion between ballet-core and raffia/woven?! I find LR runs true to size though a bit narrow, at least in boots. I plan on wearing these with everything from spring dresses to white denim. I am also planning on getting another intensive season of wear out of these platform fisherman sandals from Tory Burch I bought last year! I love them! So fun and unexpected with a breezy LWD. I had really wanted to splurge on Gabriela Hearst’s flat fisherman style last summer but couldn’t quite bring myself to invest — however, I did find them on sale for 60% off here and am pondering. Freda Salvador has a very similar style available for less, too.

spring shoes 2023 trends
spring shoes 2023 trends

01. LARROUDE BRIGITTE RUFFLE MULE // 02. ANN TAYLOR PERFORATED FLAT // // 03. SAM EDELMAN KORI PLATFORMS // 04. DOLCE VITA DOLEN SNEAKER // 05. GUCCI PLATFORM ESPADRILLE // 06. LOEFFLER RANDALL LEONIE NATURAL FLAT // 07. LOEFFLER RANDALL FREYA MULE // 08. SAM EDELMAN WOVEN LOAFER // 09. GABRIELA HEARST LYNN SANDALS // 10. CASTANER ESPADRILLES // 11. ALEXANDRE BIRMAN CLARITA LOAFER // 12. ZARA FLATS

A few look-for-less moments I want to call out:

spring 2023 shoe trends for less

ROW 1: ALEXANDRE BIRMAN VICKY PLATFORMS // SAM EDELMAN KORI PLATFORMS

ROW 2: CHLOE NAMA PLATFORM SNEAKERS // DOLCE VITA DOLEN SNEAKER

ROW 3: MIU MIU BALLERINAS // MANGO BALLERINAS

ROW 4: ALEXANDRE BIRMAN CLARITA LOAFER // SAM EDELMAN WOVEN LOAFER

ROW 5: MANSUR GAVRIEL DREAM BALLERINA // SAM EDELMAN MEADOW FLAT

P.S. On dating my husband since I was 19.

P.P.S. Do you meal plan?

P.P.P.S. Remixable everyday style.

Treat yourself Tuesday — Lake just launched its annual sale, and it includes several of my favorite pairs of pajamas/loungewear for up to 50% off. I wore the “patio dress” (seen above, on sale now for under $60!) a lot last summer as a beach/pool cover-up and dress for evenings around the house. It is fully lined so not unseemly if you’re running out of the house with it on. I personally love the smocked collar, too. A perfect buy-now-thank-yourself-later snag. If you’re looking for something you can wear now, you must pick up one of their “Relax Sets.” I own this in birch and basically didn’t change out of it for most of December and January. It is a really soft, swingy/springy/drapey kind of cotton material that you never want to take off. And I personally wear their long-short sets year round. They are my absolute favorite. Love the slightly longer length of the top. I would take your true size in their pajamas. I sometimes flirt with the XXS (e.g. a size down), but I throw mine in the dryer despite the fact that Lake recommends air-drying, and they do shrink in the dryer, so I prefer my pairs just a little roomier. Life is too short for too-tight pajamas. If you plan on air-drying yours, though, you can probably size down if in question.

Finally: children’s pajamas! Just the cutest for family photos / holidays. I would size up one size for your children. One bonus is that many of their styles are gender-neutral and can be passed down from older brother to little sister (or vice versa). Not seen below, but I do want to mention that I’ve gifted several sets of infant pajamas to newborns over the past year. I do this not only because the designs are universal (e.g., not too frou frou, with scallops and peter pan collars, and not too minimalist, either), and sometimes you can’t quite tell what styles a mom will gravitate towards!, but also because Lake does such a lovely job with presentation if you have the item sent in a gift box. It arrives in a big, substantial blue box tied off with a ribbon. Bonus points for presentation!

lake pajamas sale

PATIO DRESS // LONG-SHORT PAJAMA SET // RELAX SET // CHILDREN’S SHORT PAJAMAS SET // CHILDREN’S LONG-LONG PAJAMAS

P.S. Now it’s time to curl up with a good thriller. I have my sights set on this one next.

P.P.S. Great kitchen finds and gear.

P.P.P.S. What’s your favorite…?

We’ve been talking a lot about my daughter’s upcoming sixth birthday in our home. What style of cake she wants (ice cream!); the rolling list of RSVPs to her party (she checks in daily after Nora); what she’d like (a robe; the Brave Barbie). Somewhere amidst these shuttling logistics, I asked Mr. Magpie, over a plate of steak and salad and crispy potatoes: “Do you remember the day Emory was born?” Emory turned to him expectantly. Mr. Magpie busied himself with the potatoes, cleared his throat, took a drink of water, shifted in his seat, cleared his throat again —

Overcome, I could tell, by the impossibility that we have come from that cold March morning in Chicago to here, at this dining table, with this clear-eyed, witty, misses-nothing, strong-willed, big-hearted, determined girl.

She asked me, then, what she was like when she was little.

In a cinematic flash:

I think of her laughing at the sound of the pulsing food processor, around five or six months of age. She was sitting in the Bumbo seat on our counter, erupting into belly laughs. We’d make the sound over and over again, and we’d double over with her each time, delighted anew.

I think of the hours and hours I spent nursing her in a green striped armchair in her gingham wallpapered nursery in our first home. Nursing was challenging for me, and I strained myself to make it happen, and even though I said, before my second, that I’d been a little loony to have contorted as much as I did to keep it going, I regret nothing. The way her fingers would move idly along the placket of my shirt. The way her eyes would scan the room, eventually settling, then going unfocused, as she’d drift off to sleep. Her complete lack of self-awareness in front of me. I’d be staring straight at her face, memorizing the curl above her ear, and she’d carry on as though alone. A mother’s treasured view.

I think of the adventures we took her on — the ambitious kind you take as first time parents. The aquarium when she was five or six months! Art museums, where we’d attempt to focus her on installations! So many meals out! A dinner party, where she was handed around the table. The time I ran home with her in my arms from my neighbor’s home because I’d pushed it just a little too long.

I think of the phase, between the ages of one and one and a half, where we’d bring her into our bed each morning, and she’d have a bottle of milk laying alongside us. Do you know how autumn is a feeling? Not so much a season as a mood? Those mornings were a feeling, too. They were a cocoon: tender, warm, hazy, quiet, squibbly and soft around the edges. We were a huddle.

I think of when we moved to New York and were staying in a hotel with no bath tub. I would get down to my skivvies, sit next to her on the cold tile of the shower floor, and pour tiny cups of water over her body. After, I’d put her in Jacadi and we’d walk around Soho, pondering our new status as New Yorkers.

I think of taking her with me to Church every Sunday at Blessed Sacrament on West 71st. Miniature patent leather mary janes; smocked dresses and 4″ hair bows; fistfuls of goldfish; crayon marks on the missal; walking up and down the vestibule; the way she’d leap off the step of the small chapel in the back over and over again.

I think of taking her to “pre-ballet” on the Upper West Side. Tiny tutu, tiny pink feet. Her chipmunk face eating an apple in her stroller on the way home.

I think of her on the Subway, walking dutifully through the 34th Street stop to switch lines, on the way to school. The way she’d wave at the conductor. Her chirpy voice remarking on every number in her line of sight.

I think of the long, slow mornings we’d spend together before we had a full-time nanny, before she started school. Sometimes getting from 9 to 12 was a stretch. We had our circuit: grocery, library, sometimes a shared $10 smoothie or $6 muffin (groan), playground/splash pad, home for lunch. I had my chosen perches at each playground: the one bench or anchoring corner that always felt like home base. Strange, how those hours dragged by at the time, and how, now, they seem to have slipped right through my fingers. As C.S. Lewis put it: “Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when we look back, everything is different.”

Oh, I think of her — and I think of her — and I think of her —

And I could go on and on laying the feuilles of this pastiche with significance to no one but myself. A reminder, this exercise, that we carry all of the ages of our children with us. They are not gone: they are inside. I need only throw a rope down to pull up the treasure.

Post-Scripts.

+Motherhood is a surfeit.

+Practical advice on preparing for motherhood.

+Mini is my other heartbeat.

Shopping Break.

+This gorgeous caftan/dress is on its way to me.

+Cute everyday pants in great colors. Love the silhouette.

+This cardigan is SO fun!

+Love the color of this running jacket.

+A great styling accessory for a bare corner of a room, or a makeshift cocktail table.

+Love this black everyday dress. More everyday dresses here.

+How cute are these silicone snack bowls for littles.

+Perfect white tank.

+This Etsy shop has the cutest rattan animal decor for a child’s room. Even dinos!

+Adorable jelly sandals for a little love.

+Obsessed with this fringe ottoman.

+Happy little rug.

+Slip hair ties, 50% off!

Moving a year and a half ago has whisked me into a spray of new social settings. Even existing friendship groups have felt different, have needed to be tried on and adjusted for size. In the throes of these meetings and reunions, one friend told me, “We write narratives about the people we don’t see regularly,” and I knew exactly what she meant. We lean on the phantasmagoria of social media, or stories heard-second-hand, and we draft a portrait that may or may not be true. I am thinking of the bioluminescent creatures in my son’s favorite deep sea book: on one page, you see an alluring network of incandescent dots intended to obscure the fish’s actual shape, either flummoxing or attracting fellow sea creatures; on the other page, you see the fish, fully contoured, as it appears up-close and in real life.

I feel as though I know myself fairly well, but these interactions with friends old and new have stretched me. There have been harrowing interactions, and life-affirming ones. There have been instances where I have felt one inch tall, ones where I have been fully embraced for who I truly am, and ones where I have cringed at undeserved laud, a prodigal son (daughter) returning home. Sometimes, to my friend’s earlier insight, I have felt I am performing — either a former version of myself, or some version of myself I think they want me to be. On occasion, I have needed to burrow into my home life, say no to things and people, just to get my sea legs back. And in some cases, I have felt malleable to the point of adrift. I have entered rooms and found myself unwittingly re-shaped by the sonar of the social setting. I remember leaving one party that was, frankly, full of adult “mean girls” and having a strong urge to call a grade school girlfriend to commiserate. How could I let strangers make me feel that way?

There have been rooms in which I’ve gone quiet, others in which I’ve overshared, and still others in which I’ve found myself straining to present a particular angle of my prism.

All of this can occasionally lead me to the kind of miserliness in which I think, “I have enough friends as it is…” But —

This is life: trying on new people and places. Making new circles. Sometimes looping back and doubling down on the ones you already have. Growth happens in discomfort. I just need to show up with earnest friendliness. And remind myself (which I often do, in the car just outside of a gathering) to listen more than I speak and to remember, in the words of Oscar Wilde*: “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.”

Post-Scripts.

*This quote is likely apocryphally attributed to Wilde, or an abridgment of something longer he wrote.

+On work friends.

+On female friendships and the things that matter.

+On getting over a failed friendship.

Shopping Break.

+If you see me wearing jeans, I am wearing Madewell’s Perfect Vintage style about 90% of the time. I just can’t quit them. Go a full size down — these run big.

+Love this striped shirtdress. ($69!)

+Per usual, Minnow’s latest collection is adorable. Love the Bahamian blue stripe pieces.

+Pamela Munson just released a petite version of my favorite spring/summer bag in such great colors: dusty blue, petunia, and lilac. I sung the praises of this bag in this post, though do note I have a larger size. The smaller one might be more realistic for everyday life if you’re not schlepping as much around.

+These “tulip” baskets are so chic.

+I just love the look of these outdoor swivel chairs.

+Wrist weights — I’m intrigued by these, as I think I want to start doing the “strength-training” Apple Fitness videos. I usually just do the core and cycling ones. More recent fitness finds here.

+Pretty spring pillows.

+A perfect spring shoe.

+Gap, is that you?! This dress!!!

+How adorable is this desk lamp for a little girl?

+OMG these party hats!

Everything I’m buying, wearing, and obsessing over this week.

popular spring fashion

+LILA + HAYES CHARLES PAJAMAS. These are my son’s absolute favorite pajamas. I have purchased him a few sets that past couple summer seasons, but he wears them year-round. The other week, I realized that he is still squeezing into a pair of 2T, and the top is like a crop top — ha! The 3Ts still fit him fine, but I needed to buy him some more reinforcements! I bought him a few new pairs on sale at Lila + Hayes. (You can see them above on his toile crib sheet, right next to his beloved excavator.)

+CARDIGAN SEASON. Earlier this week, I went out for a cocktail at Julii in North Bethesda (Pike and Rose area). It’s been milder this past week (high 60s one day!), and I have been OVER my winter wardrobe. I wore a SEA dress beneath a chunky cardigan and it felt so good. This is SO my fashion comfort space — I feel more like myself in a dress! So I decided I’m just going to dress for the season I want from now on: cardigans and dresses until the cows come home. I’m wearing an old Zara cardigan, but a few similar ones in a neutral ivory hue that I love for this in between season: this Rails (seen above — on sale!), this Maje, this Sezane, this Doen. If you’re here for color, go with this peony pink Alex Mill or this sea green Sezane. Both are in my cart!!! I need both!?

+HUNTER BLAKE PALM EARRINGS. You can just make out my Hunter Blake palm earrings in the snap above. They continue to be my favorite “slightly dressed up” earrings as they go with everything, and I like the tie-in with the gold hardware on my Chanel. They are bold but not overly so. Love.

+MAREA CASITA DRESS. This brand launched a new collection this week that has nearly sold out at Shopbop, but you can still find the Casita dress on the Marea site. I feel like these breezy pieces are JUST what I want to wear this spring/summer. I anticipate throwing this on to head to the pool / bop around the house. I see it and I want to pour myself a margarita? Be barefoot? Ah! I also wanted to mention that Target launched two dresses that have a very similar blockprint/breezy/coastal vibe that are sure to sell out: I ordered myself this maxi and am wondering if I should snag the mini, too. They are going to fly.

+MILLE EVERYTHING. I guess I’m just having a moment with pastel/spring blockprint styles, but I broke out my Charlie blouse for school pick up the other day and I felt like I was living my best life. The exact print I’m wearing is no longer available, but I love this similar green style from this season. And! They have a few patterns on sale for $130! Also really love these two dresses from their recent launch: this floral mini and this elegant maxi. I own the latter in a different print and j’adore j’adore j’adore. I also just ordered myself this striped everyday midi dress of theirs — the kind of thing I can live in during the spring months. Note that this brand runs REALLY big — you can size down one or even two sizes. I am usually swimming in the XXS, but the style is loose and airy, so I don’t mind.

+ELF MONOCHROMATIC MULTI STICK. Still can’t get over this $5 wonder. I wrote about it earlier this week, but I think I need it in more colors? Like, one in my desk drawer, one in each bag?

+TERRY HEADBAND. This silly little purchase sparks a strange amount of joy? I use it to hold my hair back from my face when washing it and applying makeup. It’s giving Statue of Liberty vibes, and I love it? I’m wearing it, of course, with my Weezie robe. Have I talked too much about the robe?! It is SO delightful — perfect weight, length, color. Love the scalloping and monogram options. One other thing I realized I love about it this week is that — while I LOVE the Weezie aesthetic — I find that the soft terry loops of their usual towels/robes tend to snag on things, but this has a “finer grain” (?) terry loop that does not. It looks brand new all the time. Swoon.

+POTTERY BARN BEACHCOMBER BINS. I am an organized person, but my writing studio has become increasingly cramped and cluttered with items I’ve purchased, items I want to share with you via up close photos, presents for little friends, clothing the children have outgrown, items I need to have tailored, items I need to return — !! We have been so focused on outfitting the first floor of our home, I’ve been loathe to put any thought or money into the second floor (where my office sits). But I realized earlier this week that the chair in the corner of my office has become an inelegant holding zone for ALL THE THINGS. Clothes draped over the back, two purses, Amazon bags, etc. I just treated myself to one of these bins, a simple clothing rack, some gold hooks to hang bags, etc., and this simple neutral rug. Finally going to have Mr. Magpie hang my art, too!

+FIXER UPPER. I am so, so late to the game on this, but I had trouble sleeping this week and tore through almost a full season of Fixer Upper, which is absolutely delightful. Chip and Joanna are so cute and I love the design elements — hers is not really my style, but I love watching and taking notes on the way she internalizes the wants of a client and transforms them into a gorgeous space. My only gripe is the “budgets” their customers report to have. There is absolutely no way you could afford the extensive renovations and decorating projects these customers undergo for under $100,000, which seems to be around the budget many of the customers designate. I mean — NO WAY. Perhaps Jo and Chip and “donating” their services or the labor to these projects and the actual materials are paid for by the customers? I don’t know, but it is so expensive to do anything in a home, and I find the show misleading! We had custom built-ins put into our family room and it cost an arm and a leg! I can’t imagine doing the equivalent, plus outfitting with rugs, window treatments, furniture, across an entire house.

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My Latest Snag: Petite Plume Robe for Mini.

This was a big spring fashion acquisition week between Shopbop’s sale (extra 25% sale items — all my picks here; I bought these and this) and my new Marea pieces (this and another dress that’s now sold out (!)), both generously gifted. I can’t believe how quickly the Marea pieces are moving! Contemplating buying one of these tops before it, too, sells out. A good price point for the look. But my most exciting shopping this week was buying all of mini’s birthday gifts! She turns six in a few weeks! I’ll share everything we bought for her in a small post later this week but I was mainly excited about this robe and pajama set I bought for her. I even bought the matching doll pajamas! (They fit the standard 18″ American Girl dolls.) She’s been asking me for a robe every since I started wearing my Weezie one around the clock. (A full review of the Weezie French terry robe here — it is SO good. Instantly and easily one of my favorite possessions.) I can’t wait to surprise her with this pretty floral one!

This Week’s Most Popular: Early Spring Finds.

best selling spring fashion

01. PEPLUM KNIT CARDIGAN // 02. BOYS DOCK SHORTS // 03. TARGET WOVEN CANISTER WITH LID // 04. SPLITS59 AIRWEIGHT LEGGINGS // 05. AMAZON WOVEN BAG // 06. BLOCKPRINT SHIRT DRESS // 07. CASLON FLORAL BLOUSE // 08. GIRLS SPRING DRESS // 09. CHI SPIN AND CURL HAIR TOOL // 10. ST LAURENT KATE SUNGLASSES // 11. TARGET WOVEN END TABLE // 12. ALL THE WORLD BOARD BOOK

Weekend Musings: Do You Ever Do Nothing?

Over drinks earlier this week, a girlfriend of mine shared a prompt from her therapist: “Do you ever do nothing?” My friend added that she (like me!) tends to multi-task: she’ll call a sister while in the car running errands; listen to a podcast while folding laundry; take a work call while on a walk.

This led to some navel gazing on my end. When was the last time I sat in stillness? Went for a run without music or audiobooks? Drove in my car without anything going but the engine? Let my thoughts wander and pool?

Mr. Magpie and I unpacked this a little bit over dinner later in the week. We determined that the goal (for us) is not necessarily doing nothing (neither of us can imagine sitting down, daydreaming), but doing one restful/relaxing thing fully, without the competition of a conversation, or the buzz of alerts, or the pawing sense that we should be doing something more conventionally productive.

This is difficult to achieve at this heavy-on-the-vine phase of life. If we’re not working, we’re tending to our children, taking care of our home, exercising, or attempting to maintain some semblance of a social life. However, after reflecting on this prompt, I realized I have been able to find time for small stretches of “focused nothing.” I didn’t realize what I was doing, but I was essentially uncoupling routine activities from their former “multi-tasking pairs.” For example, I used to listen to audiobooks or call my mother while walking Tilly in the morning. But for the past few months, I’ve left that sliver of time fallow. I find I get some of my best thinking done during that brief morning constitutional. I also used to call friends and siblings on the return from school drop off. Now I enjoy the vacancy of those twenty minutes. Sometimes I listen to music; sometimes I don’t. But either way, it feels deliciously solitary, and intensively so. I’ve also been eating lunch at the dining room table or at the kitchen counter every day of 2023. I wrote about this practice earlier this year, and I can’t tell you what a change it has made for me. Lunch time is now for sitting still, enjoying my meal, and (usually) chatting with Mr. Magpie. (We try to eat lunch together daily.) It always feels like I catch my breath during that midday pause. Finally, I have returned to observing “the buffer,” or the habit of turning off my computer, stretching my legs, often refreshing my makeup/changing my outfit, ten minutes prior to the end of my official work day. Usually, our nanny leaves at six, and so at 5:50, I force myself out of the desk chair and give myself ten minutes to recalibrate, shifting from “writing Jen” to “mom Jen.” I’ve talked to many friends who now permanently work from home in the aftermath of the pandemic, and many of them miss the commute for just this reason: the twenty or thirty minutes of absent-minded transitoriness, during which they uncouple from their work selves and clip into their home selves. Now we must find new ways to engineer this phenomenon. “The buffer” is my mode.

What about you? Do you make time for “focused nothing”?

Shopping Break.

+Two great under-$100 dresses: this Mango steal and this Zara score.

+Fun textured jacket — reminds me a bit of the BA&SH Gaspard jacket we’re all eyeing…

+Van Cleef-inspired earrings for $20.

+A great new indoor/outdoor rug option — would be cute for a playroom, covered porch, etc.

+How cute is this little Target bag?

+After yesterday’s post on everyday tops, I can’t stop shopping for them myself! Just found this fun sky blue – red stripe at J. Crew Factory at a great price! I like the idea of wearing this almost like a sweatshirt/top layer, even tying around shoulders.

+Oo! Love the colors and tunic length of this sweatshirt.

+This espadrille is SO good.

+Sweetest sets of Liberty hair clips for littles.

+Drooling over this skirt.

+Doen has some really pretty new arrivals.

+These new vanity applique monogram vanity bags from Biscuit are so fab.

Wow! An extra 25% off so many great already-discounted sale finds at Shopbop, including my new Loeffler Randall raffia ballet flats! (Use code EXTRA25 on sale styles for an extra 25% off.) I also ordered this fun Lee Matthews striped blouse for spring — it’s like 80% off with the code! — and am temped by these hot pink sandals. They want to go dancing! Today, my picks of the litter:

shopbop extra 25% off sale

01. LEE MATTHEWS BLOUSE // 02. MANSUR GAVRIEL CLOUD CLUTCH // 03. SINCERELY JULES SPORTS BRA // 04. SINCERELY JULES LEGGINGS // 05. SAVE THE DUCK ELSIE JACKET // 06. LOEFFLER RANDALL WOVEN LEONIE BALLET FLATS // 07. ANCIENT GREEK SANDALS // 08. SLEEPER LINEN DRESS (THIS STYLE WORKS GREAT FOR MATERNITY) 09. HORROR VACUI CLAIRE BLOUSE // 10. PROENZA SCHOULER CAMERA BAG // 11. MARION PARKE HEELS // 12. CARA CARA GINGER DRESS

P.S. A heart on stilts.

P.P.S. The best book I’ve read in a long while.

P.P.P.S. Zara for the win!