I recently received the loveliest note from a Magpie.
“I’m a noticer/feeler with words constantly swirling in my head,” she wrote. “I so want to be able to put those thoughts and feelings on paper as you do. I know I need to just begin somewhere, but I stall out.” She ended with a solicitation for my advice.
I wrote back volubly, compulsively — I have so much to say on this matter.
First: this seems to be in part an issue of creative confidence. I used to have my team members watch this video on building creative confidence by David Kelley, the founder of celebrated design firm IDEO. The TL;DR is that we are all inherently creative. It is part of the human condition. Somewhere in childhood, we begin to think that doodling and coloring are juvenile, and often, our creative appetites curb, or stall, or otherwise retreat. I think that being “creative” can make us feel vulnerable, or silly, or frivolous. But we were born to tell stories, and I use that phrase loosely — we can tell stories in the way we design our days, the way we style our hair, the way we knit our scarves. Cavemen etched on walls for a reason. The creative impulse is there — tap into it.
In his video, Kelley acknowledges that some of us fear failure when we undertake a creative endeavor. He proposes continuous exposure as a prophylactic. I completely agree, and this is where I really hit the gas pedal in my response to the Magpie note:
Start with something low-stakes. The thought of sitting down to “write a novel” or even “write an essay” scares me, and I write for a living. I find that medium matters here. I am most at home typing into the WordPress visual editor. It gives me the impression of impermanence, fungibility. If I don’t like what I write — eh, well. It can sit in drafts into eternity, or I can delete it. For some reason, writing in Microsoft Word is far more daunting to me. It feels overly formal. It’s like the tuxedo of writing tools — at least for me. The point is to find some medium that feels comfortable, draft-like, low-stakes to you. That could be a plain sheet of computer paper. A gridded notebook. A leather-bound journal. It might in fact be Microsoft Word. I do some drafting by hand — especially when I am massaging a particular passage or phrase — but I tend to find writing on a computer keeps better pace with the flow of my thoughts.
Once you’ve found a non-threatening medium, remind yourself that you do not owe this moment of self-expression to anyone but yourself. You are not writing for audience or acclaim. You are writing to let feelings run dry on paper. This is a no judgment zone. I know next to nothing about the quality of my own writing, but I can tell you that by writing voluminously, daily, I have found it increasingly easy to express myself in language that I believe is accurate to my own experience. Any “success” in writing — by which I mean any instance in which my phrasing has resonated meaningfully with a reader — has only happened by virtue of continuous exposure to the practice. It is a process thing. I focus on the feeling of language in my hands, cultivate my own idiosyncratic revision strategies, examined what I enjoy writing versus do not. (Dialogue is so, so hard. I dread it.)
And — keep at it! Every day. A little bit more. I’ve written elsewhere that you will not always be inspired, so you must learn to be disciplined. Write when you feel like it, and write when you don’t.
If you are writing with the goal of self-discovery (“I write to know what I think!”), a few solid journaling prompts:
“What is the most important thing?” This is a moveable feast. I find my answer to this question can change by hour, or, sometimes, stay the same.
“A thought pattern I would like to release is…”
“When I am most joyous, I look like…”
A key for me is getting gritty with the details. One of my favorite creative writing “jump starts”: capture a specific memory in exacting detail. I will strain to remember the colors of cushions, the sound of feet on pavement. This relates in part to a widely-known tenet of good creative writing (one of the few sagacities I took with me from that weird creative writing class I took in college): “show, don’t tell.” Good writing observes. Details are the aperture.
I am reminded, as I draw this prolix disquisition to a close, of two of my favorite quotes: “The harder I work, the more luck I seem to have” and “Begin as you mean to continue.” I hope you feel the same driving energy I do when I read those words. I know it is easier said than done, but — Go! Start! Onward! You are creative, you have everything you need to succeed, and — off we go!
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