*Image above via Jo Rodgers.
Earlier this summer, I shared a quote: “It is not necessary to react to everything we notice.” This has both inbound and outbound benefits. On the former: we conserve our energy for the things that matter to us; on the latter: sometimes (often times?) our loosely-offered opinions are uninvited, superfluous, even unintentionally wounding.
I’ve noticed something as I’ve called on this quote over the past few weeks. Oftentimes, my reaction to something wanes in intensity, changes course, or renders itself moot over a short period of time, and I regret the fervency of my immediate response. Why did I care so much? Why did I come out in bold all-caps?
Write in soft pencil, I remind myself. Not everything — in fact, only the scarce sacrosanct — deserves copperplate engraving.
This is not to say I cannot feel intensely and authentically, but that I must take care to when translating.
Because it is OK — likely — that I will change my mind, and I’d prefer the latitude to erase and try again, to write over my own penmanship without the stain of ink.
It is OK to not feel firmly about everything. Multiple things can be true at once.
There are situations that call for permanent ink, and others for pliable lead.
Post-Script.
+”Who are the five women you’d like to be the average of?”
+A woman contains multitudes.
+What superpower would you want?
Shopping Break.
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+I’m just beginning to look for his bedding — I absolutely love this duvet cover but the price is giving me pause (he’s five; this will be stained), so might do this striped duvet (about 1/2 the price) and pair with fun contrasting sheets like these stars, this space set, or these boats.
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+Negative just launched really fun flared pointelle lounge pants. I can’t explain my obsession with these? I also LOVE and live in their whipped lounge pants. The GOAT. And their whipped bralettes are among our favorite undergarments.
+Hill House released a pre-fall collection last week — did my HHH girlies get anything? I love the tie shoulders on this dress.
+Niche, but – we’ve lost power a few times this summer, and my husband researched the best flashlights/lanterns/lamps, and this brand Sofirn came up over and over again. We bought a bunch of their lanterns and lamps and they are incredible! When our power went out during storm Debbie, a single one of these could light an entire room (and then some).
+This chic dress from Tory Burch just went on sale. I’m obsessed – wish it hadn’t sold out in my size.
+A perfect chunky wool knit in a great neutral color. Under $150.
+Another cool take on the cord collar barn coat trend.
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+Hamptons sweatshirt!