*Image above a still from Hulu’s “Normal People” series, an adaptation of Sally Rooney’s novel of the same name.

Without the diversion of dinners out, special events, and drinks with friends, we have found ourselves in front of the television most nights of the week for the past year and change. And you know what? That’s OK. God bless the content creators who have presented us with portals to other worlds and experiences. The absolute best thing I watched this past year was “Ted Lasso” on Apple TV. There is a lengthy, spot-on analysis of this tremendous show by author and critic Catherynne Valente that explains its magnificence far better and with far more exacting observationalism than I could. (Warning: her analysis bears a healthy amount of profanity.) She makes the point that in an age of social unrest, alienation at the hands of a virus, and political rancor, the show offers an alternative path forward, one marked by a goodness so pure it reads neither saccharine nor dismissable:

“I watched it all in one night,” Valente rights. “It hurt and I cried. I cried because I miss people so bad. I miss so many people so bad. And I miss believing the world could be like it is in Ted Lasso, that it could contain such people, such forgiveness, such grace, such kindness, such patience, without feeling creepy or weird or cringey or cheesy. Just pure. And hilarious. I just forgot, over the course of 2020, and 2019, and 2018, and 2017, and 2016, that any of us, at any time, could simply choose to be like Ted, and everything would change. Like a miracle. I forgot humans could be like that.”

She goes on: “It’s wholesome without being boring, kind without being trite, smart without being pedantic, so loving it’ll take your breath away, and gut-bustingly funny. Scripts so tight and hilarious that even one guy just saying his name and the paper he works for is not only a meme but makes you smile each and every time.

Do you know how [redacted] hard that is to pull off?

It is so much easier to be funny while being cynical. Everyone knows life sucks, it’s easy to get them onside by accessing that universal experience. To sneer and punch down and stand back from the world wrapped up in a sense of coolness that comes at the expense of everyone else and call that edgy. It is so much harder to stay funny while you’re being kind.”

I could quote much more of her analysis (she is especially sharp in her writing about the complicated and unexpected character of Ted, played by Jason Sudeikis), but I’ll leave it at that and implore you to watch this big-hearted, hysterical show that shone like a beacon of promise during this trying year.

Let’s see, what else did I watch and enjoy?

I thought the adaptation of Sally Rooney’s Normal People on Hulu was superb — beautifully shot (a still from the show seen at the top of this post) and exquisitely acted, with tremendous nuance and subtlety. There are so many sections of the show in which the two main characters more or less make “hm” sounds to one another, or communicate with their eyes, and yet they, their reactions, their intentions are crystal clear to the audience. It is moving, it is cinematic, it is shot with true artfulness. I was frankly surprised by the quality of this show, having anticipated that there was no way the adaptation could live up to the novel, which I loved. FYI: this show is explicit. I had a couple of moms write to say they’d attempted to watch it with their daughters and had to turn it off. Just a heads up! (To my own mom: do not watch.)

Two shows I devoured on my own (could not intrigue Mr. Magpie to join in on these) and that have earned a second season (as has “Ted Lasso!): “Emily in Paris” on Netflix (which, I have been surprised to learn, a lot of people thoroughly despised — it is fluffy and absurdly far-fetched, but I’m not clear on the vitriol this elicits) and “Bridgerton” on Netflix (this show was a delicacy to enjoy, but man did it leave me in a state of cognitive dissonance — some thoughts in that post and some interesting discussion with Magpies in the comments section, too). Both represent total escapism, and are also deeply flawed.

We also thoroughly enjoyed re-watching the entirety of Seinfeld — it just never gets old. What struck me on this viewing was the magnificence of the physical comedy at the hands of Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Michael Richards, and Jason Alexander. There are scenes where just the twitch of George’s lips had me rolling on the floor, and where Elaine’s eyebrows shooting up over her glasses left me in hysterics. These comedic actors are as good as it gets. Jerry is sort of the necessary anchor to their wild eccentricity, and he makes the show work for that reason, preventing it from spiraling out into the cringe-y wilderness of Larry David, but it’s George all day every day for me. So, so good.

What was the best thing you watched on TV this past year?

Post-Scripts.

+Valente is so right in her observations about pessimism.

+My children love Apple TV’s “Stillwater” series — it’s all about mindfulness and working your way through your own emotions. The most beautiful messages. They also love “Helpsters,” by the makers of Sesame Street, which introduces some very basic programming concepts but is overall about the idea of thinking through problems and solutioning. Genius! Mini is big on “making a plan” since watching this show, and I love that.

+Cute $20 floral sneakers for a little one, with velcro! These remind me of the Veja x Liberty sneakers I bought mini.

+In love with these well-priced woven frames.

+This cashmere cardigan, in the perfect shade of blue — wow. This is a major investment but I lived in longline cardigans like this while pregnant and nursing — so easy to throw on over a tank and leggings to feel covered and cozy. Would be a lovely push present for yourself.

+I always get questions about these coupes when I snap them on Insta. They are one of my most favorite purchases of the last year. Drinking champagne or a cocktail out of them just makes me joyful!

+You all LOVE these ceramic garden stakes!

+Well this charging cable is clever — the weighted knot keeps your device in place.

+Pretty, floaty, and smocked.

+This $60 fireplace screen is v. attractive.

+Even more great everyday dresses to shop here.

+Seriously the cutest raincoat — that gingham lining!

+This shop has the most gorgeous colors in grosgrain ribbon. Wonderful if you need for a specific birthday, project, etc.

+If you are a fan of blue and white striped button-downs, but one something with a little pizzazz…WOW this shirt!

+Seriously cool sunglasses.

+A good price for scalloped linen placemats — four for $60. I feel like they go for much higher elsewhere.

+Cute lil floral top.

+CRAZY chic new coffee table from S&L.

+This striped PatBo dress and this stunning botanical maxi! Two great alternative options to the wedding guest dress roundup here.

+Rattan umbrella stand!

+Unexpected, stylish buffet lamps.

+More chic lighting options here!

Tis the season for al fresco dining! In one of the homes we looked at recently, the owners had white wicker patio furniture similar to the set seen above and — though I had always been drawn to Aerin’s East Hampton collection, was totally won over by the retro-leaning look! You can get a similar style with Kingsley Bate’s Chatham set or — if the wicker is too fussy for your taste — this whitewashed set from Ballard.

A couple of other amazing finds…

patio and outdoor dining finds

01. // 02. // 03. // 04. // 05. // 06. // 07. // 08. // 09. // 10. // 11.

These and more finds below…

THIS STRIPED OUTDOOR RUG (!!!!) — I AM SO IN LOVE AND CANNOT BELIEVE THE PRICE; COMES IN GREAT COLORS, BUT I’M PARTIAL TO BLUE

MELAMINE PLATES REMINISCENT OF JULISKA’S BERRY & THREAD

FUN RATTAN BOW NAPKIN RINGS

WATERPROOF, ANTI-RUST OUTDOOR SIDE TABLE TO ADD A POP OF COLOR…DID I MENTION IT’S $35?

THESE BAMBOO-AND-GLASS LANTERNS ARE SO FUN

WOVEN FLATWARE CADDYTHIS GALVANIZED METAL ONE IS ALSO CUTE

FOLDING TABLE AND CHAIRS — $110 FOR ENTIRE SET — IN GREAT COLORS

RATTAN SERVING TRAY (UNDER $30)

BAMBOO CUTLERY — ALSO LOVE LAGUIOLE’S ICE BLUE SET

LOUNGE OTTOMAN — COULD USE THIS AS A COFFEE TABLE IN A SEATING AREA WITH A TRAY ON TOP

WRAPPED PITCHER FOR $20 (!!!)

THESE SCALLOPED RATTAN CHAIRS ARE ACTUALLY DESIGNED FOR INDOORS BUT — IMAGINE STYLED AT A BREAKFAST NOOK JUST INSIDE A SCREEN DOOR TO USE WHEN THE WEATHER PERMITS

FUN PALE GREEN DINING CHAIRS

STRIPED NAPKINS — S&L MAKES SHOCKINGLY SOFT DINNER NAPKINS!!! MANY GUESTS HAVE ASKED WHERE THEY ARE FROM BECAUSE THEY ARE JUST SO PLUSH!

RATTAN LANTERN

CERAMIC GARDEN STOOL — GREAT AS AN OCCASIONAL TABLE

FLOWER-SHAPED PLACEMAT

OUTDOOR DINING CUSHIONS IN GREAT COLORSTHESE $17 NATURAL ONES ARE ALSO CHIC AND A GOOD DEAL

WELL-PRICED OUTDOOR PILLOWS: OPTION 1 AND OPTION 2

TILE-LIKE MELAMINE SERVING DISHES

P.S. More outdoor furniture and decor finds here.

P.P.S. My latest beauty reviews.

P.P.P.S. I guess my move to D.C. answered the concerns I shared in this post, about my children and their alienation from cricketsong.

My Latest Snag: J. Crew Blockprint + Smocked Dress.

I am so, so happy we are entering dress season. I am much more at home in a dress than I am jeans or pants of any kind for that matter. I just ordered this under-$120 J. Crew dress and cannot wait for it to arrive. (They had a seriously strong collection of new arrivals earlier this week.) I also just noticed that there are a few XS black Nesli nap dresses left and I think that might have to happen, too. Not usually a black gal but that looks like a dream to wear, and I have this fantastic black Furoshiki bag from Roop to pair it with…

While we’re talking dresses…please note that almost all clothing is 20% off at Anthro this weekend only if you are an AnthroPerks member (free to join). I currently have this Daphne-Wilde-esque shirtdress in my cart, and the promo includes pieces from covetable small label Hunter Bell!!! I’m swooning over this scalloped, striped top.

You’re Soooo Popular: The $28 Sweatshirt.

The most popular items on le blog this week:

+This everyday sweatshirt ($28!) — love the length for wearing over leggings.

+This classic beadboard bed.

+This Ulla-like $100 dress in a chic ecru color.

+Fun shades.

+A custom grasscloth-wrapped console at a great price. (I guess a lot of us are furniture shopping!)

+The D. Porthault-esque shirtdress I have not shut up about in the last two weeks. (Sorry, but we are all so excited about it!) The colors and details are so good.

+$15 shades reminiscent of Celine. I own these — love that you can throw them in your bag without being too stressed about them. At this stage in my life, I basically will not buy designer shades because I have scratched, crushed, and lost several pairs, and I am usually very careful with my belongings! I just find they are easy to damage!

+This stylish, sporty hooded jacket — 40% off! Buy now and be happy next fall. Think of your future self!

+Gorgeous intaglios. We seriously considered buying one of these for my MIL for mother’s day but ended up buying her one of the Hunt Slonem bunny plates with two bunnies on it, one for micro and one for mini.

+Lovely smock-detail botanical print dress for $50.

+Ultra-chic rattan-wrapped side table for $120. Looks like S&L!

+This maternity- and nursing-friendly dress at a great price! I would have bought this in a flash if I were expecting.

Weekend Musings: Radical Acceptance.

Have you watched any (or all?) of the Oscar-nominated films from this year? Mr. Magpie and I watched Nomadland on Hulu earlier this week, and Frances McDormand was resplendent in it. It’s an interesting, stirring movie that falls somewhere between documentary and fiction. After some thought, I’m not sure the narrative was best suited to a full-length feature film — I found myself wishing it were instead an eight-part documentary series trailing the lives of the characters we meet, many of whom were based on real-life individuals and performed by non-actors anyway. I feel this format would have been better-tailored to the way the film suggests themes and tends to dial in on detail (in high relief) but sort of tapers off when we are reaching for a central thesis, or denouement.

Still, there were moments that took my breath away, especially the bits in which characters explain with rawness the reasons why they have chosen to live their lives “houseless” — PTSD from war, grief over the loss of parents, a hunger to experience life in a nonconformist way. In one such scene (not spoiling anything), a character explains that he took to a nomadic life after his son took his own life. In this exchange, he lingers for a moment on the way grief can completely consume people. He pauses and says: “Some people never get out of it, and that’s OK. That’s OK.”

I was arrested by that man, by the way he modeled radical acceptance. Having witnessed several loved ones enduring unbearable grief, it is agonizing to imagine anyone permanently stuck there. But there was something in the way he seemed to look unflinchingly at the bereaved and say, “It’s OK to feel the way you are feeling, and for however long you need,” that set a new standard in my own aspirations for engaging with friends living through tough times. There is, I think, a natural (or learned) desire to turn away, or to distract, or to focus on the positive, or to set sights on the future. But to sit in radical acceptance, to put no expectations or limits on another person — that is love!

Post-Scripts: Gift for a Newly-Engaged Friend.

+Adorable gift for a newly-engaged friend.

+This under-$70 outdoor rug looks SO much like a higher end brand…LOVE.

+Fun $42 flip flop — a little more interesting than your basic flip!

+In case you don’t follow me on Insta, I shared photos of myself wearing all five of my most-worn-at-home dresses earlier this week and added one extra I neglected to mention: this $33 Amazon steal, which is so flattering and comfortable! I own it in the blue and white which seems to be low in stock as of the time of writing this post. I also love it in the solid navy!

+Another great caftan option for summer. Tres chic! Still hoping I can one day buy one of these La Vie Style House ones — an investment to be sure. (I own and LOVE this caftan!)

+In love with these raffia hoops!!!

+A great simple linen tote — I would personalize by adding my initials using these patches.

+Clever nesting patio tables.

+Roman shade dreams.

+These rose tidbit plates are so pretty! They remind me of my mother.

+Bought this stationery for mini a few months back — she loves blue.

+Heard really good things about this $8 lipstick/liner duo from Courtney Grow, whose beauty recommendations have not steered me wrong. I first learned about Westman Atelier blush (my favorite) from her nearly a year ago and she also introduced me to Living Libations cleansing oil, which I use every single morning.

+Seriously cute everyday pants as an alternative to jeans!

+You better believe I preordered this gift tags and wrapping paper set.

+Love this top-and-skirt look.

+Scalloped ceramic planters!

+OMG this dress has a zipper down the front — officially the most chic and most nursing-friendly dress I’ve come across. (And I recently rounded up a ton of cute options.)

+Just the prettiest face mask I ever did see.

+In love with this shoe in the perfect shade of blue.

+Thank you to the reader who recommended this $15 swimsuit for little ladies! Love the Minnow-esque style and simple stripes.

I have this fantastic cherry red Saloni dress from a few seasons back that I pull out every summer and it always makes me feel like a million bucks. Sadly, I think Saloni has retired the shape (the Fara), but it was more the color than the style anyhow. (Although, if you’re a fan of the label like I am, get thee to The Outnet for their latest drop of discounted Saloni. This just came in and I think has dethroned the picks in this post for my optimal FOJ look. And OMG this! A great everyday dress!)

Red is such an unexpected color for me — I tend to gravitate towards blues, whites, and pastels — but it’s an instant mood-elevator. Red is sassy and confident and eye-catching. It calls to mind a smear of lipstick, or a sip from an ice-cold coca cola bottle: the color is sensory on its own. Pair it with a wonderfully designed article of clothing, and we’re off to the races. Note to self: wear red more often.

A few of my favorite red finds this season…

red fashion finds 2021

01. // 02. // 03. // 04. // 05. // 06. // 07. // 08. // 09.

The items above and even more great finds below…

SWOONING OVER THIS $69 ORTIZ-INSPIRED FLORAL

THESE EMBROIDERED SHORTS!

ANOTHER SHOWSTOPPING SALONI

GUCCI POOL SLIDES

ADORABLE CHERRY-PRINT BLOUSE

THIS TIMELESS SHIRTDRESS IN FETCHING RED IS MARKED DOWN TO $65

RED LACOSTE HAT — IMAGINE WEARING WHILE RUNNING IN WHITE SHORTS/TANK OR PAIRING WITH A RED BIKINI

GET THE ILLESTEVA LOOK FOR $12

OKURRRR THESE KISS-PRINT SAINT LAURENTS ARE BEYOND — IS IT BECAUSE I WAS IN LOVE WITH RACHEL ZOE IN THE AUGHTS AND TEENS THAT I AM DRAWN TO A PLATFORM? I CAN’T HELP IT!

A GREAT COVERUP IN COCA COLA RED

TIERED GINGHAM SKIRT

FLORAL DROP EARRINGS

FUN WOVEN TOTE

DO I NEED THESE RED RUNNING SHOES

FOLD-UP DUFFEL – PERFECT FOR GYM OR TRAVEL

SUCH A GREAT PRINTED DRESS

NOT TO WEAR, BUT THESE RED ACRYLIC GLASSES ARE AMAZING

P.S. The three most popular items featured on my blog in 2021: these under-$50 sandals, this Target dress, and this fun stationery. Last year in early May, we all bought a flutter-sleeved white top from J. Crew very similar to this year’s style — just so easy to wear with shorts, skirts, jeans, etc. A little more interest than a basic white tee. And I love this flutter sleeve style for little ladies, too — such good colors.

P.P.S. In need of a glassware refresh? These $6 juice glasses are still my favorite glasses for everything, from a little sip of OJ in the morning to a light pour of rose in the evenings.

P.P.P.S. Sweet reunions.

Kazuo Ishiguro’s eighth novel, Klara and the Sun, imagines a not-so-distant future in which technology has displaced much of the working population, enabled children to find companionship and supervision in artificial friends (AFs) like the title character Klara, and established something of a caste system that separates individuals who are “lifted” (a sort of genetic reprogramming to optimize performance) from those who are not. It is a strange landscape made stranger by Ishiguro’s trademark timbre — one he uses in all of his novels — which sits somewhere between clinical and stiffly polite. The novel is narrated by the robot Klara, and as such, we spend a fair amount of time aiming to understand what we are seeing by sizing up Klara’s own apprehension and its limits. Klara seems to puzzle over the intricacies of human interactions, for example, sometimes misreading intentions or proclamations, though this belabored analysis reifies the complexity of the human heart and how illegible and irrational it can be. There is a point in the novel in which we learn that Klara’s owner, “The Mother,” has hatched a plan in which Klara might eventually substitute for her own daughter, Josie, a sickly girl whose death at some points in the book feels imminent. The Mother asks whether Klara can learn Josie so well that she can not only mimic her movements (apparently Josie has an unusual gait) but occupy “her heart,” too. The subtext is whether we as humans are capable of understanding our own hearts — whether the heart is knowable or not, much less performable. There are many points in the novel that pose similarly complicated, earth-shifting questions about love, identity, and even religious belief. Klara, for example, believes unquestioningly in the beneficence of the sun. We are made to believe that this might be because Klara is solar-powered, and there is a sense that perhaps her worship is unfounded or confused. In various instances in the novel, Klara communes with the sun, begging for exception and intercession on behalf of Josie — and it is impossible not to see these petitions as a permutation of or analogue for religious faith. And so we must sit with the uncomfortable parallel between a robot exalting the sun and the foundations of our own belief systems.

The book is incredible in this way — asking difficult questions in an imaginative future that is uncomfortably believable in such a way that we find ourselves face-to-face with our own identities. There are also complicated interactions with desuetude as a condition of a society driven by advanced and artificial technologies: what does it mean when technology renders entire swathes of the workforce obsolete? What does it mean when humans can genetically modify themselves, and from a socio-economic lens, who does it leave behind? (And are they actually “left behind”? What is lost or gained in the “lifting” process?) What happens when humans are able to prolong a version of their loved ones through artificial intelligence? What is gained and lost there? All of these questions sit at the foreground of our minds throughout the novel thanks to the opening vignette, in which we witness Klara and other AFs waiting to be purchased move around the floor of a showroom as newer models come onto the market. Klara is in fact relegated to the back corner of the store, not even visible from the street, when she is purchased. What would have happened to this highly observant robot had she not been picked? At the end of the novel, we see Klara retire to what seems like a robot junk yard. We are forced in these instances to think about abandonment, waste, and obsolescence as a byproduct or perhaps inevitability of technology-centric living.

All in all, I would give this book high marks as a contender for a book club conversation (a lot to unpack), and a worthy read if you are in the mood to have a big, deep think. At the same time, it was an enormous and, if I am honest, unwelcome leap from Commonwealth for me. I make no bones about it: I am drawn to character-driven books, especially ones that are tender at the bone and generous to their own casts. Ishiguro felt like a cold, unpleasant wind to Patchett’s warm, hazy breeze. Next up for me: Ruth Ware’s Lying Game (I somehow skipped this one when it was released in 2017 but have thoroughly enjoyed all of Ware’s books!) and, because I have so loved Patchett’s other novels, Bel Canto.

Beyond that, I feel so out of the loop on what’s trending in the recent publications category! I’ve seen a few people reading James Clear’s Atomic Habits on the subway in the last week, but the description doesn’t hook me: “No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving–every day. James Clear, one of the world’s leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results.”

What other new reads have captured you? What are you reading?

Post-Scripts.

+Unfussy short pajamas for little ones.

+One of my mom friends told me that her daughter asked her to “do her hair like Emory’s.” I was bowled over! So flattered! My secrets: condition with Noodle & Boo cream rinse after shampoo in the bath and then, in the morning, re-wet with water using a continuous mister and spritz with this detangler before styling. I find this brush exceptional. It is expensive (!!) but it lasts a lifetime and I feel like it’s gentle enough on her hair while also really contending with snarls. I honestly first bought it for myself without realizing it was marketed as a child’s brush, and I loved it for myself, but I eventually gave it to her because it made hair styling much easier with her. I also use this hair spray once I’ve tied her hair back back — it holds nicely without leaving hair crispy and it smells amazing. The hair spray has made a huge difference for us since she has such fine hair and always had fine strands of hair in her eyes. I usually alternate between two pigtails, a high ponytail, and a side parted half-up-half-down (the latter being my favorite to tie off with an enormous white bow, but sometimes it’s nice to really have her hair out of her face and off her shoulders — it’s quite long now!)

+What to do if you’re in a reading rut. (Check the comments.)

+Chic wicker clutch.

+Heather Taylor just launched a collaboration with West Elm full of great, classic-with-a-twist pieces, like these quilted and scalloped placemats, this gingham bath mat, these blue-and-white striped bath towels, and these throw pillows.

+Swooning over Reformation’s brand new footwear launch — trying to decide between the kitten heel mule and the flat slide in the Olympia pattern. I am leaning towards the mule because I have a lot of flat sandals and I imagining how those mules would transform any LWD.

+Avant-garde details but so fun! Would be great with a bump for a very interesting, fashion-forward piece that works while pregnant.

+Ulla Johnson vibes for under $100. More designer vibes for less here.

+Love these embroidered pillows! (More great pillows here.)

+Frilly Frog just marked a ton of current season pieces from some of my favorite childrenswear brands 25% off — just use code MAY25. I love these short pajamas sets from Lila + Hayes (silky-soft cotton), this strawberry bikini, and this gingham dress. I know a lot of you love these popover dresses from Bisby, too — 25% off!

+OMG — this Schumacher laminated tray and ice bucket! What a clever (fun!) way to introduce a high-end designer into a nook of your home, like a bar or bar cart.

+This block-print dress for a baby is precious. You can wear this $25 score for a coordinated (though not matchy-matchy) look.

+Hydrangea print blouse!

+Celia B. has such festive dresses out this season. Love this! I also love the bold and party-ready pieces from Farm Rio, like this tile-effect dress. Perfect for making your vaccinated debut out…

+And how amazing is this fish-print swimsuit?!

+Great H&M finds.

+This cardigan (or this one) feels like the perfect transitional piece to throw over sundresses until we are officially in warm weather.

+This cami dress looks so comfortable for post-shower lounging and scrolling.

+FUN ikat glasses.

+This ruffly little top!

+The brushed brass lanterns! Such great sizes!

*Image above via Chappy Wrap.

I am new to the Chappy Wrap world but apparently these bold, versatile blankets enjoy quite the cult following. The last two times I’ve stumbled upon their website, nearly all of their blankets have been sold out. I just happened to land there today and notice that they are offering 20% off select items with code SURPRISE through tonight (5/6), including the two styles I liked the most: this herringbone and this blue printed style. These blankets are appealingly machine-washable and dryable, purportedly ultra-soft, and versatile in the sense that I’ve seen them used as beach blankets and picnic throws. (And even receiving blankets for babies/snugglies for little ones, as they come in multiple sizes.)

Speaking of blankets/throws, an appealing lesser-price option for your next picnic: this style (love that it is lined in a water-resistant polyester on one side AND machine-washable — so crucial!!; comes in three great colors). If you’re a blockprint fan, you might enjoy picnicking on this beauty. (BTW: great picnic recipes here.)

Two unrelated deals you might want to know about: H&M x LemLem just launched this morning and so many pieces are already sold out in my size. I wish I had moved fast enough to snag this striped beauty! And! From 12-4 EST today, all Bella Bliss pajamas are marked down to $29.

Happy shopping!

P.S. More recent, great H&M finds here, to which list I must add this striped swimsuit. I also must alert you to the fact that Gilt is for some reason I can’t decipher offering a FREE 25% off stackable coupon to H&M.

I wrote not long ago that if last year bore the summer of the caftan, this one brings the summer of the shirtdress for me. This is my favorite style at the moment. A few of my favorite picks at all price points in the collage and even more linked below…

shirt dresses summer 2021

01 // ALEX MILL STRIPES — IMAGINE WITH THIS BAG (*CHEF’S KISS*)

02. // EVI GRINTELA DRAMA — WOW!

03. // THIERRY COLSON FLORAL — I AM OBSESSED WITH THIS BRAND; I HAVE EYED THIS STRIPED DREAM FOR AWHILE AFTER SEEING IT ON MEGAN STOKES

04 // BURU RELEASES SUCH FUN PRINTS IN THEIR LONG-LENGTH SHIRTDRESSES; LOVE THIS AMERICANA STRIPE, WHICH HAS A CHARLOTTE YORK VIBE I DIG

05 // THIS $49 SCORE READS MUCH HIGHER-END THAN IT IS — LOVE THE WIDE SASH AND WOULD BE SO FUN WITH PATTERNED SANDALS

06 // PRETTY THISTLE-PRINT FROM C.E. FINN

07 // I BOUGHT THIS EYELET MAXI IN THE WHITE BUT NOW I MIGHT GO BACK FOR THAT STUNNING BLUE

08 // TIERED DAPHNE WILDE — SO, SO ELEGANT

09 // $79 FLORAL BEAUTY

10 // STRIPED, TIERED MILLE MAGIC

11 // THIS PLEATED HEM SHIRTDRESS IS SUPER SOPHISTICATED — WOULD LOOK GREAT WITH A POINTED TOE FLAT AT WORK OR AN ON-TREND BRAIDED SLIDE ON THE WEEKENDS

12 // THIS PRINTED BLUE DRESS (ON SALE FOR UNDER $100) WOULD LOOK GREAT WITH A CONTRASTING PRINT SCARF

13 // THIS $28 STEAL IS SO CHIC WITH THOSE DRAMATIC CUFFS AND PUFFED SLEEVES

14 // ALREADY WRITTEN SO MANY TIMES ABOUT THIS DRESS, BUT THIS $114 FLORAL IS ONE OF MY FAVORITE BUYS THIS SPRING!

15 // VERSATILE CLOSET STAPLE IN WHITE OR BROWN

P.S. I’m partial to headbands with these dresses.

P.P.S. If you’re still in the market for fresh footwear for warmer weather

P.P.P.S. Wedding guest dresses. And I should say that this mother-of-the-bride dress is getting a lot of attention — a fancy shirtdress!

There are some serious winners in J. Crew’s latest batch of new arrivals:

THIS WHITE PUFF SLEEVED BLOUSE (VERY BROCK COLLECTION VIBES — I LOVE THE WAY THEY STYLED IT TUCKED INTO SHORTS!)

THIS ROLLNECK SWEATER (SEEN ABOVE) — I WOULD SIZE UP TO WEAR A LITTLE LOOSE AND SLOUCHY WITH SHORTS AS WE HEAD TOWARDS SUMMER, BUT ALSO LIKE THE WAY THEY STYLED IT!

THESE FUN LIBERTY SHORTS (WITH A WHITE TANK, SO EASY AND CHIC FOR CHASING CHILDREN THIS SUMMER!)

THIS PERFECT BLUSH RAIN COAT (I HAVE THIS IN MY CART – HAD BEEN WANTING TO BUY A NEW ONE FOR AWHILE, WAS DEBATING INVESTING IN A STUTTERHEIM, BUT THIS ONE HAS TO HAPPEN)

THIS PEBBLED CROSSBODY — SWAP OUT THE STRAP FOR ONE OF THESE INEXPENSIVE GUCCI-ESQUE WEBBING STRIPED STYLES (I OWN AND USE FOR ONE OF MY CROSSBODIES!)

FINALLY, THIS FLORAL DRESS — LOVE LOVE LOVE…I USUALLY WAIT FOR A PROMOTION BUT I JUST HAD TO HAVE THIS AT FULL PRICE AS I KNOW IT WILL SELL OUT IN MY SIZE

P.S. A weird poem I like and musings on pessimism.

P.P.S. Target run!

*Image above via Tracksmith. They make exceptional running gear.

I got into running every other morning last August, and it took until sometime this spring for me to really hit my stride. The routes that used to be excruciatingly difficult — the ones I’d save for mornings where I felt energized and strong — are now handily accomplished. Running is interesting in that way: it reveals both the frailty and strength of the human body. On the one hand, I feel absolutely charged running up the final (steep!) ascent on one of my routine routes, as I always think to myself: “This part used to totally kill me, and I can do this now, and with strength.” On the other hand, I am more consistently aware of my body and its aches and pains now, as it is far more common for me to limp around on sore legs or massage my aching calves. I’m sure this is true of all fitness regimens: they require an attentive return to the body. Running settles me into my own physicality, roots me in it. I like the way it feels.

A couple of recent fitness finds to power through our early summer exercise routines…

I LOVE THESE SHORTS, THOUGH I WOULD SIZE UP ONE SIZE — I TOOK THE SIZE I USUALLY WEAR IN LULU AND FOUND THAT THEY RAN A TINY BIT SNUGGER THAN I WOULD LIKE

I HAVE HAD GOOD LUCK WITH THE WELL-PRICED LOOSE-FIT TANKS FROM TARGET, AND THIS ONE COMES IN GREAT COLORS

I’M INTRIGUED BY THESE ON CLOUDNOVA SNEAKERS (THIS IS A LIMITED EDITION RELEASE FROM THE BRAND DESCRIBED AS “FUSING ELITE-LEVEL RUNNING TECHNOLOGY WITH A STREET-READY SILHOUETTE”)

THESE $30 RUNNING SHORTS COME IN SOME GREAT COLORS

I ALSO HAVE AND LOVE A COUPLE OF THE FORM-FITTED SWIFTLY TECH TOPS IN SS AND SLEEVELESS FROM LULU

MY FAVORITE SPORTS BRAS: THESE FROM SPLITS 59 AND THESE CROPPED TANKS FROM BEYOND YOGA (MORE ON SALE HERE), WHICH ARE SO, SO SOFT

BUT I LOVE THE LOOK OF THIS $25 SPORTS BRA AND JUST ORDERED IN BOTH THE NAVY STRIPE AND THE ROSE BUSH PINK

FITTED ATHLETIC BOMBER

LOVE THE WAISTBAND NIKE LOGO ON THESE JUST-RESTOCKED SHORTS

THESE NIKE SHOES COME IN FANTASTIC COLOR COMBOS

SO INTO THE COLOR OF THESE LEGGINGS AND THIS MATCHING BRA

ADORE THIS FITTED JACKET FOR COOLER MORNINGS, WHICH BOASTS SUN PROTECTION!

STILL MY FAVORITE RUNNING SOCKS OF ALL TIME — ETERNAL THANKS TO THE READER WHO RECOMMENDED THIS BRAND!

I LOVE THIS LACOSTE HAT IN WHITE FOR RUNNING THIS SUMMER

BELT BAG FOR RUNNING

GREAT LIGHTWEIGHT COAT FOR THROWING ON OVER TENNIS / GOLF / YOGA GEAR

ON MY RUNNING MORNINGS, I JUST ORDERED THIS TO APPLY TO MY CLEAN, MOISTURIZED SKIN — SPF AND A TINY BIT OF A GLOW

STILL OBSESSED WITH USING THESE FACE WIPES POST-RUN

THESE ADIDAS RUNNING SHOES ARE SO COOL

TENNIS/FITNESS SKORT

I HAVE SEEN A TON OF WOMEN WEARING THESE NEW BALANCE RUNNING SHORTS IN THE PARK — THEY MUST BE GOOD?

I OWN AND LOVE THESE FROM TRACKSMITH — THEY ARE JUST A TINY BIT LONG ON MY FRAME, THOUGH, AND I THINK I WILL ORDER A PAIR OF THESE TO TEST, TOO

P.S. On achieving “flow” in running and musings on one of the songs on my running playlist.

P.P.S. Some tennis and golf outfit ideas in this post!

P.P.P.S. You are enough.

I came across these words the other day:

things must end to begin again

Useful words in a moment of transition, and a Mary Oliver-like nudge to attend to the patterns of nature when in doubt. Whether you are starting a new job, ending a relationship, moving, retiring, putting your out-of-home career on hold to look after children (or vice versa), many of us are stepping through a lintel, from one room to the next. Writing that sentence makes me realize that though I think a lot about transitions (like, a lot a lot) and how I can design my life to ease my way through them, I don’t often think of them in terms of endings and beginnings anymore. Bearing witness to the unyielding chain of firsts and lasts in my two young children has made me more attentive to change as a continuous condition rather than a staccato string of doors opening and closing. Life is more fluid than that. Even abrupt changes, understood a couple of months out, seem more like legato symphonic gestures than sharp drum beats. Besides, my children leave me prone to optimism for the unexpected future. As an example: I miss the newborn days, but how deliciously and unexpectedly satisfying to sustain a full 24 minutes of conversation with my curious and creative four-year-old on the way to school every other morning? How curious to think that I made that tiny human, that she is forever a part of me, but that she is also a force unto herself, with sharp observations and a passion for the color blue and an earnest sweetness I have never witnessed — never, not ever! — in a fellow human before. On Saturday, she plucked one prized M&M from a sweaty palmful of five to give to her whimpering, pilfering younger brother. I know myself well enough to realize I would not have shared an M&M with any of my siblings at that age, when treats are sparing and esteemed. All to say: my children remind me that the future can be a beautifully bright surprise. The apparition of each new stage is not so much a door closing as a movement between rooms.

Mid-writing this little musing, I came across a quote from an entrepreneur with several young children who was asked how and when she decided to have children in the context of her straining career. She replied: “I have found that every new day is more complicated than the last. Today is the least complicated day. Don’t put your life on hold for easier times — they likely won’t come.” On the one hand, I agree profoundly with the premise that there is no “perfect” time to have children, and that it is a risky and often losing proposition to “put your life on hold” for some imagined future state. (Let it be noted, however, that I am so firmly in the camp of “a bird in the hand is better than two in the bush” that Mr. Magpie teases me about my overuse of the phrase. I am, in other words, a cautious tearaway and will often jump on an opportunity for fear that no future one will materialize.) On the other hand, I don’t agree that life must be an inexorable sink into complication. I feel as though the last two years have represented an ironing-out in many ways for me — professionally, creatively, and certainly as a family unit. I feel much more oriented and stable than I did in my 20s and early 30s and especially as a brand new mom. Learning to own my parenting style and relax into my experience with motherhood has simplified — decluttered — things tremendously for me.

A few years ago, a Magpie advised me to make a decision, and then go boldly into it. These words have proven a north star when I am feeling queasy about change. I let myself linger for a minute on the past, I permit myself to fret for a minute about the unknowns of the future, and then I remind myself to go boldly and remain receptive to the possibility of great surprise.

Post-Scripts.

+ICYMI: we are moving to D.C.

+But I will miss New York. I have nothing but gratitude for our time here.

+How I feel about my hometown.

+I learned the intense way back in my mid-20s that moves can be highly stressful. Taking care of myself this go around.

+The sense of an ending.

Shopping Break.

+This maxi dress is right up my alley and comes in three great prints. Definitely hits all of my standards for highly-worn at-home dresses.

+On that note: SZ Blockprints caftans restocked! I think I slightly prefer the length of that Kitty style but I also have the Jaipur style, which is a great beach coverup.

+Similar vibe: this dress sold out during the Shopbop sale but is back in a few sizes!

+Love this Matouk print.

+WOW, this rug!

+I think I mentioned in my post on Hill’s imminent second birthday that we would like to buy him a piggy bank — mini has one that she has loved depositing coins into forever. I’m torn between these Scandi-cute styles in elephant and pig and this silver-plated race-car shaped one.

+I need this pearl clutch.

+I’m imagining a cheerful lawn party with these.

+My backyard furniture post was prescient — fingers crossed, will soon be in the market for my own sets!

+The happiest little date night top (under $100).

+I’ve mentioned these a few times, but I feel like these linen pants would be so easy to wear with espadrilles, sneakers, or Hermes Oran sandals and a white tank for a no-brainer, comfortable, weekend look.

+A new crop of gorgeous printed Agua Benditas, including this bird-motif maxi (swoon) and this tile-effect swimsuit (the turtles!)

+This platter is just calling out for a whole-roasted fish to present!

+The Daphne Wilde look for less. (The D.W. is on my wishlist for this spring!)

+Seriously cute $129 shoes.

+Amazing ceramic garden markers.

+These tortoise shades are not for the faint of heart but VERY on-trend.

+I literally cannot stop wanting to buy every blue-and-white shirtdress I lay eyes on. This one is SO good!

+This sunhat is absolutely gorgeous. (Your little one can twin!)

Every season, Gap puts out a couple of standout scores. Earlier this spring, I bought the exact outfit above for micro, from the navy gingham shirt to the white jeans. I have been pairing the look with his tiny boat shoes (genius because the top of the shoe is a hidden velcro closure, meaning it is a breeze to put on!), but the Vans are so adorable, too, and I might take a cue from Gap’s stylist and finish the look with his red Keds.

A few other great pieces:

THESE SCALLOPED CHAMBRAY SHORTS ARE BACK IN STOCK!

GREAT SUMMER JAMMIES FOR BOYS AND GIRLS

ALSO LOVE THESE STRIPED JAMMIES FOR OLDER GIRLS

PERFECT EYELET TRIM TEES FOR LITTLE LADIES TO PAIR WITH SHORTS

ADORE THIS TERRY SHORTS SET FOR A TODDLER

CUTE GINGHAM ONE-PIECE — MINNOW-ESQUE IN STYLE

MY CHILDREN HAVE OWNED THIS CLASSIC RAINSLICKER IN A FEW SIZES — GREAT QUALITY, CLASSIC STYLE; THE PETIT BATEAU LOOK FOR LESS!

AN UNFUSSY SHORTS SET FOR A BABY BOY OR GIRL — I LOVE SETS LIKE THIS FOR NAPTIME

DARLING DRESS FOR AN OLDER GIRL

And of course we can’t miss out on the opportunity to throw something for ourselves in the cart — this swimsuit in the black or navy and white stripe are timeless and have a Solid & Striped flair to them. And I love this red, white, and blue stripe blouse! Another contender for Memorial Day!

P.S. J. Crew’s popular cottage dress now comes in a Liberty floral!

P.P.S. Since sharing my laundry favorites a few months ago, I have made two changes: first, I started using powdered Tide detergent at the suggestion of many Magpies and you all were correct: this formula is much better at getting out stains! However, because of the current configuration of our laundry (a nook off the kitchen), I couldn’t leave the detergent box as-is since my children routinely bump into that area and I had nightmare visions of them knocking the entire box of powdered detergent all over themselves and the floor, as the box does not re-seal after opened. Funny — a lot of women must have had the same issue or reservation because I found two great storage options that come with scoops that conveniently hang off the side: this one and this one. I know it’s minor but I love the scoop off the side so you aren’t digging your fingers into the detergent! Second, I started using this starch spray and WOW. It is absolutely incredible. It is pricey but amazing!

P.P.P.S. My favorite warm weather shoes for little ones.

Are you heading to the beach for Memorial Day or any of the weekends in early summer? I shared some patriotic-leaning finds to celebrate the Fourth and Memorial Day on Sunday and some swim picks a few weeks ago, but a couple of other pretty picks…

beach vacation packing list

01. // 02. // 03. // 04. // 05. // 06. // 07. // 08. // 09. // 10.

So many chic beach finds!

SIMPLE JELLY SLIDES THAT GO FROM POOLSIDE TO DINNER IN A SNAP

JUST THE PRETTIEST ONE-PIECE (TWIN WITH YOUR MINI ME)

FUN BEACH TOTE ($139 — COMES IN LOTS OF DIFFERENT VARIATIONS, LIKE THIS ONE FOR ST. BARTHS)

SEASHELL EARRINGS (ALSO LOVE THESE) — PAIR WITH A SIMPLE LWD AND A LOW BUN AND YOU’RE READY FOR DINNER

LOVE THE IDEA OF WEARING A LIGHTWEIGHT SKIRT, LINEN PANTS, OR LINEN SHORTS WITH A SWIMSUIT IF HEADING TO LUNCH STRAIGHT FROM THE SAND

THESE WEAR-WITH-EVERYTHING RATTAN DROPS

BREEZY DAY CAFTANS/COVER-UPS LIKE THIS LEM LEM, THIS XIRENA, THIS JULIET DUNN, OR THIS SCALLOPED STYLE

FUN CHUNKY SUNGLASSES/MASK CHAIN — I HAVE THIS! — TO PAIR WITH YOUR CHIC SHADES (LOVE THESE INEXPENSIVE MINT GREEN ONES)

NOT A FLIP-FLOP GAL, BUT THESE ARE MY GO-TOS AT THE BEACH — THEY ARE SURPRISINGLY STURDY; I’VE HAD A PAIR FOR A DECADE AT THIS POINT AND THEY STILL LOOK GREAT, ESP GIVEN THAT THEY ARE OFTEN WORN IN SAND!

A COUPLE FUN BUT BEACHY EVENING-OUT DRESSES, LIKE THIS DAMARIS BAILEY, THIS RIXO, THIS MIRTH, AND THIS FAITHFULL DREAM

ALL OF WHICH WOULD BE PERFECT WITH THIS BEYOND-ADORABLE PAM MUNSON SEASHELL CLUTCH

THIS $30 SWIMSUIT IS AMAZING

IF YOU ARE A HEELS GAL, I LOVE THIS EYE-CATCHING OPTION FROM CULT GAIA AND THESE BOTTEGA-LIKE MULES, BOTH OF WHICH ARE SUPER VERSATILE

INDIA AMORY PAREO

Love the idea of keeping makeup simple, with this “glowscreen” (illuminating SPF!), my favorite blush stick (doubles as lipstick), mascara, and a beachy scent.

P.S. Don’t forget a good beach read and my secret to low-stress travel: packing cubes.

P.P.S. European pharmacy favorites worth the hype.

P.P.P.S. I regret not traveling more before children!