My Latest Score: The Thickening Spray.
I had my hair cut and colored recently and can’t say I’m thrilled with the hair style — the stylist majorly “thinned out” (well, in her euphemistic words: “took some of the bulk out of”) the back of my hair and I feel like I have approx. three strands left. It’s just too edgy for me. I think I crossed the line from Kate Mara to Kate Moss territory (aka purposefully beachy >> unwashed and bedraggled) and it just doesn’t feel like me anymore. But, it’s hair. It grows back. And it can also always go up into a convenient bun. I’ll ride the edgy wave for the next few months and then I might go back to a more straight-forward/blunt haircut. I recently saw a picture of myself back when I got married — before I’d ever highlighted my hair or thought about wearing it wavy, and I liked what I saw. I can pull off blonder highlights but my natural dark brown hair suits my coloring best. And, at one point, I had this great set of French girl bangs somewhat similar to the photo above. LOVE. Maybe I’ll re-do?
In the meantime, I’m using a lot of this volumizing thickening spray ($30), which I mist on while my hair is still wet. Once dry, I use this finishing spray, which I’ve raved about for a long while. Basically, I need as much lift and volume as I can get…
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#Turbothot: The Bro Book Club.
At a recent event, Mr. Magpie and I found ourselves chatting with a very sharp gentleman in his 20s. Over the course of the evening, our conversation turned to books, and he mentioned that he facilitates–in his words–“a bro book club.” He went on to say that they recently came upon the unsettling discovery that they’d not read a single book by a female author, and intended to rectify the situation. “So, what should we read?” he asked.
My first thought was a classic by Austen or one of the Brontes — but then I decided that those can be polarizing; some find the old-fashioned diction tedious and impossible to get through, and those unaccustomed to close readings might write off the domestic subject matter as less important and powerful than it actually is. I decided that their first encounter with a female author should be more contemporary. I mentally scrolled through my list of the best books I’ve read in the past 10 years, and cherry-picked the ones written by female authors. The first that came to mind was Girls by Emma Cline. I felt that it was sufficiently juicy and plot-driven to engage even the most bro-y of bros, but with enough meat on the bone to really sink into. (I still maintain that she is one of the most talented new writers of our generation, from a purely aesthetic standpoint — the pastiche of language! her diction! it’s perfection!).
Afterwards, I thought of about 34 other books I’d recommend — The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy, The Interpreter of Maladies by Jhumpa Lahiri, JOAN DIDION BY GOD (!!!!) I also had the churlish thought that maybe I should suggest Men Explain Things to Me but then I didn’t want to seem abrasive or smug.
What would you have suggested?
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Baaangs! I’ve had “French girl” bangs twice – once in 2011 and again in 2017. I’m in the process of growing them out again, and it’s a royal P.I.T.A. But I liked them when I had them! And as you said, it’s only hair.
Bro book club – haha! I echo Alison on Just Kids … loved that book so much. I think The Girls is also a great one to recommend. Otherwise, I’d say anything by Jhumpa Lahiri (I most recently read The Lowland) and maybe The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P. … I didn’t love that book at all (maybe 2.5 stars out of 5?) but I think it would foster interesting conversation among ‘bros’. 🙂
Totally — the growing-out stage with bangs is brutal. 100% agree on Jhumpa Lahiri — she’s BOSS!
I recently found a magical hair tool that tames my super thick naturally curly/crazy/frizzy hair and makes it really lovely and manageable and one of my very first thoughts was, “I could get bangs now!” I don’t have much of a forehead so still probably ill-advised, but they are just sort of alluring. Maybe…
The challenge of suggesting a female author for the bros is fun, I’ve been thinking about it while tackling my Saturday chores. I keep coming back to Just Kids. Patti is just such a good writer, her stories are fascinating but still relatable, and I think it is an important account of when New York really was cool and bohemian and a place for artists and dreamers. I feel like dapper 20 somethings probably need to know about that version of NYC 🙂
ALISON! What’s the magical hair tool?!?!!? TELL ME. Also, try bangs!!! I can’t remember who it was, but some famous hair stylist once said: “Every woman should go platinum blond at some point in her life.” I’ll never go platinum, but the ethos remains: if there’s something haunting you, give it a go.
Yes — Just Kids is a solid pick; I think that her rockstar status would be interesting to the bro set, and for the other reasons you cite! xoxo
Re the book club: The Goldfinch and On Beauty are recent reads I’d recommend to bros and brunhildes alike. The former has a Dickensian scope, semi-modernized — post-9/11 NYC and Vegas, loads of drugs and unsavory characters, but also art history and antique restoration and a magical quality to it. The latter is almost a satire of American liberal arts colleges–their professors and students and politics–but because it’s Zadie Smith, it’s so much more: a rich portrait of a biracial, multinational family, a study of love and marriage, a coming of age story and a story of coming to terms with aging. And it’s wickedly funny, without being cruel.
Claire! Would you believe me if I said I haven’t read either of these? My bestie insists The Goldfinch is a must-read and was the FIRST book she suggested when I told her about the bro book club inquiry! So funny. Also, what an incredible way to describe a book — you sold me on it!
And I need to read that On Beauty book!
I loved my bangs and wore them for years. The constant need for trims (which I never quite mastered myself) caused me to grow them out. But like you said, it’s only hair!
YES! You’re encouraging me, Bente…
You’re reading my mind! The past week I’ve been struck by the need for 70s style curtain bangs a la Bridget Bardot. I’ve gained a lot of confidence in the past year wearing trendy pieces and styles that speak boldly to me. But am I ready to do the same with my hair?! The answer will have to be yes; my New Year’s intention is to think less, research less, create/ACT more!
And you’re right – worse case scenario they can always be pinned back.
Do it!!! You got this! I love your resolution — sounds like we’re on a similar page. Go boldly, girl!